AIBU - lead rein size

[PinkvSantaboots]

She is too old for lead rein and her horse is not suitable, just sign her up for something else (dressage, RC, fun ride, etc...), no need to make drama or claiming she is being "excluded from all child including riding activities".
ETA: I didn't have a horse until I was 23, she is lucky to have one, I am sure she will get over the fact that she can't do a lead rein hack with a hunt.

No one is too old for lead rein if someone is learning to ride at any age they go on a lead rein first, I've seen an adult on a horse in a lead rein class at a local show purely because they can't control the horse by themselves.

 

[Palindrome]

No one is too old for lead rein if someone is learning to ride at any age they go on a lead rein first, I've seen an adult on a horse in a lead rein class at a local show purely because they can't control the horse by themselves.

In the case of OP, she says her daughter can ride off the lead rein.

I have seen beginner riders on the lunge or on steady type riding school horses that follow each other, but can't see the benefit of the lead rein for an adult rider. Personnally, I would not want to be on the lead rein if the horse was acting up, as there are chances the handler could get injured. I have done it for backing in the first stages but can't see the use for much more.

 

[PinkvSantaboots]

In the case of OP, she says her daughter can ride off the lead rein.

I have seen beginner riders on the lunge or on steady type riding school horses that follow each other, but can't see the benefit of the lead rein for an adult rider. Personnally, I would not want to be on the lead rein if the horse was acting up, as there are chances the handler could get injured. I have done it for backing in the first stages but can't see the use for much more.

I know her daughter can ride so it is a slightly different situation.

I worked at a riding school years ago and all the adult beginners were on lead rein for the first few hacks out, I don't think it's so much that the horse is acting up they are just so novice so it's safer to lead them.

 

[Red-1]

When I was teaching adult beginners, they would start on the lead. One leading and me teaching, hand on their knee. They would learn rising trot in that first lesson, while we were there to control the horse, maintain their balance and make it safe. They would learn rudimentary steering and stop/go signals as well.

After that, they would have a short time on the lead next lesson to make sure the rising trot was still there, and they remembered how to steer/stop/start. Then they would progress to the lunge, until they had an independent seat and were able to walk/trot and steer/stop/start reliably for themselves.

Nothing wrong with an adult on a lead rein as a way to learn.

But not on a child's hunt ride!