Annoyed at livery - would you be?

[AandK]

I have to say I am surprised at how many people think it is normal/acceptable for a YO/YM not to tell you if your horse is involved in an accident/incident, even if it is not hurt...
I wouldn't be happy with the situation in the OP. However, if I was otherwise happy with the care my horse was getting, I think leaving would be hasty. I'd just speak to YO/YM and ask if they could let me know about things like that in future, no matter how minor. From what has been posted, it sounds like they were just delaying telling you until you were back, rather than not telling you at all.

 

[Annagain]

She's a mare

Maybe I should have said any funny behaviour beyond the norm for a mare

 

[zandp]

I'd be annoyed and in fact have been annoyed when 1 horse was on part livery and I was away for work, no updates from them at all after an injury sustained before I went away - despite them promising me regular updates. Then got home - with jet lag - and went straight up to see her. Found more injuries and hadn't been any communication from them. Spoke to the YM away from others and explained that I was trusting them with her care and explained how they'd let me down.

I left later for other reasons, but that was the start of distrust.

You have to trust who you leave your horses with.

 

[MuffettMischief]

Personally I think you are over reacting a bit yes. No one/no horses were hurt, the situation was under control quickly by the sounds of things and I’m sure they yard owner and staff had better things to do at the time Than phone loads of owners to tell them something happened but everything is fine so really, quite a pointless call. If your horse was hurt, then yes absolutely I would expect to be phoned but all was fine. I certainly can’t see why it would make you want to leave. As someone said above the idea of full livery is to take some stress off you, So unless you are needed/need to know something...

 

[oldie48]

TBH I wouldn't be at all surprised if the YO had just forgotten or thought she'd told you but I would raise it with her and if you want to know about anything and everything that happens with your horse (honestly not being contentious here) I's just tell her that. Actually it made me think about an incident that I had here with my horse and companion. When they both got out and spent the night goodness knows where it never occurred to me to tell the loan pony's owner. Fortunately they were both safe and uninjured and I'm pretty confident the pony was the culprit but it was my responsibility to ensure the gate couldn't be lifted off it's hinges. My own horse is now on livery and tbh if there was a bit of an incident with her as long as she was fine I wouldn't expect to be told although I probably would be. I trust the staff there or I wouldn't have her there but sometimes mistakes happen and horses do silly things.

 

[sport horse]

A perfect reason to not have liveries - poor YO/YM cannot win. They are devilled if they do and devilled if they dont!!

 

[Kat]

I'm on full livery and like to know what is going on with my horse. I know some people only want to be bothered if there is an issue that requires their input. That's not me, I like to be involved.

I would want to know about the incident but I can understand your YO's view and I think not telling you at the time was coming from a place of kindness not deceitfulness.

I'd mention that you would prefer to be told but do it in a friendly way then move on.

 

[Winters100]

A perfect reason to not have liveries - poor YO/YM cannot win. They are devilled if they do and devilled if they dont!!

This is true to a large extent - I have to say that it would be a business that I would never want to run.

A few weeks ago one of mine was discovered in the evening with his stable rug hanging around his neck. He was seen by a fellow livery, YO also happened to be close by and put it back on, no big deal. Turns out that there had been some commotion while groom was rugging and he had somehow forgotten to go back and do the belly straps. YO was heard asking the groom to please be more careful, for me this is fine, nothing happened, no need to mention it to me. Fellow livery was amazed that I was not outraged when she told me and showed me photos, telling me that the horse must have been cold, that he could have broken a leg etc. Well yes, I suppose he was cold for a while, and yes there could have been an accident, but there wasn't and he also did not die of cold. I found it so judgemental the way this lady was telling me that I needed to speak with YO, that I should have been informed, that it was a disgrace etc. Mistakes happen in all walks of life, and it was just that. Even if YO would have told me my response probably would have been something like 'oh, thanks for sorting it'.