Threatened by a liveries husband !

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What on earth have i done to deserve the latest problem at my new horse yard...... after feeling like no alternative on moving from my previous yard -after another livery turned his aggressive horse in to my horses field after being told not too and resulted in my lad being stapled and stiched up for over an hour and a half..... i moved to my old old yard.... welcomed back with open arms by yo and ym - went back to my old stables and was given a list of rules by the ocd neurotic person next to me.... I had a belly full of her the last time with dont put your horses hay in this corner of the stable, dont leave you feed her, dont put your headcollar there, dont bring your horse in before mine, dont turn your horse out till i am here, dont feed your horse before mine, dont feed your horse after mine, but needs must anyway after having a slightly heated discussion with said lady - about tying her horse out of the aisle as she has told me in no uncertain terms not to walk past her as she kicks....(my stables are past where this horse is tied) her husband arrived tonight and threatend me "when its quite and you are on your own, I will be your worse ****ing nightmare !" i laughed at him and stood him down and asked what type of a man he is to threaten a lone woman - but do i phone the police, do i go and see the yo and ym or do i just let it go ?

After loosing my gingerwitch, being crapped on at my old yard after moving to there when the adult only yard i was happy at turned into a nightmare kindergarten i feel like selling the whole lot up and keeping tropical fish.

suggestions or is it me?
 
No way is it you!!
Sounds like that woman needs to be on her ****** yard!!!!!!!!! :mad: Kelly kicks but people know to just give me a shout and I'll move her when they walk past!!
Deff speak to the YO about this she can't have her liveries threaten other liveries!! Its unacceptable.
 
Definetly tell YO and YM straight away, I doubt police will do anything about an unwitnessed threat but it may be worth having on file.
Are these "yard" rules or just the persons made up rules?
 
God, what a bleeding nightmare. I really don't understand how people can be a) so neurotic and b) so down right mean!!

I think you should speak to the livery as first point of call and just say to her that your horses are stabled nextdoor to each other and does she really want all this animosity? If she continues along these veins, then maybe you should speak to the YO/YM.

What a pain in the backside. Sorry to not have more useful advice!! whereabouts are you located?
 
i would speak to your yard owner and your yard manager, as you cannot comply to all said things this nuerotic livery wants you to do as its unacceptable. if her horse wont settle if your horse is in before hers or out before, well then thats just to bloomin bad she should have her horse on full livery then shouldnt she

about the husband that is very threataning and i would definately contact your ym and yo and see what they suggest or even phone the local police station and get it recorded so that if anything happens its not a one off thing.
 
Definitely tell YO and YM, and see about getting either you or other livery moved to a different stable - can she not have stable at the end of a block so no one else has to go near her and her horse? What a nightmare!
 
Omg! Sounds like a top bloke, threatening a woman. Tell the yard owner and manager straight away or you'll have to deal with it on your own. Go straight to the people who can do something about it.
 
I really feel for you. Why can't people just get on? Would definitely report it to the YO/YM.....but before you do, does your mobile phone have a voice recorder on? I know mine does. It might be worth setting it up ready when he is there - just pretend you are sending a text when you are doing it and then you have evidence if he does it again....
 
What ttitude do the yard manager and yard owner have to the woman and her rules? If they have allowed her to set her own rules for others on the yard then she may well think that it is acceptable. Whatever the set up it is not acceptable for anyone to threaten anyone else on the yard. Have a word with Ym and YO and tell the idiot man that should it happen again, or he ever does more that HE will be in dire trouble with the police.
 
Maletto i am in Staffs, just by junct 12 of the M6 -

The lady makes up rules to suit herself and tbh i used to go along with most of them becuase i felt sorry for her.... but since loosing gingerwitch and going back to the yard with geldings she has been mental - my geldings have brought the mare into season, my geldings are stressing the mare out, my geldings are making her kick out, my geldings upset her one day when they are in, then the next day upset her when they are out.... the ym knows of her demands and everyone that has been put next to here in the last 3 years has left or moved away from her..... tbh she usually turns the tears on to get her own way but i have become very hard since loosing ginger and told her to turn the tears off and get a grip on Sunday.... i did inform the yo what i had said and he said "good on you" but i dont want to become as much as a problem as she is and after leaving 2 yards in 12 months already it does not look very good on me does it?
 
What a nightmare! I have the neighbour from hell at my livery yard, only took up riding as a hobby late in life, has been through 3 horses since she arrived 3 months ago and the new one kicks the door constantly, rubs manically, pulls all my rugs through to her stable and chews them and whenever she gets to the yard the horses and I need ear plugs! However, I'd never bully her and start telling her when to feed, turn out etc, I just put up with her erratic behaviour and hours and try to ignore the banging!

I should report to the YO about her husband and point out that you pay the same as her and don't provide her with a great big list of what not to do.
 
What a shame..defo talk to the YM/YO as it sounds like this womans demands are totally unrealistic..I would also take the list of demands sit your neighbour down and in a calm manner ask her how on earth she can find these realistic and for you both to come to a compromise..also tell her about her OH's threats as that is also unacceptable,and hopefully she will not condane his comments...but really do not be put upon its not your problem its your YO/YM thats what they are paid for :) Good Luck..

You could also tell neighbours OH you are quite a nightmare yourself and why do you think you moved from your previous place:rolleyes:;)
 
Just a thought but Why don't you give her a taste of her own medicine by making up your own list of rules and then dictating them to her and turn round and tell her husband that you'll make his life a nightmare. Bullies don't like their own medicine.
 
I think i frigtened him to death as i walked up saying in a very meanacnig but calm voice "come on then big man, why wait?" the jesture of my head and hands said it all and tbh i quickly got a bunch of keys in my hand ready to jab him with and was frantically looking for a shovel or such like just in case it got to that... but for gods sake he is a well built bloke. I have not told my OH yet - dont want him to know just yet as i can fight my own battles with this man and woman but come on what type of a man honestly gets a kick out of using these bully boy tactics? and if i told oh i had been threatend by a man - i dread to think what he would do.
 
Gingerwitch said:
I think i frigtened him to death as i walked up saying in a very meanacnig but calm voice "come on then big man, why wait?" the jesture of my head and hands said it all and tbh i quickly got a bunch of keys in my hand ready to jab him with and was frantically looking for a shovel or such like just in case it got to that... but for gods sake he is a well built bloke. I have not told my OH yet - dont want him to know just yet as i can fight my own battles with this man and woman but come on what type of a man honestly gets a kick out of using these bully boy tactics? and if i told oh i had been threatend by a man - i dread to think what he would do.
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Good on ya!
 
Gingerwitch said:
I think i frigtened him to death as i walked up saying in a very meanacnig but calm voice "come on then big man, why wait?" the jesture of my head and hands said it all and tbh i quickly got a bunch of keys in my hand ready to jab him with and was frantically looking for a shovel or such like just in case it got to that... but for gods sake he is a well built bloke. I have not told my OH yet - dont want him to know just yet as i can fight my own battles with this man and woman but come on what type of a man honestly gets a kick out of using these bully boy tactics? and if i told oh i had been threatend by a man - i dread to think what he would do.
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This might be the case and I'm sure you stick up for yourself but in your free time doing your hobby why the fricken hell should you?? inform YO and let them sort it...Good Luck and keep us updated :)
 
Gingerwitch said:
do i phone the police, do i go and see the yo
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Both!

The Police take a VERY dim view of men threatening women.

We have a nasty old fart who walks (shuffles) his dog down the footpath next to our field. He got abusive with my OH one evening and threatened to hit her. She reported him to the Police who visited him to 'discuss' the matter, that shook the miserable old git up.

Stand your ground, bullies always back down.
 
They both sound like psychiatric cases to be honest!
I think you have handled the situation as best you could, well done. I know it must be horrid up there at the moment but I reckon if you keep standing your ground in a firm but polite way, they may well give up. (Not that you should have to mind!)
If I were you I'd ask YO to get on waitlist to move stables as they become available!
 
Seriously, why are there no normal people around anymore!!! Who are all these weirdos and where the hell are they stashing all the normal people???


Speak to YO and YM... Speak to the odd livery like she is odd and say that you will be doing none of the 1000 silly little rules unless she abides by your own obsure list of rules (Number one being, never a word should again pass between the two of you.. lol)


Goodluck, XXX
 
OMG that is really awful, I would go to the YO and speak to them. He can't go around speaking to people like that!! Plus if his wife's horse is a nightmare that's their problem not yours. If stable is empty and that's the one you left maybe everyone leaves who is put next to her! :eek:
 
Gingerwitch said:
I think i frigtened him to death as i walked up saying in a very meanacnig but calm voice "come on then big man, why wait?" the jesture of my head and hands said it all and tbh i quickly got a bunch of keys in my hand ready to jab him with and was frantically looking for a shovel or such like just in case it got to that... but for gods sake he is a well built bloke. I have not told my OH yet - dont want him to know just yet as i can fight my own battles with this man and woman but come on what type of a man honestly gets a kick out of using these bully boy tactics? and if i told oh i had been threatend by a man - i dread to think what he would do.
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I would like to tell the bloke to leave you be as you dont want to get your OH involved as he has had more than one conviction for GBH and
you dont want him to go back to jail for the 3rd time :D
 
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It sounds as if the YO/YM are very weak willed. You mention that the troublesome livery has laid down her own set of rules & has also caused several liveries to leave the yard. This woman is costing the business money. Is it not time for the YO/YM to actually carry out their function & put the livery on notice. They should be telling her that they run the yard, she doesn't. Additionally they should speak to her about the conduct of her husband & tell her that he is no longer welcome on the yard. Also that if there is any further incidents of that nature that she will be asked to leave. As for Police involvement...I wouldn't bother, but I would mention that I may to the YO/YM & hopefully this may jolt them into doing something.

It's simple to deal with, but for some reason some YO/YMs don't want to confront problem liveries. :(
 
Tell y/m and Y/o you might not be the only one they are having a go at, ask to move to another stable away from them if poss, to do everything they say sounds like they are in charge and it cant all work like that, I work night shift so work a total different rota ( mornings only ) as fast asleep in the afternoon.
 
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