Sold my horse and new owner is a nightmare

ester said:
Well my own has a lifetime of horse experience but has only ever sold one, in her early 20s so I'd need to ask other people in this sort of scenario, thank goodness for forums to help people.
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Which has no actual relevance to your original comment "are you ONLY allowed to ask your mum for advice"? It was an option..... don't understand why that's so difficult to understand really?
 
ester said:
I can see the relevance, I don't see why that is so difficult to see either really.
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Allow me to itemise for you:

1. I suggested that the OP could ask her mum for advice

2. You posted asking whether we were now ONLY allowed to ask our mums for advice

3. I replied say it was just one option I had suggested, as I tended to refer to my mum for advice on some things

4. You replied to say that your mum didnt have experience in this area so you would ask a forum - I have no idea whether the OP's mum had experience in this area, it was an option I was suggesting?

Hope that clarifies things for you
 
I think what we have here is a combination of a troublesome buyer and an odd YO. I find it very weird that after a few days of the YO not being able to contact the owner, that it's assumed the horse is abandoned and wants it moved on ASAP. Perhaps the owner is sick? You are obviously a very accommodating person and the YO seems to know this, and is trying to take advantage of that. This is all so messy and I'd be walking away from the whole situation. Best of luck and stand your ground.
 
The YO cannot return the horse to you, it is certainly not her place to do so in any circumstances, she should have a proper contract in place to deal with owners not turning up, assuming the horse is on DIY a few days not being attended with no contact is grounds to put this into practice, if the horse has been there 4 weeks I suspect the next livery payment is due and she is concerned she will not be paid, this is not your problem.
The YO can follow the abandonment laws and take ownership within 14 days so it can then legally be sold on but this has nothing to do with you and if it has been abandoned there is nothing you can do about it anyway.

https://www.bhs.org.uk/advice-and-information/the-law/abandonment-and-fly-grazing
 
I have been through the abandonment process a year ago. Horse on loan had to go back, owners refused to take him back.
Your YO needs to do this, not you. I found it a fairly easy process once Id exhausted all other possibilities but she has to make sure all the i's are dotted and the t's crossed, You need to call the new owners bluff, do not take the horse back if you cant afford it or have no where to keep it, do not pay the new owner a penny. Have you actually seen any paperwork from the vet that says the horse has back trouble ? I think there is a con going on here
 
I really don’t see what a thread from five years ago has to do with anything!!

Even if the OP could take the horse back she can’t because she doesn’t own it! The yard owner should know that - OP would be likely sued for theft! The yard owner is out of order contacting the OP so much. She should be chasing the owner. In the meantime she’d perhaps be best turning the horse out and save a few hay costs until she can sort out the abandonment thing. What a mess. Poor pony. But as I previously said, at least there’s no welfare issues, so the pony is not in danger.
 
Wow having read the whole thread there are some seriously judgemental folks on here who have clearly not read the OP's replies but just reiterated their opinion.

Be positive is a yard owner (I do not know her) and has given excellent advice as have others. The buyer seems to be tying it on with, you sold in good faith to someone who turned out to be dishonest. This person has entered an agreement with her yard owner, it is no longer your problem. You do not need to have any further correspondence with either of them and would suggest blocking numbers so they cannot harass you further.

I find it sad that some people tried to guilt shame the OP especially after she explained there was no livery place, the money had already been partially spent and she and her partner were on reduced income.
 
Honestly seems she just doesn’t know when to stop :rolleyes: usual then.

oh btw I’m the person you had the freak out with when I told you I’d kicked two greyhounds in the face to stop them killing my CKC. One was shaking her like a rag doll and my instincts took over. Like any good dog owner would. Yeah that one made you look amazing once again. Go walk your dogs and stop trying to make the OP feel worse than she already does. The decision to sell I’m sure was hard enough.
 
Gosh, I wish I could be judged by the rider I was 5 years ago. In my case, 5 years ago I was a professional and very competent. Now I am middle aged and windy! No longer working with horses in any capacity.

5 years is a long time.

I suggested taking the horse back early on in the thread, but OP told us why that was not possible. I would tell the YO and have nothing more to do with it, other than give YO the dealer's details, if she wanted them.
 
Cheeky Chestnut said:
Honestly seems she just doesn’t know when to stop :rolleyes: usual then.

oh btw I’m the person you had the freak out with when I told you I’d kicked two greyhounds in the face to stop them killing my CKC. One was shaking her like a rag doll and my instincts took over. Like any good dog owner would. Yeah that one made you look amazing once again. Go walk your dogs and stop trying to make the OP feel worse than she already does. The decision to sell I’m sure was hard enough.
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Nah - sorry - still no recollection? Oh, unless you were the one who boasted about breaking the greyhounds jaw because you “saw red” and “lost control”? That one? No probs, another one for my ignore list ?
 
OP
Do not feel pressured into taking this horse back!!!!
You sold him and he is no longer your problem! Some people may think this is a harsh view but if you are in no way financially able to take the horse back then why risk ruining your finances for a horse you aren’t obliged to take back and you don’t want it anymore. You should not be being guilt tripped into taking the horse, and I think it’s very unfair that you have been subjected to some judgemental opinions. If you can’t afford it then it’s simple you can’t afford it! And people saying put it in a field well it still costs plenty to keep a horse that’s a mower ! Tell the YO that you want nothing to do with the situation anymore and not to contact you, block her if needs be.
 
Bellaboo18 said:
I just find it strange that you appear to feel nothing for the horse. It's not a welfare issue but far from an ideal situation for the horse to be in.
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Not everyone is in love with their horse though - if she’s sold because she’s lost her confidence and is giving up horses then I can totally understand her not being straight round their sobbing into her hanky in a hired horsebox. I don’t think I would be in the circumstances.
 
conniegirl said:
Really doesn’t surprise me at all, she is happy to dish it but not take it. She is definitely teachers pet to the moderators, ive no idea why they let her be as nasty as she is
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Tbh you three aren't showing yourselves in a great light either. I didn't much care for Lev's initial comment either but there are other people on this thread who have also made pretty sharp comments to the OP (Amymay and Goldenstar for example), who you're very notably not piling in on in the same way.

"I'm going to ignore her"
"I'm going to ignore her too"
"Let's ignore her together because she's just such a bitch"
"Let's tell everyone else that we should all ignore her"

:rolleyes:






OP, it sounds like a proper shitty situation, I really feel for you. Agree with others, probably best for your own peace of mind to just block the numbers and try to put it out of your mind. They sound all over the place and you're being dragged into their drama.
 
DabDab said:
Tbh you three aren't showing yourselves in a great light either. I didn't much care for Lev's initial comment either but there are other people on this thread who have also made pretty sharp comments to the OP (Amymay and Goldenstar for example), who you're very notably not piling in on in the same way.

"I'm going to ignore her"
"I'm going to ignore her too"
"Let's ignore her together because she's just such a bitch"
"Let's tell everyone else that we should all ignore her"

:rolleyes:






OP, it sounds like a proper shitty situation, I really feel for you. Agree with others, probably best for your own peace of mind to just block the numbers and try to put it out of your mind. They sound all over the place and you're being dragged into their drama.
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Both of those 2 were already on user ignore so I havn’t seen thier comments. Lev is now also on user ignore once again
 
Patterdale said:
Not everyone is in love with their horse though - if she’s sold because she’s lost her confidence and is giving up horses then I can totally understand her not being straight round their sobbing into her hanky in a hired horsebox. I don’t think I would be in the circumstances.
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You've missed a few replies. Where OP explained she'd only had the horse a few months and didn't enjoy having him as she's a nervous novice. So I said I understood. Yep it makes sense that she was happy to see the horse go. I was just trying to understand what OP wanted from the situation. Many of us suggested offering to buy the horse back before this information was provided.
 
Horses_Rule said:
OP
Do not feel pressured into taking this horse back!!!!
You sold him and he is no longer your problem! Some people may think this is a harsh view but if you are in no way financially able to take the horse back then why risk ruining your finances for a horse you aren’t obliged to take back and you don’t want it anymore. You should not be being guilt tripped into taking the horse, and I think it’s very unfair that you have been subjected to some judgemental opinions. If you can’t afford it then it’s simple you can’t afford it! And people saying put it in a field well it still costs plenty to keep a horse that’s a mower ! Tell the YO that you want nothing to do with the situation anymore and not to contact you, block her if needs be.
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agree 100%. You sold him for a reason, don’t feel pressured into getting him back. He has a new home now...end of
 
Patterdale said:
Not everyone is in love with their horse though - if she’s sold because she’s lost her confidence and is giving up horses then I can totally understand her not being straight round their sobbing into her hanky in a hired horsebox. I don’t think I would be in the circumstances.
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I did love and do still and feel as though it was my responsibility to find him a lovely home which I failed todo! I made the decision to sell him and I think that did change the way I felt about him, I think it’s a little bit the dread I was feeling about riding I’ve associated with horses! I’m still helping my friend out with her horses whilst she working (we kept ours together) as I thought that would keep me busy whilst I’m not working and even doing that in the morning I’m absolutely not enjoying anymore!

I feel guilty, I missed him to start with but now when I think of him I just feel anxiety about the situation! I can’t remember the lovely times we shared without thinking about all the recently crap ? hoping the situation will settle and I can think fondly of him again!
 
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