Why do people at school think that I'm "gay" because I ride?

Put up that poster of a horse falling with the rider underneath and the words "You play soccer? That's cute." Might give them something to think about.
 
Try something along the lines of "yeah mate I'm the gay one spending my weekends with loads of pretty girls in tight white trousers and leather knee high boots while your having a muddy cuddle with the boys on the rugby field......"

Or just "have you seen how many girls there are in pony club?" Or "you might think the breeches are gay but the girls think they are HOT!"

Don't worry about it, if you don't let it bother you then it is a lot less fun for them and if you can turn it back on them then even better. Whatever you do don't let it put you off your sport. In time your mates will move on to mocking someone else for something else and probably will realise that horses are a great way to meet girls even if they don't get the sport.
 
Years ago my brother took on my fabulous jumping second pony. He never had a lesson in his life, he was just a natural. He won a very difficult xc competition. We are talking masses of entries and a well known course for not many getting clear. He won it in fine style. He had his picture in the paper jumping a huge log. His school friends saw the picture and took the p out of him in his jods. He NEVER rode again.
 
My little pony has a lot to answer for! It's seen as pink ribbons and brushing a clean well behaved 12.2.

The reality of trudging through mud to catch a 16hh mud-pig, clean it off while it tries to squash you, then slap a tiny bit of leather on it and create such a communicaton with said mud-pig that it does as you ask, from precision dressage movements to jumping large obstacles, none of which is its natural instinct, despite being 20 times stronger than you and could kill you by sitting on you, that reality doesn't occur to most people.

Brokeback mountain may not help either on the 'cowboys are manly' front!
 
If you are not in Pony Club already join & then spend every Monday talking about all the girls you are meeting. Better still, go to camp - it was about 20:1 girl:boy ratio when my son did, they will b so jealous!
 
They don't think you're gay, they say it because they think it's funny and it makes them look cool.

When you're wearing jods and boots and trying not to fall off your horse when that pretty girl you've got your eye on struts past in her tight jods and distracts you, just remember they are probably mud wrestling each other wearing tight shorts before going to have a shower together.
 
I do wonder why it's seen as a girly thing. I mean most hobby riders I know are girls but most hunters, jokeys, eventers I know are men.
 
These small minded idiots will soon get bored as long as you dont let it get to you (or dont let them see it getting to you). Theres only 1 reason they are doing it - jealousy. People only behave in this way when they are insecure themselves and want to make themselves look big and cool. I cant abide this type of behaviour !
 
Me neither, I agree wholey, it's just so frustrating constantly them think it's for girls and it's "not" a sport. Ah well hopefully they'll just drop it
 
hairycob said:
If you are not in Pony Club already join & then spend every Monday talking about all the girls you are meeting. Better still, go to camp - it was about 20:1 girl:boy ratio when my son did, they will b so jealous!
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I'd like ti but wouldn't I be too old? I'm 15 now 16 in January
 
It's already been pointed out multiple times, but - my husband started riding when he met me - he said he'd REALLY missed a trick when he was younger and wished he'd spent his teenage years at the stables surrounded by girls in tight jods who were desperate for male attention!
 
BenjiMan said:
I'd like ti but wouldn't I be too old? I'm 15 now 16 in January
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Definitely not!! A long, long time ago a boy celebrated his 21st at our PC camp. A new boy on the scene will definitely be exciting for the teenage girls in your local branch. If possibly get yourself a hot new (girl) friend as well, that will certainly shut them up! SeriouslyPC is a good opportunity to make new friends with a shared interest.

My son has ridden since he was small. He did get teased a bit at school and in his teens ending up having to make a choice between rugby and riding due to time limitations. I was speaking to his headmaster who asked what he did riding wise and had no idea of the level he was competing at - he then awaeded him full sporting colours for his achievements and ended up with his picture displayed in the school trophy cabinet. That soon silenced his critics.
 
EventingMum said:
Definitely not!! A long, long time ago a boy celebrated his 21st at our PC camp. A new boy on the scene will definitely be exciting for the teenage girls in your local branch. If possibly get yourself a hot new (girl) friend as well, that will certainly shut them up! SeriouslyPC is a good opportunity to make new friends with a shared interest.

My son has ridden since he was small. He did get teased a bit at school and in his teens ending up having to make a choice between rugby and riding due to time limitations. I was speaking to his headmaster who asked what he did riding wise and had no idea of the level he was competing at - he then awaeded him full sporting colours for his achievements and ended up with his picture displayed in the school trophy cabinet. That soon silenced his critics.
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Haha fantastic! I'll definitely look into it! Are their many girls my age?
 
Goodness, school kids are just the worst!
I don't think they realise how awesome riding is. I used to get called "Stupid horse girl" at school. You have talents and a fantastic hobby, they're obviously like the rest of the numb skulls with no skills.
It'll get better.
 
Chan said:
Goodness, school kids are just the worst!
I don't think they realise how awesome riding is. I used to get called "Stupid horse girl" at school. You have talents and a fantastic hobby, they're obviously like the rest of the numb skulls with no skills.
It'll get better.
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They are indeed, thank you :) and hopefully!
 
An age old issue that is so dumb, although quite a bit older than you I had just the same problem. I just invited my male friends to come and ride my horse, needless to say they are all too scared to get on him. Just remember you spend lots of time around women/girls and the fools that call you gay are jealous lol.

Keep up the riding and ignore the fools.

Kev
 
KEVA said:
An age old issue that is so dumb, although quite a bit older than you I had just the same problem. I just invited my male friends to come and ride my horse, needless to say they are all too scared to get on him. Just remember you spend lots of time around women/girls and the fools that call you gay are jealous lol.

Keep up the riding and ignore the fools.

Kev
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Cheers Kev, and I will. I love riding with a passion. :)
 
My son kept getting called gay at school, and he was at the school I work at. I told him there were two ways we could handle it, but firstly....I ensured him it didn't matter if he was or wasn't, he is still my son, doesn't change the person he is.

So, I said we could report it to his head of year to deal with OR.....just agree with them and say ' Yeah, I'm gay, so what?'

He went with the latter, and they soon got very bored when they saw he didn't get a response. I don't know if my son is gay or not, he hasn't mentioned girlfriends OR boyfriends but the main thing is....when they didn't get the desired response, they soon shut up.

Not saying this is how you handle it, but it's something to think about.
 
Next one that says you're gay reply "You wish" that will shut them up. Carry on with your riding flirt with all the girls and their mums!!
 
15/16 seems like the ideal age for a boy to go to PC camp (from a boy's point of view!). Ollie was probably 15 for his first camp & 17 for his last. I will not repeat what his father said - there may be children on the forum, needless to say he was regretting liking football as a youngster!
 
hairycob said:
15/16 seems like the ideal age for a boy to go to PC camp (from a boy's point of view!). Ollie was probably 15 for his first camp & 17 for his last. I will not repeat what his father said - there may be children on the forum, needless to say he was regretting liking football as a youngster!
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Haha great! What things would I do if I were to go and is there anything I should know? Thanks
 
Sounds like the one's calling you gay protesteth too mucheth, I am totally straight, 60 years old, wear womens jods as I hate the mens breeches, and I love my pony, I wonder what they would say to me, not that I could care less at all, I don't like football cricket Tennis etc , I don't drink or smoke either, ohhhh, I know, I'm an individual, don't bother with small minded idiots, just enjoy watching the fit women in their riding gear, I know I do :-)
 
Pedantic said:
Sounds like the one's calling you gay protesteth too mucheth, I am totally straight, 60 years old, wear womens jods as I hate the mens breeches, and I love my pony, I wonder what they would say to me, not that I could care less at all, I don't like football cricket Tennis etc , I don't drink or smoke either, ohhhh, I know, I'm an individual, don't bother with small minded idiots, just enjoy watching the fit women in their riding gear, I know I do :-)
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Haha :)
 
BenjiMan I bet you'll end up with a lovely horse mad lass one day. You seem like a lovely guy! Keep doing what you're doing, they're the ones that will grow up to be losers anyway, and then you'll be laughing!

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