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Firstly may I apologise for only frequenting this forum when I am upset, or angry - I used to post on this under another alias and got to know quite a few peeps.
Sorry I am side tracking, here goes a really horrible thing happened to me today - I make no apologise for my sensitivity but when my daughter of 7 involved I cannot help but get a little emotional.
I went to my first dressage test today and my last, I had to take my daughter on her pony (we hacked) as I had no one else to look after her.
We turned up and an ex livery of mine was there - her mum came and distinctively told me to keep away from the arena when her daughter's horse was in as my daughter's pony would distract him as they had previously been stable mates.
I said I would.
Anyway, having noted her daughters horse was being extremely nappy rerusing to go in the arena when our little pony wasn't in sight I bought our little pony to where the photo booth was far enough from the arena - her horse was napping quite badly but our pony was grazing and they weren't whineying to each other or for that matter acknowledged each other.
Having finished her test and before I was due in the daughter approached us and basically accused me of sabotaging her test, deliberatley putting our pony within sight - setting her up, swearing at us and basically saying what is she (my daughter) doing here as she is not a competitor and shouldnt be here - I checked rule book and no where does it say that if you arn't competing then you shouldn;t be on the yard.
The girl was swearing her head off and an official intervened and told her to stop using such langugage.
This left both myself and my little girl in tears I am not the sort of person to deliberately do such a thing (although I am tempted now..) and her horse was being a sod - which I tried to point out at the time before my pony was in sight. This all got twisted and now people are taking sides I now apparatnely according to the mum said her daughter was a [****] rider - I would never critisice another persons riding.
Sorry to go on and on but I have spent all afternoon in floods - what should I do? make an official complaint to the show? or just leave it - incidentally the horse I now own - they sold after 2 months for being quite sharp now belongs to me = could this be jealousy?? We both had crap marks = mine 50% and hers 47% so a bad day all round.
It was a small show basically a yard show and I cannot believe the unsportmanship of some people - I know it must have been frustrating to have a nappy animal but to blame a 7 year olds pony is the pits - am I in the wrong?
Do I give up dresssage and do I go back compete my daughter who will hopefully thrash hers????
Please some one make me smile xxxx
 
No advice really. I'm sorry you had such a bad time.
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Some people just can't take it when things go wrong and look for someone else to blame.

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1st huge hugs,there was no need for her to do that.

its not your fault if her horse can not behave.

don't let some silly little girl put you off.
 
Don't give up dressage if you enjoy it! - this was only one incident and from the sounds of it one child got a bit upset and had a go at you for something that wasn't your fault - let it go!

Not all competition days will be like that, so chin up and look forward to the next test.

ETS - have a hug and a glass of wine from me
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Um, clearly this girl is just plain ignorant and has a problem riding, if you are 'in tune' with your horse and focused they shouldnt care what is going on 100m away....

You carry on dear! And next time dont be so nice!
 
Ahhh thanks guys - feel a bit better with the aid of a glass of vino too.....Bottoms up111 sorry my exclamation mark won't work either boo hoooooo
 
Yep soz got a tad confused... tried to delete from comp riders but can't.... help.......don't want to come across as sefish
 
Hey, not sure if I was one of the people you used to know (I was louiselamb before) but welcome back and please do not apologise for only posting when you want to rant - if you cannot do that here where CAN you do it!!

As for the matter in hand, chin up and rise above it. Many people instantly look for someone/something to blame when they have had a bad ride and unfortunately you bore the brunt of this. It was NICE of you to move your horse over to try and help!
 
Hi Louise
I was Corrigan and then Tarzipan, So you do know me, how are the kids?? do you still have splodge and the andy?
Lovely speaking to people on here - since last on I have had 5 more kids, and divorced twice.. ha ha only joking/// loved your letter recently to the editor about Tim Stockdales comments ie Foxhunter..
Lovely to hear from you
T xxx
PS Was Oasis good?>? need I ask..
 
Rise above it Minxy ...

Your best form of defence is - get some lessons, work hard and beat the pants off her
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You will be able to wear a very smug smile and that will be sooooo satisfying.

Go Girl
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Hey you!

Long time no speak! Kids are great thanks, tho getting huge! I sold Splodge AND the Andy last year
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Shouldn't have sold Splodge really, shouldn't have bought Chico really, but hey ho - if I hadn't then I wouldn't have my new girlie and she is seemingly super (early days yet!)

Glad you liked the letter (was Will Funnell's comments that annoyed me lol) it is something I feel passionate about
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Oasis were superb (seems like ages ago now) - saw The Killers recently at the NEC, they ROCKED!

Keep in touch - shall I remind you of my MSN?

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Ah fanx Llwyncwn - Show jumping has always been my forte - however no doubt we would have been blamed had her ned had a fence down, so will book up lessons with Carl Hester if need be just to pee her off....
 
What a load of rubbish! If I was the organiser I would ban the mother and her daughter. Its their job to make the pony behave and nobody elses. I would understand if they were still stabled together and had travelled together but in this situation it was not your fault at all. They sound like the sort of people who always blame someone else and cant see that they may be at fault. If my horse behaved like this I would be planning what to do about it not blaming anyone else!!

The daughter needs to learn to ride the horse at a competition. Its a completely different scenario to riding at home.

I wouldnt complain to the organisers as it probably left a bad enough taste in their mouths anyway. Incidents like this put these small places putting on little competitions. If anything I would write and say that despite that incident you had a good day and thank them for running the show. Most organisers dont get any thanks and it really is appreciated when it comes.

Dont give up dressage!!!! Most of us would never dream of being like this.
 
Hi Dozziesmummy
Possibly doesn't help that I now have the horse they deemed unrideable - you have put it into context = the thing that really hurt me most was the fact she had a go at my daugher and said I deliberetly sabotaged their test.. I really wouldn't do such a thing, however I am quite flattererd now I have had a drink or two to think that the mother thought I said her daughter was crap ..... I didn't but why did she get so defensive, and I am the sort of person that never ever brags about any of my clan - but why she was getting so het up leads me to believe that she must have been peed that I got a slightly higher mark on her old horse that I have only owned a month.
Incidentally they sold him to a friend after 2 months - they paid 3 and a half K for him and I paid 1 K amd he is the most loveliest horse I have ever sat on and will never ever sell ...even though she told me that I couldn' ride but I probably am not the best classical rider - but I have a go and ride the horse she sold as unrideable... Morale to this story is ??? enlighten me folks
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A bad workman always blames his tools?

She probably is jealous about your horse but thats her problem. You've got the nice horse now!!

Your daughter will bounce back with a bit of encouragement. Kids are much tougher than we give them credit for!!

Give her a hug from me!!! And a big licky kiss from Sorbet!!( little pony in my sig!!!!)
 
Ive posted this in competition riders as well but
To be quite honest i'd have told her where to stick it! and if i hadnt my mum would of. Its her problem that her pony was a pain in the arse not yours. I have severe separation problems with my lot some times, they have all been fieldmates for ages the last one was added in 2001 and 2 of them have been together for over 12 years and have not been separated much at all. Its up to the rider to get the horse concentrating on her and not for other competitors to avoid upseting someones horse. Ive actualy dont a showing class and won it with anouther of my ponies being held by mum at the ring edge whilst mum was takeing photos, after a smack and a quick wiggle with the reins he concentrated on me and stopped being a prat.
 
I had a quick view of some of the replies and saw that it is you Corrigan.
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Hi nice to see you again.
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With regards to your eventful day; well if it was me, I wouldn't report this and I wouldn't respond to anyone who brings it up. I'd just make some flippant remark like "oh well; it's all over and done with now".

Now going back to the occurance; if this happened to me and my daughter, then I would no longer do any "favours" for this woman or her daughter. I certainly wouldn't keep my daughter or her pony in the background just because the pony knows hers....that's just too bad, and certainly not your fault. If her Mother came up asking me to keep pony out of sight, I would simply say "no I won't, sorry" and walk off. No point getting into a big argument about it - if they don't like being at the same place as your pony, then they can leave......or just get on with it.

I have no sympathy for them but I do think what happened was pretty out of order, particularly as your poor little daughter had to witness this.
 
Oh for goodness sake!!
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Why can't some people realise that horses are horses, some you win and some you lose.

I am sorry you had to deal with such crap. (How can you possibly respect a person who can rant and swear infront of a young child)?

Carry on doing what you do. Don't let this crazy beast get to you.
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