Cash
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*Firstly can i please apologise for this being probably the longest post in HHO history, it is in fact several rants crammed into one post, for your, erm, convenience*
Ok so following my rant earlier about not being allowed to use the school at the moment
I now have another rant..on a slightly different topic.
A little while ago I posted this thread http://www.horseandhound.co.uk/forums/showthread.php?t=384187&page=2 about letting a girl who shares a horse at my yard have a go on my horse. Please have a look as it might help you understand the following grumpy rambling without me having to type that whole post out again here
So because we are not allowed to use the school til it rains due to compacted surface (due to not enough management ) I told the girl via FB this afternoon that she wouldn't be able to ride my horse tonight. I would have told her earlier but couldn't get her mob. no off anyone, as no one had it, what with them not particularly warming to her and all. I told her the situation with the school and said we could reschedule.
She replied 'Can't I take him over the cross country jumps instead?' (we have some home made jumps at the top of the fields). I said (very politely, I thought!): 'No, I think you should ride him in the school first before you consider taking him in the fields. Besides, the ground is too hard at the moment, as well as reiterating that I am happy to reschedule riding in the school. I said she should ride him in the school because whereas I am pretty certain that he will be quiet and sensible in the school (as he finds it a bit dull
) especially as he will be doing little jumps, with me close at hand, out in the fields it is a different story. He is after all a fit ex racer, and can get high spirited and throw some bucks/get strong, especially when going over XC jumps.
Anyway, to this she replied 'ok :/ ' and went offline.
I then went down to the yard later to ride (just schooling in walk and trot round the tracks, too hard for anything else and obviously can't go in school, still about that!), feed and put to bed etc, and she was there riding her share horse. Her mum was watching her go round from the yard. I waved hello then turned to talk to my mum who was dropping me off. My mum looked over my shoulder to the girl's mum, who was a short distance away, and whispered 'why is she giving you such nasty looks?!' I turn round, and the girl's mum was indeed giving me proper evils, sorry to sound like Vicky Pollard :rollseyes:
I ignored this, went out to field to get C, smiled at her on the way past- just got more stony looks. My mum stayed for a min to try and make conversation with her, to no avail I assume. Pass the girl on share horse on way to field. She looks at my horse, who was galloping round his field after she had passed on her share horse, and says in a grumpy way, 'does he always do that?'. I said yes, mostly, he does get quite excited when it's bringing in time and he sees me coming.
By the time I got back to the yard with C, she had untacked and was putting share horse away. She and her mum proceeded to ignore me (didn't realise at first, as I was busy with C, but it became quite clear when I passed them in at feed room and they didn't acknowledge me at all) and left without a word once they'd finished.
I was then told by a couple of other liveries that the girl's mum had been saying proudly how her daughter was going to be jumping my horse (which is fine), and had seemed put out when I said she couldn't tonight.
So that's basically left me being made to feel BAD for offering my own horse for her to jump.
I have also recently helped one livery get her confidence back on her horse (who she hadn't ridden in about eight months before I helped her) by riding with her every week, encouraging her, escorting her round the paddocks, etc etc, and I also help another fairly novicey lady who rides a pony at the yard once a week with getting on and off said pony (and also occasionally with tacking up, leading etc) as he is naughty and she is not firm enough so I've lent a hand on several occasions, and always stressed that she should be firmer and learn to do this by herself as i won't always be available
. Both of these arrangements have been fine up until the last week or so: firstly, I couldn't ride with the nervous livery this week as I was at a competition when she wanted to ride on Sun- I was made to feel bad for this by her saying she had really been looking forward to it, oh well, sigh sigh, etc. With the lady who I've given a hand to, I arrived on Wed morn (when she rides), called 'hi' across yard. I was in a rush that morn as had to get home to sign for Tesco shop as mum working. Lady calls back 'Hi. So you're helping me this morning yes?' I say no, sorry, I'm in a rush and can't this morn. She looks crestfallen and surprised and says 'ohh are you sure you don't have time....?' I say NO. And again feel like I am being guilt tripped, even though every time i've helped her i've stressed that I won't be there all the time and she can't rely on me weekly!
I am not a pushover (although this post makes me sound like one
), but everyone just seems to be taking advantage. Several liveries told my mum how nice it was to have someone pleasant and helpful on the yard when I first arrived (sorry to sound arrogant but hey, that's what they said, and my mum was proud.) as from what I can gather there's not generally a huge feeling of 'community' on the yard, though I like everyone, there can be a bitchy feel (not a problem though, I have been to a private all girls' school ). I have just tried to be helpful by doing favours, and feel like I am being sh@t on.
Sorry, I know this is a really really long and, again, whiny post. Please tell me if I need to grow up/learn to appreciate favours/be less of a pushover/anything else. Just feeling fed up.
P.S Anyone who reads this, and, even better, replies, genuinely deserves a medal.
Ok so following my rant earlier about not being allowed to use the school at the moment
I now have another rant..on a slightly different topic.A little while ago I posted this thread http://www.horseandhound.co.uk/forums/showthread.php?t=384187&page=2 about letting a girl who shares a horse at my yard have a go on my horse. Please have a look as it might help you understand the following grumpy rambling without me having to type that whole post out again here
So because we are not allowed to use the school til it rains due to compacted surface (due to not enough management
) I told the girl via FB this afternoon that she wouldn't be able to ride my horse tonight. I would have told her earlier but couldn't get her mob. no off anyone, as no one had it, what with them not particularly warming to her and all. I told her the situation with the school and said we could reschedule.She replied 'Can't I take him over the cross country jumps instead?' (we have some home made jumps at the top of the fields). I said (very politely, I thought!): 'No, I think you should ride him in the school first before you consider taking him in the fields. Besides, the ground is too hard at the moment, as well as reiterating that I am happy to reschedule riding in the school. I said she should ride him in the school because whereas I am pretty certain that he will be quiet and sensible in the school (as he finds it a bit dull
) especially as he will be doing little jumps, with me close at hand, out in the fields it is a different story. He is after all a fit ex racer, and can get high spirited and throw some bucks/get strong, especially when going over XC jumps.Anyway, to this she replied 'ok :/ ' and went offline.
I then went down to the yard later to ride (just schooling in walk and trot round the tracks, too hard for anything else and obviously can't go in school, still
about that!), feed and put to bed etc, and she was there riding her share horse. Her mum was watching her go round from the yard. I waved hello then turned to talk to my mum who was dropping me off. My mum looked over my shoulder to the girl's mum, who was a short distance away, and whispered 'why is she giving you such nasty looks?!' I turn round, and the girl's mum was indeed giving me proper evils, sorry to sound like Vicky Pollard :rollseyes:I ignored this, went out to field to get C, smiled at her on the way past- just got more stony looks. My mum stayed for a min to try and make conversation with her, to no avail I assume. Pass the girl on share horse on way to field. She looks at my horse, who was galloping round his field after she had passed on her share horse, and says in a grumpy way, 'does he always do that?'. I said yes, mostly, he does get quite excited when it's bringing in time and he sees me coming.
By the time I got back to the yard with C, she had untacked and was putting share horse away. She and her mum proceeded to ignore me (didn't realise at first, as I was busy with C, but it became quite clear when I passed them in at feed room and they didn't acknowledge me at all) and left without a word once they'd finished.
I was then told by a couple of other liveries that the girl's mum had been saying proudly how her daughter was going to be jumping my horse (which is fine), and had seemed put out when I said she couldn't tonight.
So that's basically left me being made to feel BAD for offering my own horse for her to jump.
I have also recently helped one livery get her confidence back on her horse (who she hadn't ridden in about eight months before I helped her) by riding with her every week, encouraging her, escorting her round the paddocks, etc etc, and I also help another fairly novicey lady who rides a pony at the yard once a week with getting on and off said pony (and also occasionally with tacking up, leading etc) as he is naughty and she is not firm enough so I've lent a hand on several occasions, and always stressed that she should be firmer and learn to do this by herself as i won't always be available
. Both of these arrangements have been fine up until the last week or so: firstly, I couldn't ride with the nervous livery this week as I was at a competition when she wanted to ride on Sun- I was made to feel bad for this by her saying she had really been looking forward to it, oh well, sigh sigh, etc. With the lady who I've given a hand to, I arrived on Wed morn (when she rides), called 'hi' across yard. I was in a rush that morn as had to get home to sign for Tesco shop as mum working. Lady calls back 'Hi. So you're helping me this morning yes?' I say no, sorry, I'm in a rush and can't this morn. She looks crestfallen and surprised and says 'ohh are you sure you don't have time....?' I say NO. And again feel like I am being guilt tripped, even though every time i've helped her i've stressed that I won't be there all the time and she can't rely on me weekly!
I am not a pushover (although this post makes me sound like one
), but everyone just seems to be taking advantage. Several liveries told my mum how nice it was to have someone pleasant and helpful on the yard when I first arrived (sorry to sound arrogant but hey, that's what they said, and my mum was proud.) as from what I can gather there's not generally a huge feeling of 'community' on the yard, though I like everyone, there can be a bitchy feel (not a problem though, I have been to a private all girls' school ). I have just tried to be helpful by doing favours, and feel like I am being sh@t on. Sorry, I know this is a really really long and, again, whiny post. Please tell me if I need to grow up/learn to appreciate favours/be less of a pushover/anything else. Just feeling fed up.
P.S Anyone who reads this, and, even better, replies, genuinely deserves a medal.
