stuck in a rut! - dont know what to do (V V Long)

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i moved to a 'proper' stables with my friend (older than me, married, kids etc) just over a year ago, we always hacked out together & with other people on the yard. I really like it at the yard but around May, my friend lets call her K let me down on a promise she made by writing a note on our (personal) whiteboard - i use to put out over the winter she brought in as her horse couldnt be left on its own & would go up @ 6am to do him. Then when i text her to ask what she meant she got funny with me & stuff.

So anyway we spent a while not talking to each other then we kind of made up but not doing each others horse but we talked & hacked out together but now shes got a sharer for her horse who has basicly 'replaced me' (doing all the stuff i used - go to shows & go to weddings with the horse & carriage). So K has buddied up with a friend of hers (met through a horsey friend) who has 1 of the ponys on loan so they always go riding & 'hang out' together, to top it all 1 girl who i got on really well with has recently moved yards & certain people on the yard have made my horse out to be misbehaved out hacking & that -which he is not so no-one else is interested in riding with me except my goddaughter!!

i just feel really down, i feel a change would do me the world of good but i dont want to upset Linx, he took the move to current yard really well & i hope that would be the case again. i know of a couple of yards round me, 1 is where my friends just moved, another is a yard i had a pony loan years ago both of which take DIY's & are only a short distance from current place & the last place is where i used to have lessons but its now a livery yard & they cater for Part/full liveries (so a move there would be cost dpendent) & its up the road (just off a busy road). i havent looked at any, just been thinking of possible places.


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my friend whose just moved says theres a stable @ her yard, i said i would try &amp; stick it out but i want to look into this yard &amp; leave it to the fates!


im going to have a quick look Tuesday (in the dark) then if i think its worth having a proper look at with dad then we'll arrange to have an official look at the weekend

[red]rent £20 per week DIY [/red] - its £5 a week more than current place, it doesnt have an xc course but it does have all year-24/7 turnout although that doesnt affect me too much as Linx is fully clipped so will still come in at night but it allows him to be out for a whole day (6/7am-6:30/7pm) which would save my dad the hassle of having to bring it @ lunch time. it has a school &amp; access to lanes/common via the fields (private riding) although im not 100% sure if its available all year or i can go down thorugh the village &amp; onto the common ride i currently do

hay/straw is purchased in addition to the rent in big bales not 100% sure of the exact cost but you can buy your own hay (which would work out well if yours only comes in now &amp; again or you can pay £5 a week for as much as you want which is probably what i would do during the winter &amp; i know a big bale of straw will probably last a month

mares/geldings our separate in large fields (some are 18acres)
 
Have a look at the place and go with your gut feeling. When I bought Flash I was absolutely amazed at the yard he was at, it was like nothing we'd ever been on and I couldn't imagine anywhere nicer to keep him. A year on we're leaving our yard of 5years and moving back there for some luxury! You will just know whether its the right decision when you see it
 
As long as there is grass, a warm bed at night and you, he will be just as happy.
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If you want to go, go. Good luck.
 
Dont always go with your friends. Keep in mind the quality. You can always make friends at the yard you are on at the moment. Im glad im not in your position tbh. All the best!
 
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Dont always go with your friends. Keep in mind the quality. You can always make friends at the yard you are on at the moment. Im glad im not in your position tbh. All the best!

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well i moved to current yard with 1 friend whose the 1 im having probs with &amp; the other is some1 i met at current yard, its been really boring since she left &amp; i know potential yard is quite good as know of some people that were there. I just feel that it would be better for us in terms of turnout &amp; that most horses go out early &amp; stay out till late because their owners work till that sort of time
 
through experience of moving with a friend or having them move to a yard you are at,after singing their praises etc etc,i would stay well clear,ended badly,long story but long and short is sooo called friend dropped me in [****] with yard owner after i had given my notice(she was supposed to be coming with me??
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)!!Ended up saving her own skin as she realised she couldnt afford to move,we were supposed to be good mates!!Lesson learnt,HUGE time!!!Your horse will settle fine werever you go,i worried about mine,1st day we were there he strutted his stuff and ignored me,left im for the day and he whinnied his head off when i went back as if to say she aint left me,lol!!Settled well after that as i was still about,had him A LONG time,lol!!I would find a yard that suits YOU and start afresh,meet new people!!
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You will always find someone on a yard that will help you out,you can just keep it as horse business though,which is better!!!
 
I think the priorities always have to be that the yard suits the needs of your horse, and has the facilities that suit you. If there happen to be people there that you get on with that is a bonus but shouldn't be your motivation, after all people move, make new friendships, sell their horses -nothing ever stays the same
 
yeh i understand completely when we moved last year it had always been my plan, i'd brought Linx from where id stabled him &amp; wanted to move anyway so there was 3 of us looking @ places, we were gonna have a look at the place im interested in but as i only worked PT &amp; 'friends' didnt work the extra £5PW was a lot to find!

Funnily enough it was another friend who ws thinking of moving with us that told the old YO &amp; other 'friend' was starting to back out which i said she could do if she wanted.

I suppose where i am now me &amp; my 'friend' are in a separate block to everyone else with only us there on the edge of the yard so i dont think that helps.

i know they have the all-year turnout which is bonus wherever you go particulalry as i work till 6pm. &amp; as much as it would be nice to have my friend there 1 of my queries is about other people on yard who are my age - i do know a lot go to the local RC though.

Althoough there is another potential yard we could go &amp; have a look @ aswell, its just up the road from where i am now but it doesnt have access to as many rides as the other potential yard but i think it would be good as a comparison
 
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