blitznbobs
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As far as the mental health blackmail… the answer to this is, your messiness and lack of consideration for my needs is incredibly bad for my mental health which is why I need you to leave now
How do I word it... is it justified... is it just a rant?
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Poing
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Is this your only livery? Give them notice - you are going sole use. It’s month end soon, get the written notice prepared. Don’t back down, for your own sanity.
black and brown
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Assuming they have a contract, just serve the notice period. I don't see why you need to make up a reason. This person sounds like a complete nightmare and would have been chucked off a commercial livery yard a long time ago.
Dave's Mam
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I only got to the 4th & I'd be sending them packing.
dominobrown
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When I am literally working two jobs and getting home after a 14 hour day to do their horse when they have had all day to do their horse as they have no job I get really pissed. Also when I am not working I want to enjoy my yard and horses, not sort stiff out for others
dominobrown
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When they came I was a running a „proper“ yard so had a proper contract drawn up.
ihatework
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Sounds like it’s a JFDI situation
blitznbobs
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A yard costs a lot of money to buy and maintain, there is no prerogative to share your space with anyone… you need to grow a set and get shut asap… big breath… do it and you will probably feel guilty for a few days but after that just think, you can do your own horses in your own way with out any of that annoyance that you are having every single day….
dominobrown
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You are right.
I am feeling more and more annoyed at them. Their horse is lovely and as for a while was her sole carer, I think it’s welfare and concern for it‘s future has been a factor for telling them to go.
I am feeling more and more annoyed at them. Their horse is lovely and as for a while was her sole carer, I think it’s welfare and concern for it‘s future has been a factor for telling them to go.
JBM
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I’ll lend them to ya
ester
Not slacking multitasking
hell no this is wild! talk about not appreciating when you've got a good thing. .
ester
Not slacking multitasking
also parents have used the excuse of having just 6 sheep (owned by someone else) for not renting the stables out so I reckon you can do with less than 200 
meleeka
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Why should her mental health be more important than yours?? It's your home, you don't have anywhere to go to where you can forget about it. Just give her a months notice and don't back down!
nagblagger
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I would have asked her to leave the first time she touched my horse without permission.
If you are concerned about her horse could you buy it - just throwing that out there. Maybe get a sharer to help with costs and extra help on your terms.
If you are concerned about her horse could you buy it - just throwing that out there. Maybe get a sharer to help with costs and extra help on your terms.
ester
Not slacking multitasking
how forum for one of the solutions to be 'buy the horse' 
neddy man
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Very sorry for you. They have absolutely GOT to go and very soon the soonest your contract allows, I'm sure they have broken many of the terms in your contract do they know what notice time the contract says? In the meantime like tomorrow or at weekend remove everything of yours off the yard into a locked building or garage. DO IT it's time to stop being soft.
HorseMaid
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I mean just the dogs crapping in the tack room would be enough for me to send them packing, I would have gone absolutely ballistic about all the other stuff and I'm pretty easy going!!
paddi22
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by point two I would have thrown them out. you've been too accommodating and they have taken the p•ss. is their a contract, can you use that to get them to leave. if not, I would print up a list of yard rules and hand them out to everyone, with a sentence at the end about people being asked to leave if they break them. I'd stick on every single one of the issues above. and if they do anything again id give them notice. and say basically nothing apart from they broke the rules. keep it very unemotional, just say they broke rules 2,3 and 4 etc and cite the notice clause.
nutjob
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JFTDWS
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Yikes. Not only are you justified in telling her to sod off, I think you’d be justified in bopping her on the head with a blunt instrument.
Maybe buy some pigs instead of sheep. Help you deal with the clean up…
Maybe buy some pigs instead of sheep. Help you deal with the clean up…
dominobrown
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I need another horse like I need a hole in the head!how forum for one of the solutions to be 'buy the horse'
It’s a lovely horse but not my type and it’s not that sound etc
dominobrown
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A lot of the things like times of yard opening and guests to yard, insurance etc are all covered in the contract so there are rules that are on writing that have been broken.
dougpeg
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I've only read the first couple of points and that's enough for me. Ask them to leave.
Cinnamontoast
Fais pas chier!
She’s taking the pi$$. MH is no excuse for treating you like $hit and neglecting her horse. You don’t need an excuse. Just give her that list! Kick her out. I bet your mental health will suddenly improve a hundredfold!
Jeni the dragon
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The first time their dog sh1t in the tackroom I'd have gone absolutely mental! Add all the other things and I'd probably have moved out. It's your home so you need to get a formal notice to her ASAP.
Sending hugs as it must be an awful thing to deal with.
Sending hugs as it must be an awful thing to deal with.
Cowpony
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Do you have gates you can lock? I'd start by telling her the gates will be locked at 9pm, and if she hasn't done her horse by then she won't be allowed in and you will charge £xxx for putting to bed.
Peregrine Falcon
Looking forward to cooler days
So long, farewell.....
I read the first few points then went goodbye in my head.
I read the first few points then went goodbye in my head.
dominobrown
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I have brought up things again and again, reminded of things.
Told them to clear up dog shit in tack room. I have been polite, said things face to face and in messages. In winter I brought up the hay thing and explained why it was annoying and initially was met with excuses and then tears, then not showing up to do horse...
Crazy_cat_lady
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Get rid! In writing as well to back it up, stating a date you want them and all their toot, gone by
dominobrown
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See you tomorrow at 7am... directions pleaseI’ll lend them to ya