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I own a builders merchants and employ my husband (had been unemployed since I got together with him so thought we could give him a job), he doesn't drive and therefore we do EVERYTHING together, which I find a real strain with him being so reliant on me.
He can be a real stroppy sod, he's a beefcake who has been on steroids since I met him which doesn't help. Things have been gradually getting worse between me and him and at work with him having massive rants. This morning he had a huge rant, I argued back (I normally don't and just say 'yes' for a quiet life) and he said he quit and got someone to drop him home.
Now that leaves us with too many bills and not enough money to pay them, I am soooo angry.
His parting shot was that he was going to sell his horse which I've been riding (I bought the horse for him to ride). I have a mare who is not being ridden at the moment as she's been tearing about in the field and has tweaked her ringbone and is pretty lame, so I've ridden his which he hasn't ridden for two months anyway.
I don't know what to do, I'm angry on so many levels - the fact he's quit without thinking about bills etc, the fact he will really struggle now to get a job, and the fact that he threatened to sell Flint, who wouldn't sell as he's done nothing and is a mild shiverer and more than that I love Flint!!!
Sorry, just need to rant, please send internet hugs and gin!!!!
 
Errr hold on you bought the horse for him to ride, therefore it is your horse - not his to sell.

I think he has had it easy - no offence but you have given him a job, does he live in your house? Think he will soon realise if you stop providing for him.

I really feel for you - the steroids will NOT be helping AT all. Although of course he won't realise that & will insist you are over reacting ;)
 
maybe just a big strop and he will apologise later. roid rage! Maybe he could learn to drive and you could get him out doing the deliveries.

If it helps my hubby has the same hobby. x
 
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Well, he just sounds like a total dream. :(

Can't/won't advise too much on the relationship right now but who has Flint's passport and what sort of yard are you on?
 
Just a word of warning, use this place to rant and rave about how awful it all is, and all the rest BUT and that is a BIG BUT dont be swayed by other people's views of your relationship. When the power switches off it's you and your husband left in the room to discuss it, none of those people offering advice, telling you to chuck him out or berating you for not being an understanding wife (just to pick two opposing sides) know the full and actual story or the realities of your life together.

This is a great place to let off steam but don't take on board too much of the comment you will undoubtedly get.

You have my best wishes that you and you husband can come to the best solution for you both.
 
clairew said:
I own a builders merchants and employ my husband (had been unemployed since I got together with him so thought we could give him a job), he doesn't drive and therefore we do EVERYTHING together, which I find a real strain with him being so reliant on me.
He can be a real stroppy sod, he's a beefcake who has been on steroids since I met him which doesn't help. Things have been gradually getting worse between me and him and at work with him having massive rants. This morning he had a huge rant, I argued back (I normally don't and just say 'yes' for a quiet life) and he said he quit and got someone to drop him home.
Now that leaves us with too many bills and not enough money to pay them, I am soooo angry.
His parting shot was that he was going to sell his horse which I've been riding (I bought the horse for him to ride). I have a mare who is not being ridden at the moment as she's been tearing about in the field and has tweaked her ringbone and is pretty lame, so I've ridden his which he hasn't ridden for two months anyway.
I don't know what to do, I'm angry on so many levels - the fact he's quit without thinking about bills etc, the fact he will really struggle now to get a job, and the fact that he threatened to sell Flint, who wouldn't sell as he's done nothing and is a mild shiverer and more than that I love Flint!!!
Sorry, just need to rant, please send internet hugs and gin!!!!
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Sounds like a great big baby, sorry..
 
Do you need him in the business? Does he earn his wages? if you have to do everything together you are possibly doubling up on alot of things. So he's quit, you know longer have to pay him so there is a saving there. Is it just your business?
Sorry, i'm rambling. His steriod use is bad news and can easily account for the rants. Will he not give up the steriods?
He is probably bluffing about selling the horse and with todays market and him being a shiverer i doubt he'll be worth much (sorry).
Maybe it would be a struggle living on one wage but i'm sorry i wouldn't tolerate his behaviour and perhaps a honest assesment of your relationship would be worth considering.
 
I think you need to ask yourself whether this relationship is a keeper or not. If it is then there are all kinds of things you might want to consider to try and improve things. If not I would advise that you get legal advice straight away to protect your assets etc.

Your post isn't clear on whether you are just mad with him or whether you are genuinely questioning whether the relationship can continue.
 
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Just a word of warning, use this place to rant and rave about how awful it all is, and all the rest BUT and that is a BIG BUT dont be swayed by other people's views of your relationship. When the power switches off it's you and your husband left in the room to discuss it, none of those people offering advice, telling you to chuck him out or berating you for not being an understanding wife (just to pick two opposing sides) know the full and actual story or the realities of your life together.

This is a great place to let off steam but don't take on board too much of the comment you will undoubtedly get.

You have my best wishes that you and you husband can come to the best solution for you both.
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Wise words!
 
Wow... The picture you've painted of him makes me feel a bit
Perhaps he needs a reminder of how lucky he is to have you?

By the way you bought the horses, so they are both yours and not his to sell.
 
What happened locally then or shouldn't I ask..?! The business is mine, my father and another business partner, so I've got the added 'problems' of family and another partner. I'm ranting because I'm mad with him, and also because I don't know how many 'final straws' I can take... :(
 
tell him to get off his lazy behind, get a job and take some driving lessons....

Sorry EDIT to say I posted at the same time and just seen he's been banned, hmm....tell him he'd better get used to buses pretty damn quick then,
 
'Beef cake' you say? 'Meat head' sounds more like it. As long as you're not rubbing his nose in it every five minutes about how it's your business and how he can't drive blah blah blah. Shrugs.

As a bye the bye

I know five meat heads (steroid users) none of them have had a long term relationship.

1/ Was beaten up by his dad when he was young.

2/ Was beaten up by his dad when he was young and had to watch his sister and mum get beaten up. His sis was even thrown down the stairs.

3/ Has a massive red birthmark on his face

4/ Is partially sighted.

5/ Has flat feet. So got out of games at school.

Seems like most of them have something to prove and have issues.
 
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