Why do people have to make you feel guilty..

[SatansLittleHelper]

Ok so I keep my horses cheaply, they live out 24/7. They see the farrier, vet, dentist as needed and I use a physio and saddle fitter several times a year. I occasionally buy nice stuff I like such as the odd matchy set but generally their stuff is basic and often 2nd hand. I commented the other day on a FB post and got a reply that has, probably irrationally, got me down and upset me a bit. I'm usually pretty thick skinned but I commented that I used Thorowgood T4 saddles for my 2 horses as they were inexpensive, adjustable and lightweight. I got shot down saying that these were not good reasons for buying sh*t stuff and that if I couldn't afford to purchase "proper" tack that I shouldn't keep horses. !! I use these saddles as I can't afford to keep replacing saddles for the younger horse, though if he needed a different type he would get one. I struggle with my Fibromyalgia to lift leather saddles these days and the synthetic are easier to clean.
Saddle fitter is happy with the saddles and their fit and we adjust the gullet etc as needed.
But now I'm questioning everything I buy and feeling bad.
Is it just me or do some people just really sick the fun out of everything..???

 

[Miss_Millie]

There are some people online who just get a kick out of being spiteful If your saddler is satisfied that the saddles fit the horses well and aren't causing them any discomfort or pain then I don't see why there would be anything wrong with them. Ignore the trolls!

 

[ycbm]

I wonder what Thorowgood would reply to someone saying their $multimillion international business doesn't sell "proper" tack ?
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[Sandstone1]

If you know your saddles fit well thats all that matters. If your horses are well looked after, which it sounds like they are dont let anyone make you feel bad. There are a lot of the " all the gear no idea" types about. Dont worry about them.

 

[HorseMaid]

Absolutely NOTHING wrong with a thorowgood T4! I had one for years as did my friend, I now have a leather one but in some ways wish I still had the bleddy T4 as I didn't spend any time stressing about it being dirty or getting wet (in the sea ?) and it was light, horses went well in them. Some people are just ridiculous, ignore them and carry on doing what you're doing!

 

[Errin Paddywack]

Don't take any notice of these idiots. There is a heck of a lot more to keeping horses than buying the most expensive of everything. Some people just love 'showing off' their so called expertise. Talking through their a****s usually.

 

[twobearsarthur]

This is why I don’t “do” social media. Opinions are like a** holes, everybodies got one and they usually stink. There’s a type of person who gets their kicks from belittling other people. Please remember that’s their deficit not yours. I’m a second hand Annie and proud. Don’t give them headspace. Unfortunately people say things behind the protection of a computer screen that they wouldn’t dream of saying in real life. Enjoy your horses with their correctly fitted T4’s and leave the haters behind you where they belong.

 

[Elno]

I'm very sad that I can't get a Thorowgood saddle to fit my horse. He has a enormous wither and swayed back and most if not all Thorowgoods are pretty flat. When I bought him I actually found a High wither T4 second hand (this model happens to be rare as hen's teeth in Sweden) but it fitted horribly on him so I had to sell it on ?

They are lightweight, durable and comfortable. I have had several saddles ranging from cheap to expansive and Thorowgood t8 S series jump is by far my all time favourite.

Oh, and people are horrible in general. Pay no attention.

 

[paddi22]

it's reasons like this I came off social media. it's not worth the mental energy. you don't have to justify your tack reasons to anyone.

 

[nagblagger]

I'm glad i'm not on social media, my horse care is worse than yours SatansLittleHelper ! I ride in a treeless saddle, horses live out 24/7, obviously farrier, barefoot, vets but no routine physio. Second hand equipment bought and used when necessary.
My horses have not complained at all about having 'used' goods, all they care about is that it fits them and is comfortable, their needs are met. They are the ones that are important to me, not what other people think!

 

[dunthing]

I paid £1000 for a made to measure saddle for my oversized Highland. The most uncomfortable saddle I ever had, although it did fit him well. I sold it and got a wintec which fitted him and me. Much lighter and very comfortable.

 

[HorseyTee]

Don't let a comment from someone who doesn't matter waste anymore seconds of your life.

Nothing wrong with using products that are cheaper than other similar products if it works.

I keep my horses similar to you, live out, my saddle is second hand from a fitter, we don't have match sets or anything, in fact the bridle and saddle cloth are the ones my horse came with 6 years ago. Nothing wrong with them so they've not needed to be replaced.

Just because someone spends xxxx amount on something doesn't mean they care for their horse any better.

 

[norolim]

I know that it's easier said than done, but try not to take it to heart. You know what works for you and your horses and it sounds like you care very much about them and their happiness. If anything, the comments say more about the poster than they do about you.

 

[Gloi]

Just block them all if they give you grief.

 

[Palindrome]

Snobbery, same about Wintec saddles. I had a Wintec saddle that suited my mare well but sold it for all kind of expensive saddles that were supposed to be better. In the end we went with a Thorowgood and she moved very well in it and was comfortable.

Isabel Werth rides in a Wintec saddle, she is a multi olympic medallist.

 

[thefarsideofthefield]

Nobody can ' make ' you feel anything , guilty, angry or whatever - it's up to you how you react to someone elses words . Easier said than done , granted , but don't give those people that power .
If your horse is happy and comfortable then that's all that matters . S*d 'em !

 

[luckyoldme]

Think about it this way. ..Evan if you thought that would you actually say it ?
Then think what kind of spiteful person would say it
Then think how unhappy they must be and that the statement says more about them than any type of saddle.

 

[PaulineW]

Second hand is very “green”, recycling instead of buying new.

 

[cobgoblin]

It makes them feel superior...blow a big raspberry at them!

 

[stangs]

I’m convinced that people make others feel guilty, because they feel a lot of inadequacy in themselves that they’re not caring well enough for their horses. They pass the guilt onto others and the cycle continues.

 

[Not_so_brave_anymore]

The lady who fitted my pony stocks all sorts of ££££ saddles. She was very happy to come and fit a T4 for us, and spent plenty of time checking and adjusting etc, until she was convinced it was a good fit. It's a great little saddle, I love it!

Some people are just dicks ?‍

 

[Pr1nce]

I always buy good quality second hand over new cheaper versions that are in my measly budget. Pony hasn’t complained so far and his is the only valid opinion in this scenario

 

[smolmaus]

If anything, the comments say more about the poster than they do about you.

Absolutely. They have embarrassed themselves here but that kind of person seems impervious to shame.

 

[black and brown]

A saddle which fits is all that matters. Just ignore these sad, ignorant people!

 

[Cowpony]

What's the phrase? The people who matter dont mind, and the people who mind don't matter. Don't let them get to you!

 

[Ratface]

Pure ignorance and spite. "Not our sort, dear" as mother used to say. Her ultimate put down. Followed by "Let it pass".
Anyway, I'm furious on your behalf. How ******* dare they!
Another relative had a less elegant comment in such circumstances: " I wouldn't give them the drippings off my nose". Quite so.

 

[tristar]

well i`ve got loads of them, sat there then moved on to T6`s and crosby leather saddles,

if they need an explanation, send them my way, i`ll put them right, i know the man who developed the trees and owner of the business

 

[Dave's Mam]

Because some people really just are absolute knobs.

 

[Bradsmum]

All of the above! I hope you are feeling better SLH, rise above it and continue with looking after your horses the way you want and enjoy them.

 

[scats]

I use a Thorowgood on Polly. It was Divas saddle. It’s lightweight so good for her, problems, fits really well, can be adjusted when she changes throughout the year and is easy for me to Chuck on and off. It’s also ridiculously comfortable! Win win!

 

[Velcrobum]

I have still got the T4 suggested and fitted to my late youngster by a master saddler. He said it would be easy to adjust as the boy grew / filled and it did exactly that. We went through 4 changes of gullet in a couple of years!!

OP your horses are well cared for so please ignore those hurtful comments it is very easy to be spiteful from behind a keyboard!!!