Forum Bully Behavior - Observation

boe said:
Lady La La, it is not the point of turning a thread into fun, it is the point of making fun of people between a certain few, that is not fun, that imo is bullying !
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Yes, it certainly CAN be bullying. I have seen both sorts on here. The boring thread hijack and endless pointless posts and in-jokes. (Harmless). The ganging up on another member (not harmless).
 
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Of course everyone is entitled to an opinion - it's the way it's put over that can be seen as being harsh and unkind (and I have made that mistake myself in the past!). Sadly we aren't all tough old boots on here and some people can take offense and get quite upset by strong words, however intended.
 
Hedgewitch13 said:
Of course everyone is entitled to an opinion - it's the way it's put over that can be seen as being harsh and unkind (and I have made that mistake myself in the past!). Sadly we aren't all tough old boots on here and some people can take offense and get quite upset by strong words, however intended.
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Bullying is a very serious allegtion to make though. The person who started the post had her whole life changed by being bullied.

Being seen as being 'harsh and unkind' (or straight talking and honest maybe) is not the same as purposefull bullying.
I'm going back to lurking but wish people would not call people bullies so lightly.
 
Wagtail said:
Yes, it certainly CAN be bullying. I have seen both sorts on here. The boring thread hyjack and endless pointless posts and in-jokes. (Harmless). The ganging up on another member (not harmless).
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You are spot on here Wagtail but that's not what boe said she said making a joke of the thread not making a joke of a poster.
making a joke of a poster is not nice but it's different to have a ding dong disagreement even where more than one person are going head to head with more than one with a differing view.
I was told I was talking rubbish on Saturday I laughed ( it helped I knew I was right ) as it was about a fact not an opinion within minutes to other posters were on saying they had googled it and I was right that's the forum working well whenever I have seen things going to far others try to smooth the way .
I think cliques is not really the right word for what I see here there are groups with similar views who follow the same threads the barefoot Taliban is one but they are not bullies they have strong views but that's not the same.
 
horsegirl said:
The person in question called me an idiot so I think I can say what I like in return. I believe calling my behaviour disgusting is bullying so shame on you!

Also correcting people is not the same as mocking, how on earth did you cope at school? What do you do if your boss tells you something is incorrect? Call him/her a bully and run away?
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Oh dear...:D
 
Someone please let me know if I am in a clique/cult/gang/secret society, etc.:eek:

I do use humour to try and diffuse threads that are getting unpleasant. Sometimes it even works. The thread with a certain celebrity rider didn't...she went off and called it "weird" on Facebook...But we got the Sci-Fi Quadrille out of that, which was fun:)

I also tend to post in response to posters that I am comfortable communicating with. Don't really see anything wrong with that. I try to be balanced and will give advice if I have any relevant advice to give. Sometimes I even bump threads for people in the hope of drawing attention to them:o

I missed this thread until now...been busy blocking Hippo's old owner from contacting me, as she has made some unpleasant comments regarding whether Hippo actually has a melanoma at all. This from the person that didn't bother to get Hippo's teeth checked in two years:mad:Anyway, you have my empathy OP, not nice to go through. Have a virtual Jaffa cake.

The JadeyandLadey thread is a debacle best left buried, to be frank. I remember reading it and feeling that certain posts were being taken out of context to create drama...not nice. Didn't think that JFTD's original post was out of line. Things certainly did go downhill though...

Now let's all be nice and hug one another. Or I shall get the big stick! Joking!
 
chocolate_cake said:
Being seen as being 'harsh and unkind' (or straight talking and honest maybe) is not the same as purposefull bullying.
I'm going back to lurking but wish people would not call people bullies so lightly.
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Great post, as are Horsegirl's. I have actually seen bullying on an online forum, but never on this one. A much smaller forum with biased admins and a particular member was repeatedly subject to mocking and name calling because they often went against the majority (and mods) opinions (and they were also quite irritating, but that's no crime or excuse for ongoing personal nastiness). It was extremely unpleasant to witness and I gave the site owner a fair bit of grief about it.

Yet every time the word bullying starts getting thrown around on here, to me it seems nothing more than someone whining about nothing.
 
"Lady La La, it is not the point of turning a thread into fun, it is the point of making fun of people between a certain few, that is not fun, that imo is bullying !"

Oh, yeah fair enough. I have never seen any of the above type behaviour, but clearly making fun of another poster isn't acceptable behaviour.
 
Ok there is a certain type of person who when challenged throws up their hands and says you can't do that it upsets me like bullying it just another type of controlling behaviour.( retires to bunker ,sorting washing actually but bunker sounds more dramatic ).
 
Slightly off topic but not really...I know someone with depression and social anxiety disorder who was recently accosted whilst playing one of those multiplayer online games...

Basically they had asked for advice on how to participate in whatever it was the team was doing. The other players ignored them, then turned around and told them to: "Quit gaming, get rid of all your computer stuff and delete all your characters cos you are crap and shouldn't be playing!":confused::mad:

Now that is cyber bullying. If this had happened to this person a few years back, they would probably have taken it to heart and maybe even harmed themselves because of it. Wish I could get my hands on the little scumbags that said it.:mad:
 
Right-

those who think there are bullies posting on this thread why don't you actually post who you think these people are? I think it would only be fair as all this hinting and whispering behind hands is snidey and unpleasant.

I'm sure the people you think are 'bullies' will take it on the chin as they are probably thicker skinned than most (I say this as I suspect it is the reason some are pointing the finger at them)

I for one would love to know if I have/do offend people because I genuinely don't mean to and if I do I'd rather you just told me so I can change how I'm phrasing things! :)
 
jesstickle said:
Right-

those who think there are bullies posting on this thread why don't you actually post who you think these people are? I think it would only be fair as all this hinting and whispering behind hands is snidey and unpleasant.

I'm sure the people you think are 'bullies' will take it on the chin as they are probably thicker skinned than most (I say this as I suspect it is the reason some are pointing the finger at them)

I for one would love to know if I have/do offend people because I genuinely don't mean to and if I do I'd rather you just told me so I can change how I'm phrasing things! :)
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Well said:)
 
Wow what an interesting thread. I had an awful experience on here few months ago i was new to the sight and was being acused of all sorts. it was very hurtful and i didnt like the way my thread was hijacked and to find other threads then talking about me.
luckily once i gathered my thoughts i didnt care what others thought. As what was being implied by other members was not true. my thread waas regarding what i could do with a 10month old colt, this esculated to me being accused of breaking him when he reached 12months of age, and i shouldnt own a colt. then i was being pulled up on my grammar which aagain was directed towards me as a person and had nothing to do with my orignal post. oh and i was also a troll when infact i was a normal person with little knowledge on colts looking for advise.
thankfuly I havnt had any other threads hijacked in this manner
 
jesstickle said:
Right-

those who think there are bullies posting on this thread why don't you actually post who you think these people are? I think it would only be fair as all this hinting and whispering behind hands is snidey and unpleasant.

I'm sure the people you think are 'bullies' will take it on the chin as they are probably thicker skinned than most (I say this as I suspect it is the reason some are pointing the finger at them)

I for one would love to know if I have/do offend people because I genuinely don't mean to and if I do I'd rather you just told me so I can change how I'm phrasing things! :)
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No, Jess, you are just fine. :) The only person I thought was guilty of specific bullying behaviour, I told her so on this thread, and why. Her response only served to reaffirm my belief, though a couple of others disagreed. It's all a matter of how you view things that you see going on, I suppose.
 
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