Feeling anxious and uneasy......is it me or is this all a bit odd?

That's terrible , deep breath ,calm and do some work and try to forget it and ring them tonight if they have not contacted you by seven.
I am hoping they have not just had him for half term , if they don't want him make sure they pay to send him back.
Poor you .
 
When they come back and ask you for a free loan with view to buy at some vague, undefined point in the future, tell them to take a running jump.

I'd be tempted to invoice them for horse hire for two weeks.

If hes that safe and so good in a new home after only two weeks, someone else will want him.
 
I think you need a bit of tough love. Pull yourself together, take a deep breath and think about this logically. As said above, they have you over a barrel, you are totally not in control of this situation, and you need to get it back. Tell yourself that it is unfair for them to keep you in limbo. Tell them to arrange the transport and that they need to bring the horse back immediately or pay for him. They have had the arranged two weeks in which to mull things over. Once the horse is back with you, you can go from there. If they want the horse they can bloody well come and pay for it and take it. If they don't then unfortunately you have been a victim of the lovely type we call 'timewasters' and will have to readvertise. A pain, but hopefully the right home will be out there for your boy. Feel for you, and your frustration, but unfortunately there are a lot of them out there, and hopefully you will learn from this if nothing else. Hope things work out for you xxx
 
oh pp.

I feel so angry for you.
What p takers.

If they decide they don't want him get them to arrange and pay for transport asap

Don't rush into putting him down.
You have the summer and minimal costs if you put him on grass livery.

Think it over and look for a new home.
We can help if you give us some info.
 
What absolute gits! Hope you have a decent deposit that you can keep.

Text them and tell them that they need to organise and pay for transport if they aren't keeping him. I would also say that you are very disappointed that they have messed your horse around, especially when he has been so good for them.

May as well make your point and leave them feeling guilty now.
 
laura-c said:
I think you need a bit of tough love. Pull yourself together, take a deep breath and think about this logically. As said above, they have you over a barrel, you are totally not in control of this situation, and you need to get it back. Tell yourself that it is unfair for them to keep you in limbo. Tell them to arrange the transport and that they need to bring the horse back immediately or pay for him. They have had the arranged two weeks in which to mull things over. Once the horse is back with you, you can go from there. If they want the horse they can bloody well come and pay for it and take it. If they don't then unfortunately you have been a victim of the lovely type we call 'timewasters' and will have to readvertise. A pain, but hopefully the right home will be out there for your boy. Feel for you, and your frustration, but unfortunately there are a lot of them out there, and hopefully you will learn from this if nothing else. Hope things work out for you xxx
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This. Totally this.

Could you perhaps advertise him for loan / share to stay with you? He sounds perfect for a happy hacking mummy...
 
I'm afraid you have simply given them a freebie to play with for a fortnight. You ask who would do this, and I'm afraid its plenty! I've seen loads of cases of people coming to try a horse simply to have a day out and a free ride for an hour and then they waltz off home again. It isn't just horses either. After my dad died, my mum put the family home on the market and it was clearly advertised as having a full acre of garden. Although all viewings were done by the estate agent mum wouldn't often hang around, if just to add info and answer questions. She overheard one man say to his wife as he walked up the drive that the garden was ridiculously large and no way was he doing all that work - he should count himself lucky as we had turfed 90% of the vegetable patch to make upkeep more manageable when dad got too ill to do anything. I've come to the conclusion that people are basically nosey and envious and love seeing what other people have got so that they can bitch and moan about how unfair it all is, at their leisure.

Go and collect your horse immediately and be glad he didn't end up with these pea-brains, and before they actually do him some harm. Send them the bill for all the travel in both directions as they have deliberately misled you about wanting to buy and make sure you badmouth them to the widest audience possible. It may help to prevent them trying it on with someone else, but if nothing else, you will feel infinitely better for it :)
 
risky_business said:
I was afraid this would happen. They had no financial loss saying no as there was no downpayment and you have bought another horse in the meantime. I feel sorry for you OP, but the timewasters were glaring at that start. Especially when you paid to transport the horse for them.
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Sorry but this ^^^

Also, if you can't afford 2 horses, why on earth did you make a commitment to a new horse before you had a definite new home for your old horse?

I do feel sorry for you, but I'm afraid it's tempered with frustration at the silly choices you make.
 
Well this is why trails are dangerous !

How ***** that they have taken advantage and found a nice horse over the half term:rolleyes:

I would readvertise this time without trial home prior to PTS and just see what interest you get ?
 
sorry it's ended up like that, unfortunately a risk taken when not even a deposit is paid pre trial, or any sort of contract which I think some hhoers said previously.
 
I don't understand why you would PTS a perfectly good horse because you don't want to have to send him to a new forever home? Pull yourself together, readvertise. He probs I won't be with you long before he's snapped up by someone who really wants him.

Ps why would you by another horse before its final that the one you've got is deffo sold?
 
I really want to text her telling her how upset and angry I am, how they signed a contract that said th horse was to be returned ONLY if not suitable for the level and type of work that would be expected if he were to stay with them permanantly.

I want to say that they should have thought about whether they really wanted one BEFORE looking at for sale ads and asking to have him on trial.

He is a 15'3 TB x, chestnut in my sig. The kindest most gorgeous and loving horse. But in April he was diagnosed with mild arthritis in coffin joints and fetlock joints. He had said joints medicated and is (or was) sound and back in full work. He is 100% safe to ride, never bucks, rears, gets strong, naps. He is an extremely safe and fun hack but is not good with large vehicles on narrow roads so really needs to go to someone who has off-road hacking. Hence why they were perfect.
 
ester said:
sorry it's ended up like that, unfortunately a risk taken when not even a deposit is paid pre trial, or any sort of contract which I think some hhoers said previously.
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My thoughts too.
Having got a horse away at present, I've had to be sensible and am loaning a fuzzy at present as can not risk owning an extra - not untill I know that 1st horse is not coming back home. No way would I have brought another till the money is in my bank from a sale (even tho I have the room for another, just not necessarily all the finances)

OP, hope you can sort this mess out
 
Get your facts right people. I did have a contract, they signed the contract. NO, I didn't get a deposit, my bad.

I haven't bought another horse, I have a competition horse on loan from my trainer.

I would rather PTS then keep passing him from pillar to post. He has been on 6 different yards in the past 18 months. (3 of them with me which is my fault as I moved, took him with me, then moved back but moved him to a livery yard when I moved him back rathr than back to my next door neighbours.
 
They have viewed the trial as a time to decide whether they want a horse, not whether he is the right horse for them, totally wrong and unfair on you and the horse but sadly a sign of how some people are :(

Make sure they do pay for transport to return him, is there any way he could stay, at their expense so you can try for a week or so to readvertise and see if the right home can be found without him having to move again, it really is the least they can do.
 
Perfect_Pirouette said:
Get your facts right people. I did have a contract, they signed the contract. NO, I didn't get a deposit, my bad.

I haven't bought another horse, I have a competition horse on loan from my trainer.

I would rather PTS then keep passing him from pillar to post. He has been on 6 different yards in the past 18 months. (3 of them with me which is my fault as I moved, took him with me, then moved back but moved him to a livery yard when I moved him back rathr than back to my next door neighbours.
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OK, and breath.

Your loan horse can go back - whilst you have your horse back.

Frustrating, but not the end of the world.
 
Perfect_Pirouette said:
Get your facts right people. I did have a contract, they signed the contract. NO, I didn't get a deposit, my bad.

I haven't bought another horse, I have a competition horse on loan from my trainer.

I would rather PTS then keep passing him from pillar to post. He has been on 6 different yards in the past 18 months. (3 of them with me which is my fault as I moved, took him with me, then moved back but moved him to a livery yard when I moved him back rathr than back to my next door neighbours.
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The way in which you worded it suggested you have bought another horse ... perhaps why people are getting their "facts" wrong ?
 
Perhaps you should remind them of said contract then? I do think it is well out of order for them to be saying they don't want another horse having taken one on trial.

Although I don't suppose you can really make them have him that easily.
 
Perfect_Pirouette said:
Get your facts right people. I did have a contract, they signed the contract. NO, I didn't get a deposit, my bad.

I haven't bought another horse, I have a competition horse on loan from my trainer.

I would rather PTS then keep passing him from pillar to post. He has been on 6 different yards in the past 18 months. (3 of them with me which is my fault as I moved, took him with me, then moved back but moved him to a livery yard when I moved him back rathr than back to my next door neighbours.
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:-) You can be firm when you need to be. I feel for you OP, I really do. But I think it's time to be firm with them. You need to take control of the situation and sooner rather than later. They are walking all over you and the fact that you have simply said 'ok' to them discussing this afternoon, you are again putting them in control. Please take control yourself. I really hope you get this sorted and you get the outcome that you want.
 
Sorry OP but it sounds like a nice free half term loan!

If you can bare to - readvertise asap so when he gets home you have people waiting to come and see him.

I can't recall your original thread in detail but I remember he has issues/ injuries - maybe bloodbank or PTS may even be the best route.
 
Oh no!!
:(.
I have been totally done over buying in the past and I don't trust anyone now, I think you were just to trusting :(.
I'd chalk this up to bitter experience. Nightmare but if it was me id beg, steal, borrow a friends trailer/lorry (someone will help you) and go and get him asap.I would not even give these people the time of day.
I'd put him on grass livery and advertise him locally (paper, fb, local rc) for a cheap price as a hack and I bet you will find a nice local home for him. There's a little horse at my yard who's a sweetie but he has arthritis (had it since he was 7 and he's 18 now!) but he's perfect as a hack and he's totally
adored.
There are lots of people who just want a safe hack to love. You'll find him the right home.
This didn't work out but plenty more fish in the sea so they say.
Just next time take the money and no trials!
It costs a good £400 odd quid to pts nicely you'll spend less than that re advertising and he sounds plenty useful. :)
 
Oh dear that's a real shame and their reasoning for sending him back is a bit annoying but it's really not the end of the world and certainly not worth getting annoyed with people on here who have tried to be helpful.

You need to calm down a bit, don't make any rash decisions about pts. If it comes to it you'll have to send the loan horse back
 
I can't ring as at work and boss is around but do you think I should text her telling her how upset and disappointed I am or just wait to hear from them?
 
Sadly you cant MAKE them buy the horse regardless of contract

And if you somehow went through the hoops and legally managed to hold them to the contract and they genuinely didnt want a second horse what do you think would happen to him?

Desperately sad for you but have him back, see what his state is (mental/physical) to be sure he is in the condition he was when he left, take a deep breath and move on
 
Perfect_Pirouette said:
I can't ring as at work and boss is around but do you think I should text her telling her how upset and disappointed I am or just wait to hear from them?
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I think I would wait I don't think you can force them to buy him and honestly it has a ring of turth to it because really all they needed to say was he bucked with the mum and we don't want him and you would have to have accepted that.
Just work and ring later if they don't ring you first.
 
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