special_horse
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why do some yards and people have to be so competitive and mean and make you feel so un welcome really cannot enjoy your horse properly
why do some yards and people have to be so competitive and mean and make you feel so un welcome really cannot enjoy your horse properly
I agree with the headphones idea. I've done it before- not to avoid bitching directed at me but to shut out the griping among others! I have no idea why horses seem to attract such unhappy people...
I must be one of the lucky ones. On the whole I tend to keep myself to myself as I work fairly long hours but I'm always polite and friendly to the other liveries and them to me. Then again I'm not particularly fussed by what others think as I'm there to do my horse first and foremost.
Surprisingly the competition yard I'm now on seems to have no bitching whereas my previous yard that was predominantly happy hackers and retired plods seemed to have everyone wanting to be in each other's business.
I agree with the headphones idea. I've done it before- not to avoid bitching directed at me but to shut out the griping among others! I have no idea why horses seem to attract such unhappy people...
Smile regardless and take cake. Everyone likes cake..
I was on large yard a number of years ago. I kept myself to myself, was very polite etc. I rode first thing in the morning so I could spend time at home etc and was called an anti social rider just because I wasn't prepared to spend my weekends off work milling around all morning waiting for people to arrive to ride out!! Sometimes you can't win!! X
Ha! - I got on my horse the other weekend around lunchtime and someone said 'oh you do ACTUALLY ride her then?'. Well yes, every flipping morning before you get out of bed. And then I poo pick, hay her field and turn my retired boy out before heading off to the job that pays me to keep them. Anti social? No - just efficient use of my time!!!
Ah ha; I have a theory about this! I think some people are not very good at dealing with people so they spend their time with animals instead (nothing wrong with this; animals ARE much less complicated!) but the worst of these people prefer animals because they are easier to bully/control.
It's evident in the horsey world because we often keep horses on yards with other people whereas a dog person (for example) would keep their animal at home so all their unpleasantness/ bitchyness is a bit more confined!
Crap, horse people don't want to bully or control their horses. Simple fact is that some people are nice and supportive, other people are bitchy and jealous. If you stick a load of people together, it'll come out. Look at Big Brother, I'm a Celeb, Eden etc.