How interested are your family in your horse/horses?

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Just wondering how interested everyones family's are in their horse riding really. I took my horse out jumping yesterday for the second time (to a comp) and we then went round to my Mum's for dinner. As soon as I mentioned the horses it was like a conversation killer - they are positively disinterested in them and don't want to hear about them.

They never ask about them, have never seen them, never want to talk about them...does anyone else have family like this? I find it quite annoying sometimes because although I'm not really interested in my Mums art hobby, or her OH's climbing, I still ask about it and happily listen when they decide they want to tell me all about it.
 
My family are not interested, they always told me i would grow out of it as a kid... hmm that doesn't seem to have happened though?!!
 
Mine are exactly the same!! They were even like it when I was a kid and had the horse at home no interest whatsoever....
 
Lol - I think my family have given up on the hope I might grow out of it
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My Dad always used to say I'd never get a boyfriend if I spent all my time at the yard
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Ones in pretty paintings? Pretty interisted if they have a space to hang something in...real ones not at all
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But just to prove the world still loves irony,little cousin is also Ruby Walshs cousin and is very close to her Uncle Ted....the world IS evil
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TBH I think it's not that they're disinterested, they just don't understand. Mine will ask, 'How are the horses then?' but I have learnt to say, 'Fine, thanks' or 'She hurt her leg, but it's getting better' etc. Anything more complex and they just begin to glaze over. I usually keep my horsey talk for my horsey friends and on here.
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My family are completely unhorsey, hence why I took up riding when I could afford to fund it myself.

My mum is better than dad- she will come to the stables with me sometimes but doesn't ride due to a back injury. She has some interest in horses and she likes coming to Badminton with me, and county shows- she records all of the SJ scores in her programme and tries to work out who will win before it is announced
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Dad and brother tolerate it but their threshold for hearing me talk about horses is pretty low and they quite often tell me to shut up
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My mum is slightly interested as she used to be a RI but all the rest have no interest what so ever!
 
Very. My Dad had his own horse for about 15 years and we rode together. I left home and keep my horses at home. My parents love to see them and always ask how they are and want to know how a competition went. 2 of my sisters had ponies although they no longer ride. One is petrified of horses, but still asks how mine are. My younger sister might ride very, very occasionally.
 
my family are pretty interested but my nephew is crazy abut them he is only 2 and he loves them hopefully gna buy hima little one hehe
 
My dad has no interest in my horses. He hates to see them on the roads! He is a moaning old git! The most he says is are you riding- Make sure you wear your hat... lol
 
No interest whatsover. They couldn't tell you my horses names and think they are a waste of money and the reason I'm not married with kids! They have never seen me compete and if I mention the word 'horse' the conversation is usually changed onto something more important/interesting like the weather.....
 
Mine totally hate them.
Thet told me that if I had horses my OH would leave me, Id never be able to buy a house, I would have no money or time for friends or a 'proper job'. We had lots of blazing aruguemets about it.
 
not at all! They never ask how i get on at competitions, in fact they never ask anything. I competed yesterday and when i got home my mother phoned -after all thwe chat about her and her life she said 'i suppose you have been horse riding this morning' i replied ' ive just got home from a dressage compertition' she said 'im now going to sit in the garden!!!
No - 'how did it go, did you win (which i didnt!), did you fall off? Nothing!!!!
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My mum has been learning to ride on Monty and adores him. It has really brought us together. My dad tolerates coming to see them occassionally but isn't that fussed. He does like telling everyone about HIS horse though!

I'm very lucky, my mum even looks after them to give me a break sometimes. She spoils them rotten..........she gave Zoomy 3 bananas last night!!
 
Parents will pick me up from the yard, never get out of the car. They will ask "how was she" and that is as far as it goes. Because of this I am pretty much self taught, I have had Poutu since I was 15 and nobody to help me.Although my mum does try to understand and she will come and watch my odd lesson. My dad however has a mental block and refuses to admit that it is hard work (especially when you work with horses too).. I do wish sometimes my parents tried a bit harder..
 
Well.....when I was a kid I would be dropped off at riding school and that was it really, never came to watch at shows or anything, I just disappeared for the day to help out at riding school or with friends ponies. I think they thought I would grow out of it, sadly the older I get the worse I become!

However, now Im all grown up and have my own horses and kids .....yes, they seem to be pretty interested, my dad especially as he grew up on a farm and back in the old days the horses pulled the ploughs. They ask about the horses and turn up at shows to take photos, especially when my daughter is riding. I think it gives my mum something to brag about at school when the other grans are going on about their kids doing dancing class etc my mum drops the ponies and rosette count in !
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Also, bless em...when I hurt my back last year both of them insisted on coming to help me muck out....penshioner power or what
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Oh was against me having Bella but is slowly coming around *crosses fingers* although he hasn't seen her yet
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Daughter was convinced that horses = death wish but has fallen in love with a filly in the next field to Bella and now wants her own
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. 2 oldest sons show no interest at all but youngest 3 like them with youngest having lessons every week

When I did a couple of walk & trot tests everyone was keen to hear how i got on though
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Just wondering how interested everyones family's are in their horse riding really. I took my horse out jumping yesterday for the second time (to a comp) and we then went round to my Mum's for dinner. As soon as I mentioned the horses it was like a conversation killer - they are positively disinterested in them and don't want to hear about them.

They never ask about them, have never seen them, never want to talk about them...does anyone else have family like this? I find it quite annoying sometimes because although I'm not really interested in my Mums art hobby, or her OH's climbing, I still ask about it and happily listen when they decide they want to tell me all about it.

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You have exactly the same issue as me. When my OH and I go to my Dad's for dinner or whatever, we always talk about their work, hobbies etc. My Dad ignores me if I bring up horses (which I now rarely do given previous reactions). He just doesn't want to know. I think it may be because of the £ side (disapproval at having such an outgoing for a horse), or perhaps because I had a bad riding accident a few yrs ago, although I am now fully recovered. My Mum is not so bad when we see her but in general I don't talk much to my family about horses, which is a shame because they are central to my life!
 
I doubt my mum could even tell you what my horses are called. My dad will come to the yard occasionally and is capable of holding the end of a lead rope and can just about put a rug on. He used to ride as a kid and his sister, my aunt is very horsey, which makes him think he is qualified to give me advise on riding and care
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However i wouldnt say he was 'interested' in my horses!
 
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Just wondering how interested everyones family's are in their horse riding really. I took my horse out jumping yesterday for the second time (to a comp) and we then went round to my Mum's for dinner. As soon as I mentioned the horses it was like a conversation killer - they are positively disinterested in them and don't want to hear about them.

They never ask about them, have never seen them, never want to talk about them...does anyone else have family like this? I find it quite annoying sometimes because although I'm not really interested in my Mums art hobby, or her OH's climbing, I still ask about it and happily listen when they decide they want to tell me all about it.

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I think thats actually very bad manners....perhaps if you made it clear you werent in the slightest bit interested in their hobbies they would understand how they make you feel.
 
My three daughters all ride to a high standard, my son is disabled and only gets to fuss our shettie but he loves coming to the yard. My hubby has always mucked out and now has been learning to ride.

My two sisters have both had horses and ponies in the past, my mum is an expert mucker out as is my stepdad, my real dad has built and repaired stables in the past. My one cousin rides and has a share in my sisters mare and my grandad had horses on his farm many years ago.

I guess we are pretty horsey as a family.
 
My mum isn't the least bit interested in horses, but she's very good about giving me lifts to the farm/riding school. She never gets out of the car though! A couple of weeks ago I went to the farm and found that one of the broodmares had foaled, so I ran back to the car saying "Mum, mum, look at this! A brand new baby foal!" and she still wasn't interested. :O I think she's a bit frightened of them - she won't watch when I go in the field to fuss them because she's scared they'll kick me or something (although surely if they did, it's better that she's there to help me?).

Dad likes riding - he'd have lessons of his own if we could afford it, and when I was a little kid he sometimes joined in my riding lessons. He's a very gung-ho kind of rider - despite his bad back, he'll be on and cantering round before I've even got my foot in the stirrup lol. He's never got time to come and see the horses at the farm though, and he's not THAT interested that he'd give up his precious free time for them!
 
Parents were actually quite involved and interested when I started out with horses, would come to shows and ask how things were going, but they've now departed this world, and OH is not interested. The occasional glimmer of interest but doesn't last more than a token query. Doesn't come to shows now, though he did to begin with. Trying to impress?!
Actually don't mind any more and stopped worrying about it.
 
My mum just doesn't understand the appeal - she doesn't think horses have individual personalities (despite the fact that she's a crazy hippy who names her cushions
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), but she does like coming out for a walk with me and the pone when she comes to visit, and she likes to hear about me having fun with Murph.

My dad thinks I need to fit a seatbelt to Murphy - probably quite a fair comment considering the fact that I keep falling off. He did ride Murph last time he came to visit - first time he's sat on a horse in his life!

My OH thinks he knows everything despite actually knowing nothing about horses, and moans that I talk about Murphy too much and spend too much time at the yard!
 
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I think thats actually very bad manners....perhaps if you made it clear you werent in the slightest bit interested in their hobbies they would understand how they make you feel.

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I tried this and ended up being called selfish for not being interested in them!!
 
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