Mongoose11
Well-Known Member
So, I am seriously thinking about giving up. I cant stop thinking about it and I don't know whether I am being realistic or whether I will snap out of it.
Got a new job starting at Easter - next step up - Deputy Head. This will mean that the horse will cost more as I will need services as I just can't get out as soon as I can at the end of the day. The yard is in a good routine and I don't really want to bring her out of that.
Too fat to ride my horse and cant seem to stick to anything to shift it. Failing miserably by the end of every Wednesday. Daren't even think about ressurecting my FAT to FIT thread after everyone was so supportive.
Horse costs a lot. I am the main breadwinner. Life would be 'easier' if I didnt have her, I would look a bit more presentable as currently I spend zero on my own clothes etc, I could probably pay off my debts.
Hoping to have a child although this seems a long way off as I need treatment. I can't imagine being able to have the horse/job/child without every spare penny going on the horse and feeling guilty about that. Time spent with horse rather than child when hours will be precious due to my job? I know this scenario is a long way off but if I am going to do it then why wait?
Thing is, I can't bear it. I can't bear the thought of giving HER up. Not horses but her. I adore this mare, she is me in horse form. I try to imagine if I didn't know where she was, or what she was doing, I wonder if somebody would hurt her or not take the care that I do to make sure she is happy and healthy.
She is brilliant, safe, all rounder, everything I have ever wanted.
I just don't know if I want the life anymore. The money, restrictions, more responsibility. I don't want to run the risk of loaning her and losing my space at my yard as if I do keep her I want to stay where I am as it's perfect.
Words of wisdom please. Feeling pretty poo and I can't see round it.
Got a new job starting at Easter - next step up - Deputy Head. This will mean that the horse will cost more as I will need services as I just can't get out as soon as I can at the end of the day. The yard is in a good routine and I don't really want to bring her out of that.
Too fat to ride my horse and cant seem to stick to anything to shift it. Failing miserably by the end of every Wednesday. Daren't even think about ressurecting my FAT to FIT thread after everyone was so supportive.
Horse costs a lot. I am the main breadwinner. Life would be 'easier' if I didnt have her, I would look a bit more presentable as currently I spend zero on my own clothes etc, I could probably pay off my debts.
Hoping to have a child although this seems a long way off as I need treatment. I can't imagine being able to have the horse/job/child without every spare penny going on the horse and feeling guilty about that. Time spent with horse rather than child when hours will be precious due to my job? I know this scenario is a long way off but if I am going to do it then why wait?
Thing is, I can't bear it. I can't bear the thought of giving HER up. Not horses but her. I adore this mare, she is me in horse form. I try to imagine if I didn't know where she was, or what she was doing, I wonder if somebody would hurt her or not take the care that I do to make sure she is happy and healthy.
She is brilliant, safe, all rounder, everything I have ever wanted.
I just don't know if I want the life anymore. The money, restrictions, more responsibility. I don't want to run the risk of loaning her and losing my space at my yard as if I do keep her I want to stay where I am as it's perfect.
Words of wisdom please. Feeling pretty poo and I can't see round it.
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