When a horse has to be PTS..

LittleBlackMule

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After a hideous, traumatic morning with my poor mare, and seeing clearly how much comfort she gained from having me in sight as the slaughter man did his job, I would just like to say that if anyone in the south east area is facing this situation and needs someone to be with them, I am volunteering.

I have been lucky that in a lifetime of having horses I have only now had to be there for one of my own, although I have been present for others. The slaughter man didn't want me there but as I moved away she started to panic, so I stood as close as I was allowed and talked to her and she visibly relaxed, and it just brought it home to me how important it was for her.
 
I'm sorry for your loss, you obviously had a good bond with your mare. It's never easy whether it's your own or not but it's a very kind gesture you have made and I'm sure someone will be grateful for your help at some point.
 
I'm so sorry about your mare.

Such a kind offer though, I know many people who struggle to cope with watching their horses being PTS and friendly support from someone who has been through it can help so much.
 
So very sorry about your mare. She was obviously loved and cared for to the end.
But, remember that you have been through a traumatic experience, coping brilliantly, and you now need to give yourself a pause.
x
 
Thank you. I have contacted the BHS to find out about joining the scheme.

I know I'm in shock, it was an awful end for her. She was so exhausted and full of drugs so I wasn't expecting her to be aware of what I was doing but the second I moved away she lifted her head looking after me and started struggling, and only settled when I moved close again. It was almost more devastating than making the decision had been.
It has made it so important for me to be with my others when they go, and if I can help with any other horse I will.
 
I am so sorry for your loss. It really is a truly horrendous thing to go through. I have been with a couple of other people's horses and two of my own. But I still cannot think of my mare's death without it hurting me so much it is almost unbearable. But I wouldn't for one moment have not been there. I think we owe them that.
 
So, so sorry for your loss. Your mare was lucky to have you. x

As someone who is unable to face being there as the deed is done, let me just say people like yourself mean everything to both horse and owner.
 
What a lovely offer.
I was unable to be there when my old boy was PTS (it was sudden and I was abroad), and was lucky to have a friend who was willing and able to help. It's such a terrible time, and capable, level-headed people, willing to give support are not easy to find.
Your mare was lucky to have you.
 
Am sorry for your loss.

I held a pony for a friend who at the last minute couldn't face doing so. Knowing it was best for the animal is sometimes strangely comforting.

I was lucky enough that a friend of mine came and held a pony for me 18 months ago.

In times of need I would also help someone out if I could. I too, will look in the BHS scheme.
 
Sorry for the loss of you beloved mare, I hope that her reaction to you will be a comfort, despite the horrible circumstance.
I am with Wagtail, often people don't want to be present, but I firmly believe that the not knowing how your horse, cat. dog passed can in time be worse, the unknown sets the brain to overthinking sometimes.
I never thought I could be there as I am a self confessed softie with my animals, I too feel that I owe it to them to be there. The last sense to go is that of hearing, so our voice is hugely important IMO.
Also, I thought I would panic and break down terribly, no I was calm, I think if you are there the gravity of the situation takes over and you do the best for your animal. I'm a mess afterwards but that's by the by.
Brave lady, my condolences.
 
Oh how sad for your lovely mare and how thoughtful of you. What a nice thing to offer. As much as we would all like to be there at that dreaded time not everyone can do it so people like you are a God Send x
 
I have received a reply from the BHS, and unfortunately they are reviewing the scheme and not taking any more volunteers.

But if anyone wants to talk it through, PM me for my number, and if anyone needs help within an hour or so drive of Brighton/Crawley I will do what I can even if that means dealing with vet/slaughter man for them.
 
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