ibot
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Thank you for all your advice its been helpful i am naturally a friendly person but i think that might be the problem maybe i do need to be less chatty and go quiet
I'd try to give it a bit more time. It's so difficult to move to a totally different area. We did it two years ago and until I got my horse a year ago I was lonely. I work from home and my friends who would drop by for a cuppa were no longer around plus I only saw my hubby when he got home from work so I was climbing the walls! I moved yards once and am now at a lovely place where I've made some great friends but I do think it takes a good few months to settle in.
That sounds very unkind. You don't sound like an inconsiderate person.The people give me looks and complained about me alot in my first 2/3 weeks there and even now when i say hi i get a look
I am new to the area so we have only been here for that length of time so not really got many friends (just call me billy lol)
The people give me looks and complained about me alot in my first 2/3 weeks there and even now when i say hi i get a look
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its a fair question my puppy was a bit naughty which i said sorry for and told dog off but they still complained oh i have kids which they dont like either its now that everyone else is allowed there dog at the yard but i am not, although he is allowed to come hacking with me. The thing that upset me the most is one of the liveries turned around and made a comment about my visious (sp) dog let me tell you my dog is 14 months old and has never growled at anything in his life he has been around horses all his life but the owners dog hates him and attackes him everytime he comes on the yard yet its my dog that has been labeled how does that make sense???
You moved? Again?
Make some of your cakes and take them to the yard and ask to start over maybe? If things don't start looking up soon then start looking at other yards in the area. Amazing hacking doesn't make up for being unhappy on a yard for me
I think its a shame that the liveries/yard owner didnt do more to make you feel welcome. I moved yards a few months ago, after having kept various horses with my friend. I only moved cos of the distance to the old yard and am now on part livery. Within the first week, the yard owner organised a take away at her house and invited me and all the other liveries. Following that, we have all been out for meals and drinks etc. I think the person who runs the yard is responsible for getting everyone together and making sure not only the horses are happy but the owners are too. I cant speak highly enough of the yard I am at. Everyone is lovely and if you dont feel happy in another say 2 months then I would move or you will end up not wanting to go and see/do your horse. Good luck.
It wasn't that people moaned about my son but I felt I was constantly being judged and I felt I had to keep him away from other people as they got fed up with his constant questions.