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FB and insta are commonly used in the equestrian community. I have a instagram and FB account (once went into 'tiktok' for a few months but didn't really interest me). I have a real problem with instagram, everyone posting 'edits' of their rides or competitions and just focusing on the height etc etc. Shouldn't we just be focusing on our horses instead of being obsessed with looking the best and showing every single aspect of your life on your page?? Also find it doesn't have the best effect on me. WWYD?? Any thoughts and opinions down below
 
I think if you know most people post the highlights on FB / Instagram Etc it shouldn’t bother you, as it doesn’t mean same people don’t have lows.

The private moments bonding with your horse / when the wicker at you ARE as important but aren’t massively shareable. Far more important to enjoy the moment.

it’s pretty obvious and sad if someone is for ever dressing up / posing set up pictures on Instagram/ FB but makes me pity them. Doesn’t mean their real life is all sunshine and roses, often the opposite.

On the other hand if someone’s beautified a horse for a show, why not share the pretty pictures with friends on social media Etc.
 
If it's not having a good effect on you, delete it.

I have a public instagram where I post an occasional hacking video or show off some new matchy-matchy or if I've done something fun, but basically ignore it. I burble to my friends on (locked) twitter and FB about what we've been up to. My friends do the same.

My focus is very much on the social side of social media. I follow friends, rather than "influencers", and my social media experience is far more pleasant as a result.
 
I think everyone can post what they want to post. I don’t think there should be a pressure to only post the positives or always look your best.

My instagram is public, but honestly it was started because most of my FB friends aren’t horsey, and I didn’t want to inundate them with horse photos. So it’s mostly for anyone who is interested to keep up with what we are doing, and somewhere for me to document our journey. Mostly it’s nothing special, just snapshots taken on my phone, but also if I get good pro photos at competitions or have a chance for someone to video me at home, of course I want to share it!
 
Charley657 said:
I prefer to follow those who post real life ups and downs with their horses. The ones that don't definitely have them, they just want people to know it. I don't follow what you would call influencers because they are there to make money selling products they come across (to me at least) as duplicitous.
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I’m not massively into social media, but still largely want to post the highs to share with friends eg signs of spring / freshly clipped horse / smartly plaited horse / hacking in a new place / new horse etc

I don’t tend to post about lameness / injury / frustrations Etc as I don’t want to air these on social media
and want to solve these and move on!

I share fun / light / amusing / positive things on social media. But I think that’s common. But doesn’t mean there isn’t the tougher complex gritty side of life too. But I’m not keen on sharing that on social media.
 
I just take the clips as fun snapshots, not the full picture. I focus on riders who show real training moments, not just big fences. It keeps my feed more honest and less stressful.
 
I can’t remember the last time I went on instagram tbh, I find it a very depressing place and it makes me sad for the younger generation comparing themselves to the perfect version of everyone’s lives that gets shared.

I use Facebook but as a bit of a blog about the horses not to share my personal life, I don’t post loads just the odd progress update/something I’m proud of. I equally share all the lows though…the falls, the eliminations, the days I just wimp out and retire halfway through a round! I’m sure there are people that judge me for the bad stuff but I also have lovely supportive friends who offer words of encouragement and advice. I’d feel terribly fake if I just posted the good bits!
 
I’m a big fan of Instagram. There’s lots of “real” people on there with the same problems and issues we all have, you just might have to wade through some of the sunshine and rainbows people to find them. Unfollow anyone that doesn’t make you feel good.
 
Oh we all know that person!

'First place today!' Omits to mention there was only one in the class 😅

If you have been to Tenerife, then they have been to Elevenerife.

PC game that isn't released until next year? Completed it, mate.


People will be people. Just focus on yourself instead and you can't go far wrong.
 
happyhorses103 said:
FB and insta are commonly used in the equestrian community. I have a instagram and FB account (once went into 'tiktok' for a few months but didn't really interest me). I have a real problem with instagram, everyone posting 'edits' of their rides or competitions and just focusing on the height etc etc. Shouldn't we just be focusing on our horses instead of being obsessed with looking the best and showing every single aspect of your life on your page?? Also find it doesn't have the best effect on me. WWYD?? Any thoughts and opinions down below
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Yours is the first generation to live with the possibility of socials, so probably hard to adjust to the way everyone lived before. Don't be on-line asking strangers if you should be on-line! What you do is if it's winding you up you just quietly slope away.
 
Jenko109 said:
Oh we all know that person!

'First place today!' Omits to mention there was only one in the class 😅

If you have been to Tenerife, then they have been to Elevenerife.

PC game that isn't released until next year? Completed it, mate.


People will be people. Just focus on yourself instead and you can't go far wrong.
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There have always been people like that. They just have a different way of doing it now. You can still take the same attitude to them.
 
I must have totally missed the gene or perhaps just the generation for the whole obsession with what other people are doing. I guess its keeping up with the Jones worldwide!
If I have a high opinion of someone's abilities I would be interested in their ideas,suggestions etc. But since I judge people's abilities with animals mostly by looking at their own animals in real life, I would find it hard to judge solely from the Internet.
But as for caring what they get up to in their private lives well what happened to the private part?? But then Im still wondering why having been in front of a tv camera makes someone worth knowing!.
Young relations tell me they pity me for growing up without the Internet, I pity them for growing up with it!
 
If I'm excited about something - I share it.

Not usually on social media (aside from Figgy because I update here and use instagram to make those updates). But I will frequently text or call my family or friends.

Miri gave me a super ride last week and I texted her rider, my coach, my husband, and a friend saying yay, what an awesome day.

If I have an average ride, it probably doesn't occur to me to share it. If I have a bad ride, I might share it out of concern with the rider or coach but I probably wouldn't be texting my husband.

If I were posting on my own social media, why shouldn't I post when I'm excited about something?

If people choose to interpret that as "every day must be like that for her" or "she's posting that to make herself seem better than everyone else" that's entirely up to them, and they can scroll on by.

We don't have a duty to make every element of our lives and worlds transparent to everyone. We can just choose to share a happy event or a nice photo, without incurring a duty to explain our lives and contexts to strangers on the internet.
 
I am a great sharer, almost certainly I share too much. Mostly just when something has really made me happy or made me laugh. With my horses (when I still had them:() I would occasionally post about a really good ride or a win or even a 'well she did her best' rosette, I had quite a few of those in more recent years. 😅

I have also shared some really deeply personal things on here in particular when it all just got too overwhelming. Sometimes life stuff happens that is also just too traumatic and painful to those around me, so I vent on here instead of burdening those closest to me with my angst and misery when they have enough of their own. You lot can take it, you are removed from the reality and are not personally affected by my problems, and your unfailing kind support when life is really tough has helped me many times to just get up and get on with life.

Social media isn't all bad and IME just ignore the bad and do your own thing with those who's opinion you trust and value.
 
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