Dont want to be clingy. but........ sold him ............ and...

As last posting on this subject: I have looked after hundreds of horses, owned a few, loaned a few, this was the only one who really needed a particular type of ownership, who needed an experienced home........... and at last I found one.
 
You are coming across as weird OP. You have sold the horse to the best home you could find for him, take solace in that. He's not 'my boy' anymore he is someone else's horse and you have to get that through your head. You might not mind people who have previously owned your horse contacting you but done people aren't like that.

I've sold horses on and haven't been kept in the loop, I was sad but had to respect the wishes of the new owner as when I have up ownership i gave up any rights to knowledge about the horse and it's future.

If you had gone on about him being you boy and soulmate in front of the new owners I can totally see why you have had this response as if it were me I'd have been backing off as soon as the horse was on my trailer and paid for. Not being nasty but if you wanted him to have his things you shock have included them in the sale. Jot used them later as an excuse to keep in touch which yes May not be your intention but it's how it comes across.
 
MrsD123 said:
As last posting on this subject: I have looked after hundreds of horses, owned a few, loaned a few, this was the only one who really needed a particular type of ownership, who needed an experienced home........... and at last I found one.
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Tbh, I wish every owner who had to sell a horse was as caring as you especially as he went through some trying times and you were there to help him through - even if it meant him being pts rather than going to an unsuitable home. Luckily he is OK now, it must be hard to let go particularly when you don't really want to and you had such a special bond. At least you know where he is and can keep a sneaky eye on him :)
 
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The stuff was included in the sale, I never met the new owner.
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Really??? You sold your soulmate to someone you haven't met nor seen?? And your wondering why your getting the response you are??

You know this story is just getting weirder and weirder and is starting to smell funny, I'm off out of it good luck op.
 
'Stop wasting your time, looking for the key to happiness..............
the door is open and unlocked........
Just walk through it.............

If you find this strange I guess it's because the whole thread is pretty.......... odd'

Though I do love this quote.....
 
Am I the only person that thinks selling your "soul mate" to someone you'd never met = beyond crazy.
Also being ok with this new owner saying you're not allowed to visit the horse.

Er, that screams suspicious to me.
I know any sales I've been involved with/around for the new owners are usually going above and beyond to reassure the previous owners that the horse will be well cared for and often say they're welcome to come check on them (even though they may not actually expect them to - the offer is usually put out there).

I personally would never sell my "soul mate" to someone i'd never met, especially after the horse was abused in a previous home and required rescuing before.
 
I hope the OP does not mind me saying this, but she has PMed me with some more details about this, which I totally understand her not posting on the open forum to be picked over.

I also totally understand how she has sold her horse to someone without meeting them, yet still knows it will have a good home.

I think some people on this thread need to remember that there's a real person on the other end, and to be a little kinder.

OP I think you've done a very caring thing for your horse. I completely understand you still calling him 'my boy,' after all, it hasn't been very long.

Hopefully if you back off for a bit and let the dust settle, then contact again around Christmas, the new owner may be a little more receptive to contact :)
 
Well the above is what happens when you post a thread on the open forum that you can't post specifics to. Unless you willing to give out information then all people can go on is what's above. If this wasn't poster that it I'd if imagine the thread would have been shouting troll before it got to page two.

I don't post anything I wouldn't actually say to someone if this story was being told face to face do to speak. Maybe think before starting a thread should be the motto as sometimes you don't always get the sympathy you think you deserve and then the pming to get people to understand wouldn't be necessary.

As I said previously good luck op you have had some good advice.
 
It's very nice of you to post this 'Patterdale' I guess it gets difficult on a post when we get so many different things said - some a bit odd..... hopefully the OP is genuine and can now take a break knowing their horse has gone to a great new home.
 
Whilst it's fair enough that there's more information that we're not getting - we are only able to form opinions on the information we are getting. What we are getting is a confusing and weird half-story. We're all just posting our opinions based on what we have been told.

OP - If I were in your shoes, i'd try to accept that he is safe and being treated well (otherwise you presumably would not have sent him there) and wait for the new owner to make contact.
 
Patterdale said:
I hope the OP does not mind me saying this, but she has PMed me with some more details about this, which I totally understand her not posting on the open forum to be picked over.

I also totally understand how she has sold her horse to someone without meeting them, yet still knows it will have a good home.

I think some people on this thread need to remember that there's a real person on the other end, and to be a little kinder.

OP I think you've done a very caring thing for your horse. I completely understand you still calling him 'my boy,' after all, it hasn't been very long.

Hopefully if you back off for a bit and let the dust settle, then contact again around Christmas, the new owner may be a little more receptive to contact :)
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people can only comment/judge on the info they have, not their fault if there's a lot more to the story than the OP is willing to give on an open forum, if it is that sensitive an issue it is perhaps best not to raise the matter on an open forum. no one has been unkind, unless expressing confusion and misgivings over what comes across as a very odd situation is considered mean these days.
 
MrsD I understand your anguish but the only way forward now is forr you to let this go. It's in no-ones interest including his for you to fret about him any more. I think maybe some sort of bereavement counselling could really help you if you can find some. Best wishes.
 
I am going to assume he is now in a riding school? This hadn't been confirmed, but surely if he is, you could offer to help for an afternoon a week then you'd see him and get to know others on the yard?

But also read that he is quite challenging so has he gone to blood bank? College? Would make it easier to answer your questions with this basic info.
 
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Nah, its not just The Horse [formerly known as My Boy], day to day, I'm kinda stuck for something to do! But for sure, I won't need to ask for advice on here again. To be honest, I'm not too bothered about the nig-nogs, that's expected.
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i'm sorry but thats just rude. you post part of a story that makes very little sense and then get annoyed when people psychically and magically don't know the back story.

Whatever issues you have in your personal life, you are now projecting onto a new owner who deserves none of that baggage.

If you have the time and energy you would be very welcome and useful in any horse rescue or charity group, especially with your experience. Surely that would be a more positive thing to do instead of focusing energy on a horse you sold.
 
There's lots of horsey things you could get yourself involved in.
There's even more non-horsey things you could get yourself involved in too.

You just have to want to be involved and make the initial step, rather than dwelling on the fact the new owner of your old horse has not yet sent you a video or whatever your problem is. (What exactly IS your problem? He said he'd send you a video?? Would be good enough for me).

Of course you're going to be stuck for something to do if you have no motivation to find something.
 
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WHAT?? Do you have any idea what you're saying??
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Sorry if i/ve offended people, but i did say enough is enough, i thought it was a simple question.............. but obviously not.
There really is nothing to get involved in round here, that is why I got my own ponies in the first place.
 
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Sorry if i/ve offended people, but i did say enough is enough, i thought it was a simple question.............. but obviously not
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I think bojingles is referring to the useage of that term, it is a racist term for a black person although I don't think you meant it like that? :o
 
I suspect you feel this way as he's gone to a working establishment rather than a private home. Perhaps you worry that he might not be getting the personal attention he's used to, that he isn't being cared for as you would have cared for him.

I think that is perfectly natural, and even wanting to send things for him is understandable in that light.

I'm so sorry that you had to let him go. And I can understand you wanting to know how he is. You obviously love him very much. Perhaps when you last contacted the new owner he/she was very busy and didn't have the time to reply in much detail?

Maybe leave them be for the time being and give them a ring in the New Year just to check on him and then I guess after that it's up to them if they want to keep in touch. I hope they do. x
 
Ok, looking back on the pm's you sent me some time ago it's clear that the 'situation' was very upsetting and stressful for you. There also seems to have been some conflict with various people. The situation was resolved with the horse being purchased (signed over?) by the person who has the horse now (a professional involved in equine welfare).

I don't think it's unreasonable for you to want to know that the horse is happy and settled in his new home - especially given the circumstances surrounding his initial sale, subsequent 'rescue' and recent transfer of ownership. The last six months must have been very stressful and upsetting.

I do hope that the new owner will allow you to visit, and then follow it up with an update in the new year. It will allow you closure and the ability to move on.

I'm in the position of perhaps being a bit more informed than the majority of posters on this thread. And I would just like to say to everyone that this situation is not usual. Please cut the op some slack.
 
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