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CastlelackSportHorses

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I have been offered a 6yr old mare on loan, loan with view to buy or to buy! Shes belong to my friend whos doing a masters. The mare has plenty scope for bigger tracks which is what I was hoping to have with my own young mare.

My own 8year old mare that I bought as a 3yr old in hopes she would be my next 110/120 horse because I have her half sister who jumps this and who has really maxed out at 1m.

My issue is, I cannot take on a 3rd horse. Financially or timewise.
I absolutely love the bones out of my girl but she realistically is going to suit a low level riding club home more than what I would want, but I would hate to sell her and find she ends up in the wrong hands.

How do I come to terms that she is not the horse for me and I her. When I think about selling her my heart hurts.
 
sarcasm_queen said:
You need to decide what is more important to you- competing at a higher level, or keeping your mare.

There’s no right or wrong answer.

Could you afford to loan/lwbtb out your girl, and then loan the new one? Then you keep a bit more control.
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I agree theres no real right or wrong answer.

I was thinking of taking my friends mare for a while and see if we click. Then I can make a better decision if shes a better fit for me than my own girl.
 
Your mare won't care too hoots whether she's regularly jumping 20cms or hacking or dressage. But if you aren't happy doing what she is, then there is nothing wrong with finding her a more suitable home.
She's a nice age and if she's a nice personality and well educated without injury then a nice home will be out there.
If you have concerns over some aspect of her that might make her not end up in a nice home, then I would see if you can find a loan home for her and then loan in the new one.
 
She is a lovely person, like a big ginger dog. I have some many friends that come over and hack her/take her to beach/ ride her in comps for riding club.
Shes super safe, but not really a big competitive horse. Granted Im not very competitive anymore either.
 
tristars said:
If it hurts to sell, then dont, you will regret if it goes bad, loan to someone

Get the other one, looks like its fate, jump or youll miss it
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I have actually cried so many times thinking of selling, I think I would have to loan to be able to keep control of her situation.
But what happens when my friend finished college and wants her mare back and Im back to my low level event horse LOL
 
CastlelackSportHorses said:
She is a lovely person, like a big ginger dog. I have some many friends that come over and hack her/take her to beach/ ride her in comps for riding club.
Shes super safe, but not really a big competitive horse. Granted Im not very competitive anymore either.
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You could also share her from yours for a while, just to see how you feel about letting her go and about being more competitive again at the higher levels.

I had 2 sharers for mine when pregnant and one eventually ended up full loaning then buying him (after a couple of years and me having another baby!)
Then you can make sure she's going to go off with someone who really likes her and will keep her.

If you loan in and loan out for a few months and it doesn't work out, it's easy enough to unwind it all. With summer good weather it's a good time to find loan / shares for your mare.
 
Polos Mum said:
You could also share her from yours for a while, just to see how you feel about letting her go and about being more competitive again at the higher levels.

I had 2 sharers for mine when pregnant and one eventually ended up full loaning then buying him (after a couple of years and me having another baby!)
Then you can make sure she's going to go off with someone who really likes her and will keep her.

If you loan in and loan out for a few months and it doesn't work out, it's easy enough to unwind it all. With summer good weather it's a good time to find loan / shares for your mare.
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I guess its trying to find the right person. Im so very very picky about my horses.
 
kerrieberry2 said:
if you're not very competitive anymore, realistically are you going to feel pressure to do more than you want to if you buy the other horse?

In my opinion, I'd rather change my desire to keep that one special horse! and as someone who also has the kindest ginger mare, I'd never swap her!
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Maybe your right. Her and my other mare are also very bonded, which in one sense is lovely, but in other ways annoying as they cant go to shows together! :P
 
CastlelackSportHorses said:
I have been offered a 6yr old mare on loan, loan with view to buy or to buy! Shes belong to my friend whos doing a masters. The mare has plenty scope for bigger tracks which is what I was hoping to have with my own young mare.

My own 8year old mare that I bought as a 3yr old in hopes she would be my next 110/120 horse because I have her half sister who jumps this and who has really maxed out at 1m.

My issue is, I cannot take on a 3rd horse. Financially or timewise.
I absolutely love the bones out of my girl but she realistically is going to suit a low level riding club home more than what I would want, but I would hate to sell her and find she ends up in the wrong hands.

How do I come to terms that she is not the horse for me and I her. When I think about selling her my heart hurts.
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Take the one on LWVTB and do a similar thing with your older girl. That way if it’s not working you can get her back at short notice.

I’ve found with my horses (I’ve loaned/leased/done deals) that you can tell reasonably quickly if the combination is happy and once you see your horse going well for someone then that uneasy feeling you have now diminishes
 
CastlelackSportHorses said:
I had her advertised last summer and not one person came to look at her. She has done everything in the book, but at 80/90cm. And it seems most riding clubbers and amateur riders want 110/120 horses to potter around 80cm tracks. Which makes no sense to me.
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I'd have her 😂 I have a 1.10 capable horse who's batsh*t crazy and I'd much prefer something less talented but less crackers to potter round 80/90cm courses on 🤣
 
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