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PennywithHenry

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I had a call from my 'friend' today, basically along the lines of "nah nah I told you so" over Henry. Obviously it wasn't put quite like that, but, she did say that I should have listened to her and I shouldn't have spent the money on him that I did as obviously it was a waste, and it all ended in tears just as she predicted....

Oh, and get this, even though she knew it was a waste to buy him his stuff etc she'll nobly 'take it off my hands' as I don't want it here. She said she'd be along tomorrow and collect his rugs, feed, feed bins, fly rug, headcollars, ...basically everything aside from a couple of buckets which I'll need for the companion pony.

I said thanks, but no thanks, as I've decided to give his things to a charity, which I think will be a rather fitting tribute to him.

So, if anyone runs/knows a charity in Lincolnshire I'd love to bring his stuff to you, if you can make use of any of the following;

f/s lunge cavesson, lunge line and roller
Excercise sheet
1 h/w turn out full neck (6ft3)
1 m/w turnout with detatchable neck (6ft3)
2 blue cotton sheets (1 6ft & 1 6ft3)
1 m/w stable rug (6ft3)
1 heavy stable underrug, the black full neck quilted one
A carrier bag with a couple of leadropes, cob size headcollar fly fringes, an ear net thing

I'm keeping his headcollar and leadrope, pink and purple summer sheet and bridle. I use his grooming kit on the dogs, pony etc so am keeping that as well.

If anyone knows of any charities in Lincolnshire I'd love to help. I'm not looking at selling them, it's no odds to me should they sit in my tackroom for the next X amount of years, I'd just love Henry's things to help another horse. The reason I specified Lincolnshire is that a) the things are heavy and postage would be astronomical and b) I was actually secretly hoping that I'd be able to take the stuff and meet the horse/s that Henry would be helping.
 
I agree..... bloody grabbers
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Are you not going to have another horsey eventually
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Dont be too rash in getting rid of everything, you never know what is round the next few corners
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Hugs for you and a well aimed kick for your 'friend' xx
 
Good for you!
Don't know about that area but when I've had extra stuff I've sent it to redwings and they always send back a lovely thank you note saying what they are using it for.
 
Some people have no shame do they.
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How can somebody be so mean at a time like this.
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I would recommend Bransby as well. They do a lovely job there and like somebody said, they have had strangles so have had to cancel their open day yet again.
I am sure they would be only too pleased of your donation.
 
sounds like she a nice friend to have
when shes putting you down
she should be supporting you
i think your better off without her cause what does that say about her if shes not ?
giving your stuff to charity is a better thing but make shore you dont need it first
 
What about any of the charities involved with the Amersham horses? If any horses need your help in memory of Henry, they do.
 
Ignore your "friend".
If you really want to give Henry's things to a charity, how about Silver_Florin (she is a forum member). She has a charity in Lincolnshire, here is the link
Are you sure you won't be getting another needy equine in the future though?
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I didn't know that SF was based in Lincolnshire-thanks for that jaylen.

If I was to get another horse, and I honestly don't know at this moment in time, it's too soon to think about it really, I don't think that I'd be abe to bring myself to use Henry's things....But like I say, I just don't know. I'd feel guilty looking at 'well' horses advertised and wouldn't know where to start if I wanted another rescue, I just kind of stumbled upon Henry....
 
Do you not fancy taking an ex-racer? There's lots of rescue places who do rehoming. World Horse Welfare(prev ILPH) do a loan scheme too.
 
Some people are unbelieveable! She certainly is no friend of yours if that is the way she is behaving
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That is so thoughtful and nice of you to donate most of his things to charity
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I didn't know that SF was based in Lincolnshire-thanks for that jaylen.

If I was to get another horse, and I honestly don't know at this moment in time, it's too soon to think about it really, I don't think that I'd be abe to bring myself to use Henry's things....But like I say, I just don't know. I'd feel guilty looking at 'well' horses advertised and wouldn't know where to start if I wanted another rescue, I just kind of stumbled upon Henry....

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I have a feeling another one in need of serious TLC may just "kind of stumble" upon you.

I do know how you feel about Henry's things though - it took me 6 years to part with my old Arab's rugs, I had owned him for 19 years and he had been such a huge part of my life. Even though you had Henry for a comparatively short time, he had obviously been a huge part of your life.
 
what a cow!!!
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keep your chin up, penny...


i wouldnt be too hastey to give his stuff away though, there just might be another "henry" out there looking for a loving home eh..
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I would say don't be too hasty as well. It is a very thoughtful act to be willing to give Henry's things to a charity, but, just make sure it's not a knee jerk reaction. You may find it comforting to have the things around for a little while yet.

Take care.

Jo x
 
Shocking! how can anyone be so bloody mean??!

Good for you.

I dont know the area, but I hope you find someone who will benefit from all of Henrys belongings
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good grief what a lovely 'friend'! Just when you need care, understanding and support. I think the donation of Henry's things to charity is a lovely gesture.
 
That is certainly one "friend" you can manage without! I was going to suggest Silver Florin too, but would also agree that you should give yourself a bit of time to think what you want to do with Henrys stuff. Take care .
 
,ve followed your post with much interest penny , henry sounds exactly like my tb gelding harry , i rescued him 2 years ago in an appauling state , the rug rubs he had were full of maggots ( rug 2 sizes too big left on all winter ) he was emaciated , had rainscold lice and couldnt eat more than a handful of mash , but hes a lovely chap , some people looked at him and saw no value , saw no point in his exsistance ,( hes 18 now and a pasture pet with occasional ambles round lanes , hes never been totally fit and we spend a fortune on drugs to ease his life , but who cares its only money ) well i could and can see his worth and so could you with henry , i,m so sorry you lost him penny , nothing more i can say except heres some hugs from harry and if you ever get to cornwall come and give him a hug for real , he,d love that
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as for your bitch of a friend , what a sad person she is , i,m afraid you always get such people , they jus love to dig the dirt , tell her to sod off and get a life
 
What a "great" friend she is!, and how generous for her to offer to take H's things off of you! People never cease to amaze me! Its no wonder we all like our four legged companions sometimes over humans!!

I think that the gifting to charity bit would be a fitting tribute for H, (having followed your story and weeped a plenty!) however you sound like the perfect person to potentially take on another "Someone special" and I am sure that there are lots of these out there... So please dont be too rash, i think you could give someone else a loving home again in the future xx
 
From experience I would say don't give it all away, maybe pack it all up and put it out of sight in a loft or something until you are feeling better.

I got rid of all my old horsey things when Glory was tragically PTS because I thought I would never own another (I didn't even want to ride) and now that I am back into it I am kicking myself at all the things I needed to buy again!

Giving to charity is a lovely idea but I think you should wait a while first xx
 
i think a "friend" like that needs telling some home-truths. or maybe two words would do if she has the gall to ring again, i'm sure you can think of the two i mean!
i think it's a lovely generous thought to give all that stuff to charity, and i was going to suggest Silver_Florin too.
i hope you find another very special horse to lavish your love, care and attention on, at the right time for you. *hugs*
 
What a nasty piece of work and someone you are better off without.

Suggest as others, carefully pack it up and give it six months. My OH has said he would never want another horse after Cairo, but recently said that he may want to find another clydie in need of TLC and a good home.

When Cairo goes, I will do this, carefully store his things and wait for the right chap for my OH to come along.

If not, as other said, taking stuff to a charity is a very good idea. I have just had a good haul through my rugs, headcollars etc and am about to do a charity trip with the stuff.
 
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