Why do folk sulk when they are asked poliety to move from where they should not be ?

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We have a yard rule - no blocking of isles - it is written in your terms, it is written on the board "do not block the isles",
So why when you are standing like a lemon with two horses trying to get down the isle and someone has plonked their
wheelbarrow in the isle and wondered off, or is laying their bed down, do they then glare and huff at you when you say
"excuse me please, can I get past" - they then strop over, glare at you, let you past then proceed to plonk said barrow in the
same place again..... then the next poor person needs to come past and it all starts over again,
Simple, put your barrow in the stable or the open stable door - oops I forgot you have one of these horses that beside being in an
airy open stable HAS to have a lead rope tied across the door, to allow it to have more "space and air"

It could be a long winter at this rate !
 
Not a really problem on my small yard but I did experience similar last night in the village pub, a group got up pushing chairs back and left them blocking my route to the loo, I shoved a couple out of the way and got through only to find more in the way on my way out, the looks I got for daring to push the chairs forward so I could get past were not nice and made me feel as if I was the one in the wrong, I always put my chair under the table when getting up and feel it is just decent manners to do the same, just as I would using a barrow in the yard, use it empty it and put it away simple.
 
millikins said:
Usually because they know full well they are in the wrong :)
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You see it at shows too. People who have entered a class in the afternoon will be hogging the practice jump in the collecting ring at about 11.00am, blocking the way for the children who are trying to get ready for their next class, putting the jump up much higher than the limit for the class and getting very stroppy when asked to vacate the area until nearer the time for their on class.
 
be positive said:
Not a really problem on my small yard but I did experience similar last night in the village pub, a group got up pushing chairs back and left them blocking my route to the loo, I shoved a couple out of the way and got through only to find more in the way on my way out, the looks I got for daring to push the chairs forward so I could get past were not nice and made me feel as if I was the one in the wrong, I always put my chair under the table when getting up and feel it is just decent manners to do the same, just as I would using a barrow in the yard, use it empty it and put it away simple.
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I get the rage when people who are using the yard for lessons leave the plastic chairs they've pulled over to sit and watch all over the place outside the school, it blocks the walkway to the fields and is both dangerous and irritating. Why can't they put them back when they leave?! :mad::mad:o_O
 
milliepops said:
I get the rage when people who are using the yard for lessons leave the plastic chairs they've pulled over to sit and watch all over the place outside the school, it blocks the walkway to the fields and is both dangerous and irritating. Why can't they put them back when they leave?! :mad::mad:o_O
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It really annoyed me last night and I wondered if it was me being irrational but thinking about it people in general just seem to be getting less considerate, thoughtless and lazy.
 
be positive said:
It really annoyed me last night and I wondered if it was me being irrational but thinking about it people in general just seem to be getting less considerate, thoughtless and lazy.
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I've been having a serious moan recently about people's sense of entitlement. The "how dare you tell me what to do" brigade. Started by politely asking someone to move their car so I could drive into the little road I live on.

Probably best I don't start to rant on here though - supposed to be working!!
 
What used to annoy me, was a few who insisted their horse needed a Haynet tied up on the yard while they tacked up, then happily ride off leaving the mess behind and never brushing up the mess, and those who picked out hooves on the yard and just left it there, or pulled a tail or mane and never brush up the hair.. I am OCD by the way 😂😂
 
My pet hate is chairs left around the outside of the school, and jumps left in the arena all over the place and instead of putting the poles away they get chucked along the edge of the school, :mad:
 
be positive said:
It really annoyed me last night and I wondered if it was me being irrational but thinking about it people in general just seem to be getting less considerate, thoughtless and lazy.
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I think there are always inconsiderate people in life, always have been always will be. Reading this thread has sent shivers down my spine reminding me of many moons ago at livery yards in my teens. Don't think I could deal with it now days, I'm far too intolerant of rude arrogant behaviour and would end up saying something ! Good job I have my own place now and can enforce my own rules otherwise I would spontaneously combust back on livery !
 
Yep we have 1. Out of 20 owners there is always a bad egg. Or in this case 2 given ‘they’ like to come up as a couple. One of those ones where everyone is entitled to 2 feed bin spaces, yet they have 3.... the scenario goes on...
 
My thing is why would anyone park in front of a trailer, on a large yard with lots of empty space to park in. Why would you choose to block someone in and then wander off on a hack?
 
absolutely agree with all of these, i take my dogs to a local country park most days. on a normal day there will be about 6 or 7 cars and the car park holds about 50......so i park in the furthest part of the car park as i need to have my door open wide so i can get out easily(hip problems) the number of times people park really close to my drivers door when there are 40 other spaces to use......it drives me mad!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! what is the matter with them???????
 
People are ignorant, impatient and arrogant. That's all there is to it. And when somebody points out a fault that cannot be denied without appearing ridiculous, they become defensive or aggressive.

Sulky is defensive. That, in my opinion, is better than them becoming aggressive.

Well, most of the time.

There are times, however, when I would not provoke a fight, but wish that the other person would: so that I would have a good and legal reason for a proportionate and timely riposte...
 
Visitors in hospitals who collect a plastic chair from a stack, carry it to bedside they are visiting then leave it there when they go. This has always happened afaik and has always annoyed me. Since when did stacking the chairs of fully functioning adults become a nursing responsibity?
 
"If my yard agreement said "no tying up in the isles", I would feel free to tie my horse up in the aisles to make the point that spelling matters."

and before you mock people and try to make them look stupid please make sure you are fully aware of the background of the person and any issues they may have - belittling people's spelling and grammar is offensive, nasty and cruel especially when you do not know the person, how do you know what and whom you are mocking and the reasons they may not be as perfect in the writing skills or shall we make HHO ban anyone without a English degree ?
 
It was hardly mocking the OP. I found the miss spelling jarring too, because "isles" is a totaly different word with a different meaning to "aisles" and I couldn't help having pictures of the Outer Hebrides or some such with a load of barrows strewn around. Whatever....
 
yes but you were polite enough not to comment, and at the end of the day this is not work, it is not college and it is not school or the BBC - no one here has the right to call others out on spelling or grammar- not unless you know the person and the back ground.

And how do you know how I feel - yes after suffering from a serious health issue and trying to get back to being normal - I do feel stupid and like I was being mocked and don't say use spell check as my dexterity has also been seriously compromised.
 
I might have had a slight chuckle last night when two of the main aisle blockers, blocked each other :D
But it appears they really don't find it remotely annoying or inconvenient, so there we go its me that needs to get over it.
There's no rule against it on our yard but it can make it hard to get in and out when your horse is stabled in the middle of the row.

However I will not handle the person who keeps moving my very expensive saddle to make way for their half full of tat plastic storage tub so well.
I could put my saddle somewhere else I would but the rest is full of plastic storage tubs and wester saddles do not fit on English saddle racks.
It's nearly enough to make me leave a passive aggressive note on the board :D
 
i hate it when people leave the chair in the middle of the room when leaving the table!


were you born in a barn!

who do think is going to put the chair under the table!

why are you so untidy!

i don`t give a toss, i was bought up by granny so tend to notice these things
 
Gingerwitch said:
"If my yard agreement said "no tying up in the isles", I would feel free to tie my horse up in the aisles to make the point that spelling matters."

and before you mock people and try to make them look stupid please make sure you are fully aware of the background of the person and any issues they may have - belittling people's spelling and grammar is offensive, nasty and cruel especially when you do not know the person, how do you know what and whom you are mocking and the reasons they may not be as perfect in the writing skills or shall we make HHO ban anyone without a English degree ?
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Anyone who has attended a school with qualified teachers should be able to spell. Grammar and spelling ARE important, they are vital in making communication clear, which appears to be the problem at the root of this original post. I am aware that some people have a problem with dyslexia (my brother is dyslexic), but that is no reason to advocate abandoning correct use of words. The intention of the comment was humour, not cruelty etc., and I found it amusing.
 
What used to get me were kids charging about on ponies in the practice arena, almost colliding with you, then when you ask the parents who are usually gossiping elsewhere to supervise them they then get all pissy, and you end up in a big ding dong...don’t miss that bit of shows!
 
Gingerwitch said:
"If my yard agreement said "no tying up in the isles", I would feel free to tie my horse up in the aisles to make the point that spelling matters."

and before you mock people and try to make them look stupid please make sure you are fully aware of the background of the person and any issues they may have - belittling people's spelling and grammar is offensive, nasty and cruel especially when you do not know the person, how do you know what and whom you are mocking and the reasons they may not be as perfect in the writing skills or shall we make HHO ban anyone without a English degree ?
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I honestly just thought the isle comment was a joke, I didnt see any harm meant by it. it made me laugh, not at you OP, but just at the imagery
 
i have two friends who come out with the wrong words at times, i have laughed until i cried, so now they do it deliberately and i love it! {and them}

i might add they are both very clever people, although one can neither read or write.
 
tristar said:
i hate it when people leave the chair in the middle of the room when leaving the table!


were you born in a barn!

who do think is going to put the chair under the table!

why are you so untidy!

i don`t give a toss, i was bought up by granny so tend to notice these things
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My grandmother used to use that expression, about being born in a barn, and mother still uses it, when somebody leaves the door wide open.
 
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