That was a shock, the tears ran well :(

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I lost my old tb boy on the 26th November last year.

While my daughter had her riding lesson today, there was a new horse, lovely chestnut tb, so I went to say hello ( I a a sucker for a chestnut tb)

The chap was having a bit of a struggle, not much of one, te horse was just not keen on what he was having done to him.

As I got to them, the horse calmed down, his head turned...... It was like I was looking into my old boys face!!!

Same eyes, same blaze, everything.

I just was in bits, I feel a proper numpty as this was a complete stranger, but I think he understood.

They think they might sell him on, and in the spur of the moment I said please give me first refusal.

I would love to have him, but now I am thinking as it heart rather than head speaking?

Was I a bit rash?
 
No of course you weren't rash. I think you know when you see a horse you like and know that it might be right for you. If they do decide to sell and let you know, you have had time to think about it in the meantime, and then you can choose to go and have another look or not.....you're not under any obligation to buy him.
 
I think if that ever happened to me I would be just the same! No, I don't think it is rash, but remember, if you do end up buying him, he may be completely different in nature to the one you lost and that may leave you disappointed.
 
Probably! However, you will have plenty of time to think about it and put things into perspective and he might change his mind about selling.

Remember though, however much like your old tb he looks, he is a different person and you could find it very upsetting and disappointing when he does not behave in the same way. You could end up hating him for not being the same.

Moments like this can knock you sideways for a while.
 
I once met a pony I had on loan when I was young at a show - I too was a mess and the owners must have thought I was nuts.

They also happened to mention they were about to sell. I already had 2 and didnt need a third! But I still think about the pony - I am sure the pony does not think of me though.

Assess the horse and your situation - dont let your heart rule your head :)
 
Thanks all and tammyto, I thought I had got over the worst, but all those old feelings have come back :(

I know it would not replace him, the main negative I have is that he is soo similar, which in a way makes it a huge negative.

For some reason though immeddiatly we hit it off, which did not even happen with my old boy, that took a good 2 years, which probably made our relationship all the more special
 
Think about it carefully, sleep on it for a few nights. They might decide to keep him, but if you are given first refusal hopefully it wont be straight away as you need some time to think.
 
I don't want to rain on your parade, but I have a friend who did this last year. She saw a photo of a horse for sale at the other end of the country who looked just like her old horse, and bought it without even seeing it. It was shipped the length of the country, and IMO was actually a nice horse, but of course it wasn't her old horse. Six months later she sent the horse to a sales yard to sell - which it did after a few weeks. I felt sorry for the poor horse, which ended up having to adapt to three homes in six months for the crime of not actually being the same as her old horse.

Obviously my friend's story is a bit more severe, but do be very sure that you actually like this new horse. He is not your old horse and never will be, he just looks like him. Buy him because you love HIM..
 
Daisy i know what you mean

i lost my first mare on 30th dec 95 on the 30th dec 2010 a little pony popped up 3 hrs after her time same colour same white leg same pet name . had to get her .
 
When I see a horse to buy if I need a second look or loan not horse for me when I lost my chestnut mare in July I wasn't going to have another chestnut mare as only one Molly so went to view belle bright bay mare and bought her that morning and she is wonderful, like I never name a pup the same as one I have had before all individuals, so make your mind up is it suited to you then buy if for sale.
 
Tread carefully, you will never replace your old horse.
The last thing you want is to be comparing this horse to your previous one, it's really not nice to be constantly disappointed, constantly reminded and wishing 'what if'.

You need to spend some time with this horse by the sounds of it, get to know him for who he is and not who you want him to be. Then make your decision.

Heart obviously plays a big part of choosing a horse, but head has to come in there somewhere too. I went for the total opposite of my best friend who was sadly PTS, I'm so glad I did, I know nothing could ever stand up to what he was, so there was no point in even looking for anything remotely similar.

My current horse is totally special in he does fill that hole, but he's not the same and I'm glad of that as it make the memories of my old horse more special.
 
Just be carefull i lost my dog after a while i went and see another could have been his twin. Had to have him very wrongly compared him to my other dog everytime he did something wrong just kept saying my other dog wouldnt have done that. And started to resent him crazy i know. It took me a while to relise he wasnt my other dog he was his own little man i started treating him that way and he excelled into a excellent dog had him fourteen years lost him last year broke my heart. would never make that mistake again grief can do weird things
 
As everyone has said. But I think when u loose a good horse whatever horse u have next, u will compare it to the old one, especially when it goes badly.
 
I've had this experience after loosing a much loved dog, and then seeing a puppy that was identical - and sort of spoke to me. It is very upsetting, I know. If you can ride the horse perhaps you will discover it is so different to your old one your mind will stop telling you they are the same!
 
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