Do your partners help pay for the horses?

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I am simply intrigued to know if anyone else's partners help with the cost of keeping their horses? I have 2 ponies who are bringing in a very large vet bill every month currently with painkillers, blood tests and daily medication and after a discussion with my farrier and a few friends they were horrified to find out that my partner doesn't pay a penny towards my 2 boys or offer to help with finances.

I have never asked or expected him to contribute as they are solely mine and he has no interest at all, but others seem to find this situation odd:rolleyes:
 
We have a joint account so I suppose he does in a way! I think if we had seperate money then I wouldn't expect him to pay towards Bailey though, especially as if it wasn't for me he wouldn't dream of having a horse!
I think the odd 'treat' is nice, like paying for a lesson every so often, but I wouldn't want him to pay towards his livery, feed, bedding etc.
 
Me and my OH have a joint bank account so everything goes in it and everything goes out of it. He never objects to anything that is needed for my 2 horses as he knows I only get it because they need it etc. But what I earn covers the bills and what my horses cost anyway so technically he doesnt pay for them (I wouldnt want him to as there my responsibility!).

Plus we dont go out loads, spend loads of money etc and our money goes into what we both love doing, mines the horses, his is motorbikes so were both happy!:)
 
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No he doesn't and has made it very clear he wouldn't. It is my hobby, not his, it would be different if we shared my boy. I would like to think that if something awful happened and I needed extra money for vet care that I couldn't afford, he would chip in though.
 
Nope, we have been together nearly 10 years and I would say the most he has paid for is a few bales of hay!

We share all the bills etc but the horse is mine and I wouldn't expect him to have to pay for it, if I needed him to for any reason I have no doubt that he would but haven't needed him to so far.
 
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No he doesn't and has made it very clear he wouldn't. It is my hobby, not his, it would be different if we shared my boy. I would like to think that if something awful happened and I needed extra money for vet care that I couldn't afford, he would chip in though.
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^^^ this for me too
 
Sore subject.We have a joint bank account BUT thats for bills. He does NOT pay anything towards the keep of my cobblet and section A,thank heavens I have cheap grazing. I dont work so I have to rely on selling things on ebay and cb.
He did help pay for my cobblet to be broken in and often he says (in a argument) you owe me £300.00 (no chance) lol.
So those of you whose oh pay for your neds are very lucky.
 
No as they are my horses, however he will pick up sacks of feed for me and buy them the odd sack of carrots if he sees the shop has them. He also comes up and does my maintenance at the yard and organises me fabulous hay every year and helps collect it and stack it for me. He doesn't like to be too involved with them as he was very attached to one I lost about 5 years ago that he has never got over, but I do find him snuggled in my stable with my big lad feeding him apples and giving him cuddles :)
 
Won't let me edit.
I should have added that he bought the horse as a CHristmas present for me and has since bought 2 new saddles as presents too so I can't grumble! ;) Lovely hubby!
Make no mistake though if (god forbid) we ever split he wouldn't even dream of asking for the horse or half his value etc as far as he's concerned he's my horse & my responsibility! :)
 
My husband owns a leg of my pony...but apart from that has never been involved financially and never buys me anything horsey... I guess it's fair enough.
 
I forgot to say OH did help me when my two got out last november and he had to fix the post in the dark.Other than that he doesnt really get involved.Every now and then he will check on them for me. He resents them really.
 
I generally pay all of my horses keep but if there is something I need/want and OH has the spare cash, he will buy it for me.
I've had to fork out for a few birthday presents so he bought my ponies feed this month (£10).
Its swings and roundabouts - I've bought his petrol if he's not got the money and he buys me bits and pieces when Iv'e gone through mine.

I often tell him he doesn't have to and if he feels resentful as any time to let me know - but his words are the ponies keep me happy, therefore he's happy to buy stuff for them. I wonder if that means as long as I'm happy, I'm quiet? Haha.

Lochpearl- That's so sad about your OH :( Mine used to say he couldn't see the attraction, but has been there from the start to see the little one start to trust humans and he brings my big pony in so I can concentrate on little one as well as helping out if I'm ill. So while, he is involved minimally, if anything happened to either of them, he'd be sad for me but not emotionally attached himself.
 
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My hubby bless him not only bought mine for me but is also the only one of us earning and so pays for everything.

I did have to upsticks and move out here for his career though, plus leave my own job so I guess I had to pay in my own way.

Don't regret it for a second mind you and I am very, very grateful and thank my lucky stars.
 
I'm currently horseless, but my OH never helped out with my last horse. I'm currently not able to afford one and have a young daughter, so OH has said in a couple of years when she's a bit old he'd help me out if i got something like a new forest that we can both ride and is cheapish to keep, which i'm happy with.
 
Joint account so in that way yes. I do earn, but not nearly as much as he does. When I gave up work to bring up our daughters he paid, but that had been agreed from the start. He isn't always happy about it, but I never buy stuff I don't need. He chooses the yard I keep them at as well.
My friends OH gives her a budget of around £1300 a month to keep and compete her and her daughters neddies!
 
We only have a joint account and everything comes out of that. Our horse is our second biggest expense after the mortgage :)

It was OH who encouraged me to get a horse early this year as I've wanted one for (literally) decades ... he said it was silly not to. And he's currently pushing for us to get a trailer so we can go to shows next year. :D. Just to note I tend to be the one who is most careful with money ;)

And no, OH doesn't ride :-) - I realise I'm very lucky! :D
 
Yes, in fact he pays everything for them! Including the rent on this house to keep them at home! Plus the remaining mortgage amount on our house after our tenants rent (we outgrew due to my animals)! He's not horsey at all, has nothing to do with them, just pays!! I do appreciate it alot, as they get everything plus more than they need! Generally a new rug each a month!! I will be returning back to work soon (our own business) so will be able to buy bits myself but at the moment I'm happy at home with our 1 yr old daughter!
My OH is worth his weight in gold!! Very generous financially!
 
yeah he pays for everything. Well technically i work part time and earn enough to pay for them but i end up spending it all on our daughter.

The deal is he pays for them and i don't winge about the amount of petrol he has to put in his stupid boyracer car that we really did not need :D
 
My OH pays for everything.

He works abroad and to enable him to do the job he loves- i stay at home as a full time mum.

I started going a bit stir crazy and and only had 'Mum conversations'- thats when we got the horses as it gave me something at was all mine not related to house or children (although 1 is the kids pony).

And it works perfectly for us - I'm lucky as around here there are lots of mid week competitions which leaves me to be there for the girls when there aren't at school.
 
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