Sprat
Well-Known Member
My parents have always been quietly supportive, but not particularly involved anymore.
As a child, I asked for lessons for my birthday and that carried on for a couple of years where both mum and dad would come and watch my lessons. Mum and Dad separated when I was very young but they both made an effort to support me, and helped financially when I loaned ponies as a kid. I decided that boys and booze were far more fun at about 16 and gave up which I desperately regret doing. I started loaning again at 21, and when my loan mare came up for sale both parents very kindly helped me out with some money towards the sale.
Dad has met each of my horses since then, and while he is a little scared of them he always asks after them, and brings an apple or two to feed them on his yearly visits. I actually managed to get mum on my first owned mare (which looking back was quite a stupid idea, she was a demon and not for a novice). She occasionally makes noises about wanting to learn to ride properly but has never taken me up on the numerous offers I've made. I think mum has been to one of my many competitions, and dad none, but I've made my peace with that. It's not their thing.
I'm very lucky with my parents really. They don't really understand the obsession, and I'm sure they thought I would have grown out of it by now but it's just not going to happen. But they both always make sure to ask after Bean. My mum always makes me smile when she asks if I need to go the yard on Christmas day.... 'But it's Christmas!' Yes mum, but unfortunately the horse isn't quite capable of looking after herself.
After my friend was killed last year, Mum had a real wobble as she knew her well and watched her grow up, and I think it hit home quite how dangerous the sport can be. She offered to buy new hat / body protector etc, and was fretting a lot but thankfully seems to have trusted me enough to at least keep her fears mostly to herself now.
I do find myself feeling a bit jealous of friends with horsey parents who often go competing and hacking together, but on the flip side I'm also happy that horses are just 'my thing' in the family. It gives me my own time and space.
As a child, I asked for lessons for my birthday and that carried on for a couple of years where both mum and dad would come and watch my lessons. Mum and Dad separated when I was very young but they both made an effort to support me, and helped financially when I loaned ponies as a kid. I decided that boys and booze were far more fun at about 16 and gave up which I desperately regret doing. I started loaning again at 21, and when my loan mare came up for sale both parents very kindly helped me out with some money towards the sale.
Dad has met each of my horses since then, and while he is a little scared of them he always asks after them, and brings an apple or two to feed them on his yearly visits. I actually managed to get mum on my first owned mare (which looking back was quite a stupid idea, she was a demon and not for a novice). She occasionally makes noises about wanting to learn to ride properly but has never taken me up on the numerous offers I've made. I think mum has been to one of my many competitions, and dad none, but I've made my peace with that. It's not their thing.
I'm very lucky with my parents really. They don't really understand the obsession, and I'm sure they thought I would have grown out of it by now but it's just not going to happen. But they both always make sure to ask after Bean. My mum always makes me smile when she asks if I need to go the yard on Christmas day.... 'But it's Christmas!' Yes mum, but unfortunately the horse isn't quite capable of looking after herself.
After my friend was killed last year, Mum had a real wobble as she knew her well and watched her grow up, and I think it hit home quite how dangerous the sport can be. She offered to buy new hat / body protector etc, and was fretting a lot but thankfully seems to have trusted me enough to at least keep her fears mostly to herself now.
I do find myself feeling a bit jealous of friends with horsey parents who often go competing and hacking together, but on the flip side I'm also happy that horses are just 'my thing' in the family. It gives me my own time and space.