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So, I got to the yard today at 5pm after work, expecting to find my boy in the field as I'd left him last night. Another livery checks him in the morning for me if he's turned out.

I was shocked to find he'd been brought in to his stable!? It was raining all day but he had a rug on so would have been fine in the field. His water bucket was empty, he had no hay, the stable was a mess with poo and wee and he was bone dry so had obviously been there a while.

I'm fairly new to the yard so asked around if anyone knew who'd brought him in or if it might have been YO. No one knew who had brought him in and they said YO never does this.

Now, fair enough, someone may have been trying to do me a favour by bringing him in but why not text me to tell me!? I also would NEVER take it upon myself to bring someone's horse in without asking them?

I'm worried he may have ulcers as it is and him standing in his stable for God know's how long with no hay has not helped!
 
Could there be an obvious reason like his companions were brought in, or is he one to stand in the gateway & make it hard for others to bring in? And have you spoken to livery who checks him am?
 
Think you need to establish who brought him in and why before getting annoyed.

No I would not want my horse left in a stable without hay/water (but then he may have eaten his hay.drunk the water), but equally I would not want them left out alone if stressed.

Perhaps always leave your stable ready with hay/water if he is likely to get stress when left alone.
 
littlelegs said:
Could there be an obvious reason like his companions were brought in, or is he one to stand in the gateway & make it hard for others to bring in? And have you spoken to livery who checks him am?
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Thanks, yep I suppose it's possible! It may have been because his companions were brought in; although I would have appreciated a text or for them to have given him a decent amount of hay and water. He's not the most sociable in the field and always on his own so I doubt he'd bother being left alone but I suppose someone else wouldn't know this. I don't think he would be stood in gateway as he's never waiting to come in, he's usually further down the field and I have to walk down to get him. But perhaps he was today; who knows! I think I'm more annoyed about not being informed! The livery who checks said he was in field at 8am when she checked but doesn't know what happened after that!
 
if he was happily stood outside not fussed about the weather then yes id be slightly peeved in the circumstances given that they didnt ask you. if however theres any chance he could of been hooning round a slippery field cos all his friends were in, or standing by the gate looking really cold and miserable id reserve judgemnent until could find out exactly what happened. It does sound as if someone took pity on him though, given the weather and that it isnt a regular occurance it sounds to me as if they had his best interests at heart, although i do agree they should have told you and leaving him without any hay or water isnt really acceptable.
 
Depends on the situation. My friend has just bought a horse and put it on our yard.

I got a text from the yard (they couldn't get her) saying someone had brought her horse in. Everyone else had brought theirs in due to the weather and he was panicing in the field.

He had just been put in his stable, not fed or anything, they do have automatic waterers.

Case of the lesser of two evils really. He had an hour or two before she arrived but he wasn't stressed and more important he wasn't injured. He could have been if he had been left out.
 
At our yard we often bring each other's horses in/out if field mate is going, but would never leave them without hay/water, so yes, I think you have the right to be annoyed. You can't be expected to read other people's minds!
 
piebaldsparkle said:
Think you need to establish who brought him in and why before getting annoyed.

No I would not want my horse left in a stable without hay/water (but then he may have eaten his hay.drunk the water), but equally I would not want them left out alone if stressed.

Perhaps always leave your stable ready with hay/water if he is likely to get stress when left alone.
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Yes thanks; I think I'm more annoyed at not being told than him being brought in as everyone has my number. I could also have asked my sister to pop up and see to him earlier as I knew I had a meeting after work hence why I left him in field. I also highly doubt he'd get stressed on his own; he grazes on his own and is never near the others in the field but, like I said, perhaps he had a paddy today. Would just have appreciated a text or at least a scribbled note to explain and inform me if he'd had hay or not!
 
The trouble often for other liveries that bring in, is that they can be dammed if they do and equally dammed if they don't!

Get the facts straight first OP. I would very much doubt that who ever it was, would of taken the time and trouble to trail in your horse just for the crack or to annoy you?
 
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Do you think that they brought him in because he was shivering or something? Last night was spectacularly bad weather... My two live out at night fine, but last night they got really cold. They came in shivering and drenched. The weather was so bad that I had to shut the top doors too to warm them up and dry them off. They had rugs on.

Perhaps he did have some hay and water last night and others thought you'd put him there this morning?

To be fair, I wouldn't touch someone else's horse under normal circumstances, but if they were left alone in the field and shivering, on a really bad night like last night, I just might.

As someone said, leave the stable made up just in case perhaps, or leave your mobile no somewhere for people to contact you in an emergency?
 
Thanks. Everyone has my mobile number and knows he's mine so even if others have decided to make my horse's care their responsibility, a text or phone call would have been nice! I didn't even pick up a new bag of shavings on the way to the yard as I wasn't expecting to have to muck out 3 barrows of heavily soiled bedding. Just generally annoying as I don't like being taken by surprise!
 
Elsbells said:
The trouble often for other liveries that bring in, is that they can be dammed if they do and equally dammed if they don't!

Get the facts straight first OP. I would very much doubt that who ever it was, would of taken the time and trouble to trail in your horse just for the crack or to annoy you?
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I would very much like to get the facts straight, but unfortunately whoever the mystery person is they are keeping very quiet! I'm sure they wouldn't do it just to annoy me, but unfortunately they have!
 
I work at a yard where liveries frequently bring in and turn out each other's horses. Sometimes it's the result of an arrangement with the owner, sometimes it's not. In this weather every horse in the place has been brought in, and I know that no one here would hesitate to bring in someone else's horse for them due to the fact that today even rugged horses were coming in shivering. It would be very rare here for someone to give someone else's horse hay either, as people are so particular about what they feed their horses. I'm sure whoever brought him in meant well :)
 
thinkitwasjune said:
It would be very rare here for someone to give someone else's horse hay either, as people are so particular about what they feed their horses. I'm sure whoever brought him in meant well :)
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Yes, I'm sure they meant well but it doesn't make it OK IMO. He is my horse and even if someone decided it was up to them to bring him in, they should have texted me. I also think that anyone with any common sense would know that a horse should not be stood in a stable for hours with no hay. To be honest, the more I think about it the more annoyed I get!
 
casinosolo said:
I would very much like to get the facts straight, but unfortunately whoever the mystery person is they are keeping very quiet! I'm sure they wouldn't do it just to annoy me, but unfortunately they have!
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But maybe theyre keeping quiet cos theyve heard your annoyed, even though to their mind they were doing you a favour bringing your horse in from horrendous conditions to a nice warm stable. just a thought.
 
casinosolo said:
Yes, I'm sure they meant well but it doesn't make it OK IMO. He is my horse and even if someone decided it was up to them to bring him in, they should have texted me. I also think that anyone with any common sense would know that a horse should not be stood in a stable for hours with no hay. To be honest, the more I think about it the more annoyed I get!
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I can understand that, however you need to be very careful how you react.

You could find that no-one is prepared to risk helping your boy out in the future, and one day you could regret it.

They could have given him a little hay and water but he had finished it, you cant be sure.
 
this is interesting as a few weeks ago I asked someone to turn my horse out in the morning (person getting paid to do so) then when i went to fetch her in said person had brought her in to.....so she was standing in her stable with no hay for god knows how long :( i didnt want to tell the person off as they obviously thought they were doing me a favour!

I dont feel I owe it to the rest of the yard to tell them if i need to leave my horse in its stable for whatever reason......
 
casinosolo said:
Yes, I'm sure they meant well but it doesn't make it OK IMO. He is my horse and even if someone decided it was up to them to bring him in, they should have texted me. I also think that anyone with any common sense would know that a horse should not be stood in a stable for hours with no hay. To be honest, the more I think about it the more annoyed I get!
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I think you're being a little unreasonable tbh...somebody has taken the time out of their day to get your horse in, probably getting wet and cold themselves...maybe they forgot to text/call you? Maybe they sent the text but you didn't receive it? Would you have been annoyed to come down, find everybody elses horses in and warm and yours out alone, shivering? Maybe leave a clean bucket of water and a net outside so that if somebody does you a favour in future they don't need to further add to their time by fetching your horse water and food. I'd be thanking whoever it was, not moaning about not getting a text to tell me they'd done me a favour!
 
Natwood said:
But maybe theyre keeping quiet cos theyve heard your annoyed, even though to their mind they were doing you a favour bringing your horse in from horrendous conditions to a nice warm stable. just a thought.
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Thanks. I didn't tell anyone on the yard about being annoyed, just asked around. I'm new on the yard and don't really want to upset the balance or have arguments with people. I just think it shows a bit of a lack of respect for my judgement and seems to imply I am being cruel leaving him out, whereas I actually think it's crueller leaving him in with no hay or water. At the end of the day everyone looks after their horses their own way and if they really REALLY had to stick their nose in, or if there was a legitimate reason then they should have just texted me! I am his owner, I should not be arriving at the yard wondering where he is, wondering how long he's been in, what he's been fed or what's happened. Just inform people is all I'm asking!
 
At least people care about your horse enough to bring him in for whatever reason. At our yard half the people wouldn't even notice, never mind care! And in all of the yards I've been at, bring-in time is a frantic with everybody rushing to grab their horse quickly in case they are the last one in!! Quite selfish really.....here's hoping you have a yard full of caring people...even if they don't communicate very well.
 
rockysmum said:
I can understand that, however you need to be very careful how you react.

You could find that no-one is prepared to risk helping your boy out in the future, and one day you could regret it.

They could have given him a little hay and water but he had finished it, you cant be sure.
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Exactly, I can't be sure and that's what I'm annoyed at! I should be sure about what he has and hasn't had and why he needed to be brought in. Just wish the person had informed me. I understand what you are saying, I don't want to fall out with people but it's just not something I would ever do without telling someone.
 
casinosolo said:
Exactly, I can't be sure and that's what I'm annoyed at! I should be sure about what he has and hasn't had and why he needed to be brought in. Just wish the person had informed me. I understand what you are saying, I don't want to fall out with people but it's just not something I would ever do without telling someone.
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I agree, however when I received the text tonight about my friends horse being brought in, I rang her immediately. I tried 4 times, it was ringing out but not answered. I didn't bother any further as I assumed she would see the missed calls and ring me asap.

When she arrived at the yard she didn't know about the calls. They were showing on my phone but there was nothing on hers. No idea why and it didn't matter as I would have done her horse for her if she had not arrived just after me.
 
Sporthorse123 said:
At least people care about your horse enough to bring him in for whatever reason. At our yard half the people wouldn't even notice, never mind care! And in all of the yards I've been at, bring-in time is a frantic with everybody rushing to grab their horse quickly in case they are the last one in!! Quite selfish really.....here's hoping you have a yard full of caring people...even if they don't communicate very well.
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True, I'm sure they didn't do it to be nasty, I just wish they'd told me :( I just feel like I'm being 'watched' for how I look after him as I'm new and my philosophy seems to be quite different to the general feel on the yard. The others were rugged up and in every night in August and I believe in as much turnout as possible. Think I may need a different yard as don't like feeling like my toes are being stepped on!
 
elsazzo said:
this is interesting as a few weeks ago I asked someone to turn my horse out in the morning (person getting paid to do so) then when i went to fetch her in said person had brought her in to.....so she was standing in her stable with no hay for god knows how long :( i didnt want to tell the person off as they obviously thought they were doing me a favour!

I dont feel I owe it to the rest of the yard to tell them if i need to leave my horse in its stable for whatever reason......
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Yes I'm sure people think they are doing the right thing. I just want the respect to do things my own way and not have interference! Everyone has their own routines and even if others don't like it, it's not really their concern. Or if they simply MUST interfere then some communication would be good!
 
I think you should let it go. Hopefully there will be no harm done this time. If it happens regularly, then yes, think about leaving, but not for one thing that may even have been done out of kindness (more than likely). It sounds like you're building it up into a complex. I'm sure nobody is looking down on you for not having rugs...
 
casinosolo said:
True, I'm sure they didn't do it to be nasty, I just wish they'd told me :( I just feel like I'm being 'watched' for how I look after him as I'm new and my philosophy seems to be quite different to the general feel on the yard. The others were rugged up and in every night in August and I believe in as much turnout as possible. Think I may need a different yard as don't like feeling like my toes are being stepped on!
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Perhaps its your own sensitivities about the yard that is making you make an issue out of it? If that's your gut feeling, that you are not happy there, then maybe look elsewhere as it's too expensive as a hobby to be worried!;)
 
rockysmum said:
I agree, however when I received the text tonight about my friends horse being brought in, I rang her immediately. I tried 4 times, it was ringing out but not answered. I didn't bother any further as I assumed she would see the missed calls and ring me asap.

When she arrived at the yard she didn't know about the calls. They were showing on my phone but there was nothing on hers. No idea why and it didn't matter as I would have done her horse for her if she had not arrived just after me.
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Thanks, it's possible they had trouble getting through to me so will bear that in mind! We do all have whiteboards and pens attached to tack room doors for notes though so they could really have put something on there. Perhaps he decided to bring himself in because he was sick of the rain and couldn't quite manage the pen with his hooves! Lol.
 
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