Why do horsey women have children? Discuss!

Have to disagree with the above post; I don't think 'growing up' comes into it. In fact, having actually lived 'quite a lot' the more I experience, the more I think it would be unfair to bring a child into this world, sadly. Also surely it's a risk to have a child if you are not maternal? Luckily you liked yours but it would be an awful thing to regret!
 
As an excuse to buy a cute little section A/Shettie/lead rein pony!!! Dur!!!

Seriously, I'm not into kids and have said for years I'd rather have a horse than a baby (my pregnant friend replied that if you had to give birth to it you'd prefer a baby!!! :lol: ) but I do love seeing my nephew ride, and seeing the lead rein showing classes and first ridden is about as close to broody as I ever get!

DH refuses to contribute to the over popoulation of the world, and I'm with him on that so I'll continue to indulge/encourage my nephew's horsyness and see if I can persuade my sister to buy a pony.
 
Ive got a really bad head ache so only read a couple of replies.

My reason for having a child is because my life doesn't revolve around horses!
I do have a life, I dont live to have horses! I love having them, but my family is top priority!
 
I really don’t want children a lot of people say that but i really mean it. There isn’t a need for me to reproduce the keep the population going so i opt out.

Maybe i cure the need to nurture by having a horse and therefore don’t feel the need to have a child.
 
My reason is so he will follow in his daddies footsteps as a farrier, i WILL get my horses shod for free still, even when his daddy is retired lmao.

I actually never wanted children. My pregnancy wasnt planned at all, but its the best thing in the world to be a mum. Im very supprised in myself!! I will definetly have more.
Dont get me wrong, It is harder up the yard, everything takes twice as long, cant ride without someone watching bubba etc etc but i wouldnt change anything. x
 
OH and I decided a long time ago that we didn't want children - and I'm now getting to the age where it very unlikely anyway.

I love kids, don't get me wrong, and I totally spoil my young niece and nephew at every opportunity and one day I hope to be able to afford a pony for them to share too, so that I can do the Pony Club thing with them (it'll have to be Pony Club Aunt though, not Pony Club Mum).

If I'm honest though, I wouldn't have minded my own child - I mean, if I'd accidentally fallen pregnant with my OH, then I absolutely know that I would want to keep the child. However, in my case the time has never been right.

We live in a shoebox flat, because that's all we can afford. Both of us earn salaries well under not just the local average, but the National average too. To make up for this, on top of my demanding full-time job I do 1 weekend day and four evenings per week part time jobs also, just to pay for my horses. Most evenings I don't finish work until 10.30.

There is no way that we could squeeze a child into our home, our time or our budget. If life had turned out different, then yes, maybe I would have had children, but as far as I'm concerned, at the moment it would be completely unfair to bring an innocent child into the struggle that is mine and OH's daily life.

Problem is, if life does start to improve for the better for us in the future, it will be far too late. At the moment, I don't regret not having kids - but I am worried that I'll feel different when it is absolutely too late and I'm not that far away from that time now, but (vicious circle) we're currently in absolutely no circumstance where it would be fair to bring up a child.

Sorry for the long post. I've just made myself all depressed now, thinking about it all!
 
Bless ya, in my eyes, what will be will be! I'm a strong believer in fate! It will happen if it's meant to!!
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One of the reasons I want kids is so when I die they will inherit my worldy assets... not the ruddy government!! I am actually being serious on that one lol! My Dad died nearly 4 years ago and it really 'miffs me' (<-- extremely mild and polite version of saying it)
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it miffs me that the government taxed my Dad on what he earnt, taxed him on interest on savings, and now taxing him again!! Ruddy 40% inheritance tax pffffft!
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Hence why I wouldn't want them to get another single penny off me then what they do anyway with my earnings etc....!
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Rant over.... abit off subject... apologies!! grrrh damn government! xx I hate tax
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Now I have angered myself lol
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Urm because like many 'non-horsey' women we've made a concious decision to raise a family. I was never particlarly broody but knew that I definitely wanted children before I got too old.

My life did not 'end' when I had my 2 boys. There doesn't have to be an 'either' 'or'.

I've read some really inspiring stories on here from members who juggle both and do it well.

I feel like I have the best of both worlds and wouldnt have wanted to live my life without my horse or my boys.

I'm very proud of the fact that I manage both.

Neither the children or the horse want for anything.

My husband is wonderful and very supportive as am I of him.

We have a very fulfilled life and I have never even questioned 'why' I had kids- I just look at them and there's my answer.

Edited to say-on the subject of pregnancy-'disgusting???' I loved it I don't see how people could make such an odd comment especially if they've never experienced it themselves.

I actually feel a bit miffed about some of these slightly derrogatory comments. Its about personal choice at the end of the day.
 
Heck I really didn't mean to be disparaging- just trying to be honest about my own- admittedly minority- opinions
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I agree 100% that it's down to individual choice and am just interested as to WHY people make that huge decision. After all horses aren't just a hobby- they are a massive passion and commitment. However, that 'why' question seems to be the one thing that people can't answer- they just seem to 'want' children! Interesting...
 
I love my son who is nearly 25 and would never ever be without him. However I started in horses after he was able to look after himself.

If I saw my time again I would have had horses first adn not had him when i was just 20. There is even a possibility that i would never have had him if I had horses first as I am really quite obsessed now lol
 
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