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It was pretty much everyone. There will be an ecard with names. Everyone is so invested in your story and really feels for you. After everything that you and Bog have been through and the diving trip 😥just wanted to gift you a little something to let you know that you're in everyone's thoughts x
 
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Oh @Michen this year is really putting you through the wringer 😔 I am so sorry for what you and the crew witnessed on your trip, sending thoughts to you all, especially the family left behind.

As others have said, please do look after yourself. I witnessed a dear friend pass in horrific circumstances as a teenager. In the early days and weeks your body is very much in fight and flight mode (in the immediate aftermath we were prescribed sedatives to help with the constant repeating of events and enable us to actually get some sleep). I found even totally innocuous things would have me in floods of tears, and I felt a mix of injustice, anger, anxiety and an overwhelming sense of guilt/responsibility that I was still here/alive and they weren’t. It can become the stick you beat yourself with if you’re not careful, as for a long time I felt like I couldn’t have a bad day or feel unhappy without seeming supremely ungrateful. On the flip side I also felt I was being disrespectful if I caught myself smiling, or god forbid, laughing. These feelings are all completely normal, and they do pass in time. It’s been almost 20yrs now, I can think of my friend as I knew them without the memories being blighted by the accident. I do still avoid watching anything with a similar theme, and hate driving through the area with a passion but the super heightened feelings from the beginning are long gone.

If you ever want to chat just PM me, I’m up silly hours with little one so more than happy to just be there to vent to or for a sounding board or whatever you need. The universe is seriously shitty sometimes, it’s not character building or setting you up for something great, it’s just utterly rubbish. Lean on us on here and those around you in real life, and just try to take each day as it comes right now. Some days will feel almost normal, others will take you right back there, all of it is part of the process sadly.
 
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Cavalier said:
You guys are amazing 🤩. I’m sorry I missed the fundraiser so I can’t claim any part of it but I hope you enjoy spending it @Michen
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Ditto, what a really lovely thing for everyone to have done.

Michen I'm so so sorry about what you've been through recently, it was a horrendous thing to happen on a trip you so desperately needed to enjoy and escape. I hope 2024 is kinder to you.
 
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FestiveFuzz said:
Oh @Michen this year is really putting you through the wringer 😔 I am so sorry for what you and the crew witnessed on your trip, sending thoughts to you all, especially the family left behind.

As others have said, please do look after yourself. I witnessed a dear friend pass in horrific circumstances as a teenager. In the early days and weeks your body is very much in fight and flight mode (in the immediate aftermath we were prescribed sedatives to help with the constant repeating of events and enable us to actually get some sleep). I found even totally innocuous things would have me in floods of tears, and I felt a mix of injustice, anger, anxiety and an overwhelming sense of guilt/responsibility that I was still here/alive and they weren’t. It can become the stick you beat yourself with if you’re not careful, as for a long time I felt like I couldn’t have a bad day or feel unhappy without seeming supremely ungrateful. On the flip side I also felt I was being disrespectful if I caught myself smiling, or god forbid, laughing. These feelings are all completely normal, and they do pass in time. It’s been almost 20yrs now, I can think of my friend as I knew them without the memories being blighted by the accident. I do still avoid watching anything with a similar theme, and hate driving through the area with a passion but the super heightened feelings from the beginning are long gone.

If you ever want to chat just PM me, I’m up silly hours with little one so more than happy to just be there to vent to or for a sounding board or whatever you need. The universe is seriously shitty sometimes, it’s not character building or setting you up for something great, it’s just utterly rubbish. Lean on us on here and those around you in real life, and just try to take each day as it comes right now. Some days will feel almost normal, others will take you right back there, all of it is part of the process sadly.
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Absolutely. There was one point, which I can now look back on and sort of laugh, when all the bad stuff had happened in a very short space of time and I was in an almost constant state of trauma, when one day I was stood talking to a lecturer at uni about some assignment or other and then spontaneously burst into tears and bleated "but why do all the TV adverts make me cry?!?!" at him. Poor bloke...I was kindly ushered to the pastoral dept...
 
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We ended up with more than we "needed" to do and buy what we intended to, so we had a good amount of funds. It's nice to be able to give a gift, but honestly, the moral support and support in this thread probably matters even more. Sure, the gift is a nice gesture and something more tangible or monetary, but everyone's thoughts and support are priceless.

I think a quick sweep was done to gather participants from the thread, so if anyone was missed it wasn't intentional, or you were on the list and there was an unintentional mistake on our part/in the PMing process. You know how group projects can go...😜
 
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Absolutely. There was one point, which I can now look back on and sort of laugh, when all the bad stuff had happened in a very short space of time and I was in an almost constant state of trauma, when one day I was stood talking to a lecturer at uni about some assignment or other and then spontaneously burst into tears and bleated "but why do all the TV adverts make me cry?!?!" at him. Poor bloke...I was kindly ushered to the pastoral dept...
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I can completely relate to this. At one point in the super early days I full on ugly cried, at a fly of all things, during a driving lesson. We’re talking snot and everything! The poor instructor didn’t know what to do with himself!
 
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Well thank you everyone for everything. It all means a lot.

I am doing ok actually, no more tears. Though my brain seems to have truly shut it out because if I think of it I just see this flash of red and then nothing it’s very weird. It’s been a full week.

I need to stay of some social media though some of the stuff I’m seeing is making me furious. Other liveaboard operators trying to shift blame, yadada. Some people connected to those of us on the boat saying things second hand that are totally inaccurate, stupid, insensitive. And then the usual big fisherman who think they should all be removed from the water.

Flying to Seattle tonight for 24 hours then Arizona, California I think next week. Being busy is good I think though I’ll miss Bog.
 
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Sorry I missed the collection too but have felt very invested in yours and Bogs story and just want to wish you all the best for an incident free future and hope you can begin to enjoy life again xx
 
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Just caught up with the thread, what a lovely thing for people to do! There's a real great bunch on here. Sorry I missed out on the fundraiser, I hope you enjoy spending it! Maybe you should treat yourself to one of those massages Bog is enjoying too?! Keeping busy is good, but don't burn yourself out, remember you are as important as Mr B (if not more, because who would attend to his lordship if you weren't able?!).
 
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I'm happy you're happy with the gift (well done to the organisers). We have man flu in the house - now there's a proper crisis 🤕 - so I'm a bit distracted by the hour on hour account of how the sore throat and snotty nose are progressing 🙄

Massaging horses is my favourite thing and Bog looks like he's loving that.
 
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Mundane life question… would you guys send Boggle to a (very very good) rehab place over Christmas? I’ll be gone 3-4 weeks and whilst he could do bits with someone at current place it’s not ideal as the indoor is very deep, although that probably doesn’t matter for what he’s doing in reality.

I could pack him off to a swanky rehab and see if they can get him further along, would probably cost me about 3k though, but maybe worth it for piece of mind/trying to get him right?

He’s been through a lot though I’m not sure if it’s a fair ask for him to move barns again, is my main thing…
 
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