milliepops
Wears headscarf aggressively
I think you make a good point but the one thing that will definitely put the kybosh on any plans of success is kicking at the ground with your bottom lip stuck out because of what your parents did or didn't do a few decades ago. i think that's why lammy's post was relevant to this thread.Um, I dont think that has been true in any walk of life I've ever encountered...it's a massively naive (and somewhat patronising) thing to say.
Unless the task you've set yourself is relatively straightforward and doesn't rely on lots of other people (e.g. a degree), then what you want to achieve will always be affected by factors external to yourself. Some of those will be navigable by you (once you've acquired another skillset or bought in expertise), some will be solved by luck, some diminish over time, and some will always be there. Hard work is self-evidently import for anything that you want to become proficient at, but learning which things to work at and which just have to be worked around is important. It is particularly important in anything horse related, because more than any other pursuit I've experienced, people are prone to spending huge amounts of time and money going down rabbit holes trying to fix something that can't be fixed, or trying to fix it in the wrong way (I've done it myself, I think most people have).