Why do time wasters make a hard decision harder?

I am horrible I am vile, the post must be pulled - why because someone has the balls to turn around and state that you should not be able to knock out foals, dogs and kids and expect the rest of the world to look after them.

The op has had over 9 months to sort her "plight" out and if the husband has big enough balls to fill a pram then he should be looking after his wife and child. But oh no - its the muggin tax payers that will pick up this bill, and the horse that is obvioulsy over priced.
 
where the hell did the tax payer come into all this...sheesh! Or indiscriminate/irresponsible breeding for that matter.. this could well be a nice competition youngster who has been well-handled and will be an excellent purchase for someone. How do you know it is over priced? do you know things we don't?

She is proposing the sale of a horse, people do it day in day out otherwise we would all be short of one and selling is often the best thing to do for the horse whether that be monetary or because you don't suit its requirements. I really struggle to understand why you have such a bee in your bonnet about it.
 
this could well be a nice competition youngster who has been well-handled and will be an excellent purchase for someone. How do you know it is over priced? do you know things we don't?
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^^^This.

Judging by the pictures of the horse I think that he is lovely, an Arabian x Appaloosa with gorgeous markings and good conformation.

If I was horse hunting he would certainly be on my list, I think that he will make a stunning and flashy riding horse when he matures.
 
This forum can be so supportive sometimes, but I never understand why some people seem to derive so much ermm pleasure (is that the right word?) kicking someone when they are down.

The OP didn't come on here to be insulted, she came on here to have a rant about timewasters. She probably knows that life isn't all it's cracked up to be at the moment and would probably benefit from some real life support from family/friends/GP. She certainly doesn't need to be told that she can't love her horse that much because she is putting her child first. Unbelievable. :(

Flaxen - I really hope you come back. There is a huge amount of support available here and there are probably quite a few people who have been through similar things. I hope things work out. xx
 
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tashy said:
GW, for a start you would do well to learn how to grieve with a bit of dignity.

Also you are not the only one to have experienced loss and it's not an excuse to behave the way you have.
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Fair comment. Gingerwitch, we are all sorry at your recent loss. However, your tantrum on this thread, your vile attack and lack of any empathy and compassion are not excused by it. If you are so angry in your grief that you want to pick on others and be offensive, I suggest you step away from the keyboard.

Appalling behaviour, IMO.
 
Gingerwitch said:
I am horrible I am vile, the post must be pulled
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I would have to agree with you on that one GW.
Whilst I can appreciate that you are hurting, that does not excuse your crass, disgusting attack on a member who is not as fortunate as you in support.
The ONE place she COULD come was here.....and now you have denied her that also.
Give yourself a pat on the back eh!
 
Gingerwitch I had hoped you had woken up this morning regretful of how yesterday went - yet you have just come back with an even more vile attack on Flaxen. I am astounded by your cruel comments to be honest. You have no right whatsoever to comment on someone's baby, particularly with such venom. No matter how long a pregnancy takes, no one but no one can know exactly what it is going to be like when a husband takes no role - you just can't. It isn't about you "having the balls to speak honestly" this is about you attacking another poster in an unkind and venomous way, you are the only one who can't seem to see it. I have lost all sympathy for you about your own loss, you don't deserve any. You are obviously able to cope with anything and everything with the wonderful support network you have at home...a blessing as some don't have it.
 
Op I hope you are ok this must be such as difficult time for you hun as it's hard to part with your much loved horse. If you are near South Yorks, North Notts borders I have a field that needs grazing until you can sort yourself out, mine come in at night but if it's well handled no issue. Sort everything one bit at a time at the moment baby must be number 1.

I have read this thread and it made me shudder, I'm Scots and we have strong and sometimes passionate views with no fear of expression but good god it made me blanche. It's fine to have a view but it's how and when you express it that matters as we don't have the luxury of body language or eye contact on here. We Scots also have a lovely saying about never giving someone a "sair heart" and I end with that thought.
 
HBM1 said:
Gingerwitch I had hoped you had woken up this morning regretful of how yesterday went - yet you have just come back with an even more vile attack on Flaxen. I am astounded by your cruel comments to be honest. You have no right whatsoever to comment on someone's baby, particularly with such venom. No matter how long a pregnancy takes, no one but no one can know exactly what it is going to be like when a husband takes no role - you just can't. It isn't about you "having the balls to speak honestly" this is about you attacking another poster in an unkind and venomous way, you are the only one who can't seem to see it. I have lost all sympathy for you about your own loss, you don't deserve any. You are obviously able to cope with anything and everything with the wonderful support network you have at home...a blessing as some don't have it.
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Very well said!
 
HBM1 said:
Gingerwitch I had hoped you had woken up this morning regretful of how yesterday went - yet you have just come back with an even more vile attack on Flaxen. I am astounded by your cruel comments to be honest. You have no right whatsoever to comment on someone's baby, particularly with such venom. No matter how long a pregnancy takes, no one but no one can know exactly what it is going to be like when a husband takes no role - you just can't. It isn't about you "having the balls to speak honestly" this is about you attacking another poster in an unkind and venomous way, you are the only one who can't seem to see it. I have lost all sympathy for you about your own loss, you don't deserve any. You are obviously able to cope with anything and everything with the wonderful support network you have at home...a blessing as some don't have it.
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Agree with this.

Hope OP is ok!
 
Shivvy said:
Op I hope you are ok this must be such as difficult time for you hun as it's hard to part with your much loved horse. If you are near South Yorks, North Notts borders I have a field that needs grazing until you can sort yourself out, mine come in at night but if it's well handled no issue. Sort everything one bit at a time at the moment baby must be number 1.

I have read this thread and it made me shudder, I'm Scots and we have strong and sometimes passionate views with no fear of expression but good god it made me blanche. It's fine to have a view but it's how and when you express it that matters as we don't have the luxury of body language or eye contact on here. We Scots also have a lovely saying about never giving someone a "sair heart" and I end with that thought.
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A kind offer, I hope the OP can take you up on it. :)
I think the OP already has a sair heart, and some comments on here have done nothing to alleviate it. Shame! :mad:
 
Shivvy I would PM your kind offer to the OP.
She must be feeling very despondant and unable to comment on this thread now *shocks of shocks* where as she may get email notification telling her she has a personal message.
 
Gingerwitch said:
I am horrible I am vile, the post must be pulled - why because someone has the balls to turn around and state that you should not be able to knock out foals, dogs and kids and expect the rest of the world to look after them.

The op has had over 9 months to sort her "plight" out and if the husband has big enough balls to fill a pram then he should be looking after his wife and child. But oh no - its the muggin tax payers that will pick up this bill, and the horse that is obvioulsy over priced.
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I would suggest that you take yourself off and sort out your own plight. You are obviously unable to offer any kind of constructive support, despite having received plenty yourself.
Are you like this in RL? What a shame!
I think you have probably offended everyone here now, so feel free to leave. Thank you.
 
I saw some of this thread last night and was appalled and therefore refrained from joining in but it has been bumped to the top again tonight and is still going down such a hideous route that I cannot believe it is continuing on here and it definitely stops people that need help from asking.

I, previously, have started to type a question and then stopped and deleted it because I have been nervous of asking something / being attacked on here, I now have more balls and don't personally give a ***** if people behind a keyboard are rude to me as I ignore those and concentrate on the positive members, of which there are plenty.

I am in awe of many on here and am grateful for their advice, I have learnt so much and still do learn but I just don't get the impression the OP is strong enough to be so blaze as some of us tougher nuts.

Shame as I think she, seemingly, is in a sad situation (I wont summise/assume/put words in mouths) & just wanted some anonymous support.
 
I find it sad that someone who has so recently received a lot of support on this board is unable to extend the same courtesy to another member.
 
Shivvy said:
Op I hope you are ok this must be such as difficult time for you hun as it's hard to part with your much loved horse. If you are near South Yorks, North Notts borders I have a field that needs grazing until you can sort yourself out, mine come in at night but if it's well handled no issue. Sort everything one bit at a time at the moment baby must be number 1.

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What a lovely offer :) Gingerwitch, can you not see that you're embarrassing yourself? What if a friend of yours came to you with this situation in RL? Would you be equally as rude and judgemental? :confused:
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OP I have pm'd you, I have an overlooker sewing machine that could do with some work, you could make things for animals, people nd sell them to make yourself some money and put it away to help you when you need it more, pm me, good luck.
 
Gingerwitch said:
Urm.... now let me think - just how many years did I live in County Durham for ..... ? small world isnt it.... still wonder now why the op has not re-shown???????????
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Are you still talking? God Almighty woman, give it a rest. No one wants to read any more of your nasty personal attacks.
This forum is an excellent place for advice, I'm going to give you some now, go and get help, you need it. You are clearly sad, hurting and lacking insight into your own state of mind
 
Frumpoon its neither here nor there if GW "knows" the OP in real life.....and if she has gone to the trouble of hunting her down in order to further try and justify her behaviour then shame on her. Shameful behaviour!
 
Shivvy said:
Op I hope you are ok this must be such as difficult time for you hun as it's hard to part with your much loved horse. If you are near South Yorks, North Notts borders I have a field that needs grazing until you can sort yourself out, mine come in at night but if it's well handled no issue. Sort everything one bit at a time at the moment baby must be number 1.
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That is a very kind offer Shivvy - you have a good heart. If Flaxen can't take you up on this she might be lucky and find another friend nearer to her who can help.

I read this thread earlier and it's been bothering me all day. I can't offer practical help with the horse or other things, I'm afraid, but I did have a few thoughts (which may or may not be helpful/correct).
It seems to me that Flaxen needs to sort one problem at a time.The horse is a problem because she has no money herself and the OH won't cough up or help with the baby so she can get some. It seems to me horse is some kind of a weapon in a family dispute. What would happen if he wasn't sold?
Assuming Flaxen does 'want' to sell him then maybe take whatever she can get for a good , safe home and make sure the money goes into her bank account. She's paid for him after all.
Flaxen - you sound very isolated. Are there any mother and baby groups around you? The WI? Church group? Maybe you could find someone willing to babysit in exchange for you doing the same? It would get you some time and a bit of space to yourself. Perhaps even enough for a part-time job? You can always come on here and chat to people, if all else fails (and you are welcome to PM me). I do think you need some real-life support though, and you need to get some independance back.

I know this may sound a bit airy-fairy to you lot but I do believe things can be better for the OP - she's just a bit overwhelmed at the moment.

Re Gingerwitch - I actually agree with some of the points she's made, but I don't agree with the way she made them. She's obviously really upset, so perhaps I could suggest we cut her some slack for a while?
 
Gingerwitch said:
Urm.... now let me think - just how many years did I live in County Durham for ..... ? small world isnt it.... still wonder now why the op has not re-shown???????????
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Gingerwitch, have you gone away, realised what an idiot you have made of yourself, made a judgement that the OP won't come back because you have been so awful and now you are going to try to justify yourself with making out all is not as it seems? You would do better to go away for a while and leave this thread alone.
 
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