Crystal-Rio
Member
Hello everyone.
This is my first post.
I have been a lurker on HHO for a long time but made an account a few days ago, as I was going to ask for advice as to how to move my horse to a new yard. The reason that I was worrying is that he is a total stress head - he is a WB X TB and lived in the same home on a smallholding with 2 othr horses all his life before he came to me 15 months ago. He is highly strung in the extreme - does not do routine change AT ALL and if he finds himself without any other horses around him - in circumstances other than ridden or longreining work - he becomes positively dangerous. He has severe separation/anxiety issues.
I am not a novice and have owned horses for 18 years but he has stretched my ability to cope to the extreme.
After having him on the same yard - which I've been on for 15 years - not with this horse obviously, but its always been home to me for as long as I can remember - we had the awful news 5 weeks ago that the yard was closing. Rio also has a bad back, so needs working either in ridden work or longreining, at least 6 days a week. This limited my options because there is a massively severe shortage of yard with good grazing and an indoor school - a must in the winter with a horse like him - is for me.
I was fortunate in the extreme to be offered a box at a yard that is nearer to home, cheaper, with a huge indoor and about 15 miles of hacking 3 weeks ago. Bearing in mind I knew how awful he was at having his routine changed, I have been stressed to the extreme. Boxes at this yard are like hen's teeth, so I was lucky in the extreme to be offered it.
Today - a friend has loaded him onto the box, driven him there and I swear to god - couldn't believe my eyes.... but he went into his new stable, no problems whatsoever - no box walking/kicking/rearing/barging which I have had to deal with when I even moved a stable on the same yard last year - I couldn't actually believe my luck.
I have a sharer, who is an absolutely wonderful person - she never lets me down - does more than she actually needs to and is always there if I need her for anything - to be honest in 18 years of horse ownership she is the Willy Wonka Golden Ticket of sharers.
The problems started when the girl who took me to the new yard - in a 26 foot horse box - tried to leave.
She just couldn't manouvre the box out of the yard. Its massive and there was a car parked in the car park which prevented her from reversing back enough to get enough room to drive out. Despite about 4 of us trying to help her, she ended up getting wedged between a huge fir tree and the muck heap. We were all starting to panic.
My sharer decided to go up to the house to see if it was the yard owner's car that could be moved, so we could get the box out. we have been into the house on a couple of occasions when sorting out coming to the yard. she knocked on the door, didn't get an answer (and here's where it all goes completely pearshaped) but she opened the door, stepped a few paces into the kitchen and shouted the yard owner. Big, big mistake.
she didn't get a reply, so she came back out and we all continued trying to move the wagon as best we could, backwards and forwards, to try and get it off the yard. A few moments later, the back door opened and the husband of the yard owner (who we didn't know at the time had been sleeping as had been on nights the night before) asking to know who had been in the house. My sharer didn't hear him, as she was at the front of the lorry, trying to guide it out, and at that time I also didn't know that she had done more than knock on the door.
He was absolutely furious, but he got in the lorry and managed to manouvre it out of the tight space that it was stuck in, but then demanded again to know who had been in his house. My sharer by that time heard him ask and admitted that she had opened the door and had come in a few steps and had shouted for Gill, as she thought the black car in the car park was hers ( it was actually her husbands) that she was sorry, but he was absolutely furious. Understandably so, to be honest, but she really didn't mean any trespass or disrespect. We were all panicking as to what to do, this huge lorry was wedged and I think she acted rashly out of fear. The fact remains though, that she entered someone's house without their permission.
My yard owner's husband was, understandably though, really upset and has told us we have to leave. I have spoken to my yard owner when she came home about an hour later tonight, I was in bits to be honest - have apologised in every single way that I can - my sharer was in tears and told her that she didn't mean any harm, we were all frightened and she acted on impulse and shouldn't have done it. My new yard owner is absolutely lovely, but obviously she has said that she needs to talk to her husband before she can give me a definitive answer as to whether we can say.
I am sat here tonight in absolute bits.
I have text her again to apologise and have bought a decent bottle of red wine and some beers for her husband to apologise again, in the hope that when he is not as tired and irritable and being woken up when on nights by a stranger shouting in his house (and I completely understand him being really p*ssed about today) that he will let us stay.
the yard I've just left is closing and there is nowhere with an indoor school that is within my travelling distance apart from where I've moved today, so if the answer is no - you have to go - I am completely stuffed.
I am feeling absolutely desperate tonight. I was expecting a stressful move, but not in this way.
any advice of what else I can do to make things better?
This is my first post.
I have been a lurker on HHO for a long time but made an account a few days ago, as I was going to ask for advice as to how to move my horse to a new yard. The reason that I was worrying is that he is a total stress head - he is a WB X TB and lived in the same home on a smallholding with 2 othr horses all his life before he came to me 15 months ago. He is highly strung in the extreme - does not do routine change AT ALL and if he finds himself without any other horses around him - in circumstances other than ridden or longreining work - he becomes positively dangerous. He has severe separation/anxiety issues.
I am not a novice and have owned horses for 18 years but he has stretched my ability to cope to the extreme.
After having him on the same yard - which I've been on for 15 years - not with this horse obviously, but its always been home to me for as long as I can remember - we had the awful news 5 weeks ago that the yard was closing. Rio also has a bad back, so needs working either in ridden work or longreining, at least 6 days a week. This limited my options because there is a massively severe shortage of yard with good grazing and an indoor school - a must in the winter with a horse like him - is for me.
I was fortunate in the extreme to be offered a box at a yard that is nearer to home, cheaper, with a huge indoor and about 15 miles of hacking 3 weeks ago. Bearing in mind I knew how awful he was at having his routine changed, I have been stressed to the extreme. Boxes at this yard are like hen's teeth, so I was lucky in the extreme to be offered it.
Today - a friend has loaded him onto the box, driven him there and I swear to god - couldn't believe my eyes.... but he went into his new stable, no problems whatsoever - no box walking/kicking/rearing/barging which I have had to deal with when I even moved a stable on the same yard last year - I couldn't actually believe my luck.
I have a sharer, who is an absolutely wonderful person - she never lets me down - does more than she actually needs to and is always there if I need her for anything - to be honest in 18 years of horse ownership she is the Willy Wonka Golden Ticket of sharers.
The problems started when the girl who took me to the new yard - in a 26 foot horse box - tried to leave.
She just couldn't manouvre the box out of the yard. Its massive and there was a car parked in the car park which prevented her from reversing back enough to get enough room to drive out. Despite about 4 of us trying to help her, she ended up getting wedged between a huge fir tree and the muck heap. We were all starting to panic.
My sharer decided to go up to the house to see if it was the yard owner's car that could be moved, so we could get the box out. we have been into the house on a couple of occasions when sorting out coming to the yard. she knocked on the door, didn't get an answer (and here's where it all goes completely pearshaped) but she opened the door, stepped a few paces into the kitchen and shouted the yard owner. Big, big mistake.
she didn't get a reply, so she came back out and we all continued trying to move the wagon as best we could, backwards and forwards, to try and get it off the yard. A few moments later, the back door opened and the husband of the yard owner (who we didn't know at the time had been sleeping as had been on nights the night before) asking to know who had been in the house. My sharer didn't hear him, as she was at the front of the lorry, trying to guide it out, and at that time I also didn't know that she had done more than knock on the door.
He was absolutely furious, but he got in the lorry and managed to manouvre it out of the tight space that it was stuck in, but then demanded again to know who had been in his house. My sharer by that time heard him ask and admitted that she had opened the door and had come in a few steps and had shouted for Gill, as she thought the black car in the car park was hers ( it was actually her husbands) that she was sorry, but he was absolutely furious. Understandably so, to be honest, but she really didn't mean any trespass or disrespect. We were all panicking as to what to do, this huge lorry was wedged and I think she acted rashly out of fear. The fact remains though, that she entered someone's house without their permission.
My yard owner's husband was, understandably though, really upset and has told us we have to leave. I have spoken to my yard owner when she came home about an hour later tonight, I was in bits to be honest - have apologised in every single way that I can - my sharer was in tears and told her that she didn't mean any harm, we were all frightened and she acted on impulse and shouldn't have done it. My new yard owner is absolutely lovely, but obviously she has said that she needs to talk to her husband before she can give me a definitive answer as to whether we can say.
I am sat here tonight in absolute bits.
I have text her again to apologise and have bought a decent bottle of red wine and some beers for her husband to apologise again, in the hope that when he is not as tired and irritable and being woken up when on nights by a stranger shouting in his house (and I completely understand him being really p*ssed about today) that he will let us stay.
the yard I've just left is closing and there is nowhere with an indoor school that is within my travelling distance apart from where I've moved today, so if the answer is no - you have to go - I am completely stuffed.
I am feeling absolutely desperate tonight. I was expecting a stressful move, but not in this way.
any advice of what else I can do to make things better?
no point in stressing until you know you have something to stress about.
