So annoyed!!

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ChasingTheDream

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Don't get me wrong, I love my yard, but there are some people who wind me up! :mad:

My horse isn't even 4 yet, and is in very light work, I am just aiming to build up his confidence. However, the last two days, when I get on him, he's flown into a rage, and starting bucking. I've briefly checked his back, and it seems tender, and YO had a look and she agrees, so I am getting the back man out to have a look, but until then Blade is just enjoying chilling in the field.

However, one particular person on my yard has it in for me; she thinks he's just being naughty, and should be worked harder. - fair enough, you might think, but in my eyes, he's only a baby, and I want to do things my way.

I do not want to strap his head in position using various gadgets.
I do not want to canter him round and round the arena until he sweats like hell.
I do not want to be jumping 3'3 on him right now. :rolleyes:

I want to get a bond with my horse, bring him on gently, and create a willing, responsive horse. :)

I am sick to death of this particular person always having digs at me, because I am younger. She says Blade doesnt have anything wrong with him, and needs "proper" work, which may be the case, but I want to get him checked over, and make sure he is not in any pysical pain as it is so out of character for him.

Also YO told me this morning that she thinks said person has been trotting my horse up and down to see if he is lame. :eek: He is not, btw. he is fully sound, but just tender on his back and his stride seems more stilted than usual, there is something wrong - I know it. But the cheek of someone taking my horse out his stable without my permission really annoys me....I'd never do that to anyones horse without their permission, :mad: - YO has said she will keep an eye out tomorrow and confront them if they do it again.

But I am sick of it. What I cant understand is - he is my horse. he is only young. it is doing him no harm having a couple of weeks off. so what is her problem?

Why does she feel she has the right to comment on eveerything I do with my horse? :(

Am I over-reacting? :o It's really got to me, by all means she is allowed her opinion, but I just feel she is too involved with something, that really is none of her business....


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Jeez - I'd be FUMING!!!!! Keep on doing what you're doing, your way - it's nobody else's business (and for what it's worth, it sounds like you've got the right idea to me).
Maybe get your YO to have a word - though they shouldn't be ok with someone getting another liveries horse out of it's stable without consent anyway!!

Bottom line she has NO right, and no you're not overreacting!!! Hope your horse gets sorted soon..... :-)
 
She is allowed her opinion... agreed. When voicing said opinion this should not involve touching or just helping herself to your horse. Tell her to get stuffed!

No way are you over reacting. If it carries on YO needs to make it clear that other liveries should not and do not have permission to help themselves to other's horses except with consent....

Some people!!
 
Thanks; its nice to know Im not the only one who thinks its out of order... :)

If I see her handling him I am going to say something, like I said earlier, I'd never handle anyone's horse without their permission...

Oh humm... the joys of horses eh? :rolleyes: its the people who come with them that cause the problems :p
 
You are NOT over reacting. I would be just as upset, how dare she!
Definately have a word with YO and the girl in question if you can.
Do you think she is jealous of you and your horse?
 
oh god! i would go ballistic if a livery like that took out my horse. i think id get the yo to get her a warning.
 
i have friends that have had the same problem... sadly it seems common.

it is your horse and you are paying for the right to use the stables and so is she. therefore as you know about his back she should just keep out of your business.
 
"Also YO told me this morning that she thinks said person has been trotting my horse up and down to see if he is lame"

Firstly before going off at the deep end with this person... does the YO "Think" or "Know" said person has been trotting your horse up and down... did she 'see' it or 'hear it from someone else'... Not being picky but you said the yard owner THINKS said person has been trotting your horse up and down. She either knows this for sure or doesn't and its second hand info, in which case you need to speak to the person who saw her do it.

Only reason is because going in at the deep end with someone could create a more uncomfortable atmosphere than what you already have with said person. There is ALWAYS sticky beak who know's best on every yard out there and I think we have all come across one in our lives at some point and it can totally spoil and take the enjoyment out of owning horses when you sadly come across one of these "Know it all people"

But I would just double check with the YO exactly what she knows and SAW herself... and if said person did trot your horse up and down, then you need to confront her.

For all she knows your horse could be on total box rest due to an injury which you are already dealing with and in all honesty could of caused further damage had that been the case.
 
She sounds jealous to me. I would be beyond furious if anyone dared to lay their hands on my horses without my permission. If your YO sees her doing this with her own eyes then she needs to step in, otherwise it is just speculation until confirmed.

Some people just will not recognise that horses need to have time to be babies, to mature physically and mentally and to start their ridden life in a gentle way. Just as you are doing with your horse. Just think if he was in her hands and not yours - poor lad would end up as one of these horses going from pillar to post with "behavoural issues" potentially, when actually he is just saying ouch Mum I'm a bit sore. Good job he belongs to a lovely owner like you.

Keep us posted when the back person has been, does sound like there is something going on with his back or possibly his saddle if he's changing shape as he grows and begins work?
 
I'm angry for you!!! I'm afraid I'd have been straight over there and had it out with this woman...no one has any right to touch your horse without your permission!!!:mad::mad: I will let anyone use my van, use my lorry, use my milk in the fridge...but touch ANY of my animals and I will explode!!! How bloody rude of her!!!

You are a much calmer person than me obviously but it does need addressing.
 
someone at my yard constantly digs about my mares behaviuor,shes very talented but as always,very cheeky! Her behaviour doesnt bother me in the slightest cause she works through it she's jst happy and she can be a pain to handle,this one person is trying her hardest to make me worry about it,telling me she's horrible,nasty! I put it down to jealousy,probably the problem in your case too
 
One of my pet hates is people bullying young or inexperienced horses and I am completely in agreeement with your approach. Unfortunately I am totally useless at diplomacy in situations like this, I would either say nothing, or when I get pushed too far TOTALLY GO MENTAL!!!! I would be tempted to tell her to leave you and your horse alone. If you want her opinion-you will seek it!
 
your not over reacting. i think your under reacting! if someone took my horse out of its stable unautorised, i wouldnt be waiting until i saw it happen, id be telling her where to shove her stupid comments and tell her never to touch my horse again.
 
I am not surprised you are angry, I would be absolutely furious! Flipping busybody - stick to your guns and tell her to mind her own!
 
Grrggh - how rude is that? What is it with people thinking at 4 they should be at Badminton!!!! At my yard (which sounds very different) i am reminded (when things are not going to plan) that my boy is only rising 6 and not done much! So if my 6 year old has to be treated as a younster then a 4 your old def does. DO NOT be rushed into anything. Tell her to go stick her pipe somewhere else does. (Do make sure you have your facts right though as mentioned above).
Hope it gets sorted and you have lots of lovely times with your horse xx
 
Hi, I think you have every right to be annoyed. I would be fuming if I found out somebody had been trotting one of my horses up and down without my permission. :mad: I also think you are doing the right thing bringing him on slowly and not rushing him - I am a big fan of producing horses slowly. I currently have a young mare myself to being on and sell on. She is a six year old but has the experience of a four year old and obviously hasn't been handled well as a youngster. Somebody asked me the other day what my 'time frame' was for schooling her to which I replied, 'I don't have one - it will take as long as it takes!'. They seemed a bit shocked but I think if you spend plenty of time getting the basics in place, you will have a much more confident and happy horse in the long run than one that has been pushed on too early. :)
 
I would be pretty annoyed too. Rude woman. Why is it that stupid people always shout loudest ?
You sound pretty sensible, so stay that way and don't allow Sticky Beak (great name BTW ) to influence you in any way.
 
It sounds as though your YO is on the case - and on your side, so wait until she has proof that she did take your horse out - at the moment its just heresay... Could you mention to your YO that you are getting a lot of "unwanted input" from this lady, which is making your time at the yard stressful. I would want to know if any of my liveries were feeling fed up (when I had liveries!) Perhaps she would then tell this lady to respect other liveries, regardless of their age.

By the way, I think you're doing the right things with your youngster...
 
Thanks everyone; YO saw lady trotting up a horse and went down immediatley but all horses were in the stable. YO asked woman and she said she was trotting up her horse, but YO is 99% it was Blade, as they are both different shades of bay (Blade looks almost black atm)

Im going up really early in the hope of catching her in the act and then I will say something.

Thanks for all the support; at the end of the day - Whats the rush? As far as Im concerned his mine for life, and I'd rather have a horse who is rideable for his life, and take things slowly, than rush things and end up with a four year old out of action.

To those ofyou with young horses, good luck! :D i think more youngsters need to be brought on slowly, and lovingly rather than rushed...

I'll keep you all update ;) no doubt there will be another installment tomorrow :rolleyes:
 
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