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I seriously must have mug wrote across my forehead.
A friend of mine has just got a new partner,and she needed to get her little pony out of her exs place,so i said they could put it up ours for a few weeks and i would keep an eye on it for 10 pounds a week.
Anyway,i kept on phoning up my so called friend,saying pony is loosing condition and is cold,but they have done nothing about it.
Today i managed to get hold of my friends partners phone number.
My friend had told his partner that i was having it as a companion,and not told her that she had to pay for its keep.It has been here for 6 weeks.
I now feel a right mug,and feel terribly used by this....my friends partner feels terrible as she feels she has abandoned the pony.
She is going to come and pay for the keep on thursday,and look to move the pony somewhere else.
I will never help anyone out again....cant believe i have been sh** on from a great height,especially when they knew my mum had just passed away.
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thats terrible, so sorry. Could it of been a genuine miss understanding???
I locked after 3 horses for a friend, stabled, for 3 months. she paid me £1200 when she collected them, by cheque and then canceled it. Iv never heard frm her since. Now, even friends, payment in advance. It is a shame it has come to this though. best of luck
 
people like that drive me mad. The same happened to my friend. The person said she could not afford to keep mini shetland on livery so could my friend keep it in her field for a few weeks. Next thing she knew was this person suddenly got 3 extra horses and put them on livery GOBSMACKED!!
 
I havent just abandoned the pony....i have been feeding it,but in fairness its not my resposibility to provide a rug for it??
Also they knew my position that my mum was dying and in hospital,so alot of the time i wasnt around.....i had made arrangements for my horses.....again not my responsibility to arrange this for their pony.......again,they knew the situation,and i have phoned them on many occasions to say something needed to be done to THIER pony.

ETS......This person has done this kind of thing to others,but i didnt think he would ever do it to me.I think there will be alot of i told you so
 
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I locked after 3 horses for a friend, stabled, for 3 months. she paid me £1200 when she collected them, by cheque and then canceled it.

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Writing a cheque and cancelling it is proof of fraud, you could take her to small claims for £27 and the court will pursue her for this money. Once a CCJ on her record, it will stop her getting credit anywhere. Worth doing as fraud is a crime and should not be tolerated.

To OP - I feel for you, you can see why people simply sell horses on when they are dumped with them.
 
My guess is that she has taken advantage of the situation. Especially as you couldn't contact her. If my horse was somewhere then i'd be contactable no matter what. So i think you live and learn and also learn who your friends are.

ETS i re-read and you did speak to her, so contactable
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sorry not with it tonight. Also terribly sorry to hear about your mum. My heart really does go out to you and you don;t need this right now!
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To be fair to the OP, £10 a week does not cover the price of a rug or vet's bills. The owner of the pony should have been contactable. What in case it needed the vet? No one can honestly sugges tthe OP should have paid as she was doing a firend a favour?!
 
Of course it was jmo7,but i wasnt so blunt about it to you.
You are completly disrespectful,about my mum,and i wasnt about your father.
Very hurtful
Im choked up and close to tears by your comment
 
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To be fair to the OP, £10 a week does not cover the price of a rug or vet's bills

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It covers bugger all. But the minute she took possession of the pony it became her responsibility...... The financial arrangements are almost irrelevant
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Hang on,

Looks to me that the girl who owns the pony is not in the wrong, it is the guy/your mate.

He has obviously been liberal with the truth to you and her.

At the end of the day it appears that the owner (his new partner) is mortified and coming striaght away to pay you.

At least you wont be out of pocket and I`m sure your friend will be getting a right earfull from his new girlfriend for embarressing her.

Sorry to hear about your mum and also your dad JM07
 
Sorry i fail to see where JM07 has been out of order here about your mum,perhaps you should read it again as to what she has put .

She is trying to advise you on what to do that is all.
 
I agree guido,the owner of the pony is not in the wrong.....she isnt a mind reader.

The pony is very old,stiff,and to be honest should either not be here,or needs the vet.....personally,i think it should not be here.
I have spoken to my "friend" on several occasions telling him the needs of the pony,and get the same response.....it will be done,but it has never happened.
Why should i be out of pocket for a favour to a "friend"
 

What a terrible situation to be in but here, your friends partner who you say feels terrible as she feels she has abandoned the pony, cant feel that bad or give a toss! She needs a good lamping and I certainly wouldn't hand back her the pony! Sorry but anyone that hands out there pony as a companion to there new boyfriends friend without going to see what the pony's new home is like, or new owners!! Or checking up to see how the pony is settling in, that's bad crack!(no offence to you) I know this isn't the real situation only what she had been told by him!!

If you ask me she new the deal and they just took advantage of you when you were down and vulnerable , just hope you get it all resolved with a happy ending for you and the poor pony
 
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Why should i be out of pocket for a favour to a "friend"

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I quite agree. However, legally and moraly your responsibility as the carer of this pony is to ensure it is looked after appropriately.

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So tell me Sallysmith,i believe this pony should be PTS....where do i stand legally if i do that without the owners permission,without a passport?
 
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Looks to me that the girl who owns the pony is not in the wrong, it is the guy/your mate.



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I would NEVER EVER give away my ponys without checking out there new home, owner and asking for ref's!! The girl is obvioulsy in the wrong if not more so!! Who the hell hands out there pony with out checking anything even the pony after 6 weeks if she thought her pony had went as a compainion??
 
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So tell me Sallysmith,i believe this pony should be PTS....where do i stand legally if i do that without the owners permission,without a passport?

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Well, I don't think you can have the horse pts without the owners permission - unless of course some medical emergency has arrisen (broken leg, inoperable colic etc.) And of course the passport should be in your possession (but that's a whole other issue).

You're p*ss*d off, understandably. But unfortunately you have a responsibility to ensure its welfare. And no amount of moaning will make that dissapear.

Hope the situation gets resolved quickly. But in the meantime, plenty of hay, shelter and dry should help the pony enormously.


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Oh dear god, now the talk is the pony should be PTS...

How on earth could a owner leave a pony in this state with a stranger (no offence)!!! Sorry but people like that should be banned from owning animals
 
It is having plenty of hay,but all of my stables are taken up by my horses......he knew i didnt have spare stables,and that is why it was only going to be for a few weeks,until he had space back where he keeps his horse.
I have asked for a rug several times for her,as dont have one of that size of my own to put on it.
 
could you contact a welfare org and ask them for advice on the situation? or would your vet give you any advice for free at all might be silly suggestions but its worth a shot!

i hope everything sorts its self out x
 
I had a different situation to you with a friend which I will not do again. But I thought I was helping out so called friend who was going through difficult divorce with taking one of her shetties, said i would take it on loan but they said no you take him he will belong to you, gave them paperwork to tranfer ownership but didnt receive it back, but didnt worry cause it was a friend.

All went well until I qualified pony for Royal London arranged to take him and so called friend had hissy fit, saying I should have asked because he belongs to her. Turns out she thought I was out to make a quick buck, thought I would do well at show and sell him. That was 5 years ago, managed to sort ownership out and he is still with me. So called friend knows I keep my ponies for life so not sure why she thought I was out to make money, and to this day she still thinks I am out to make money on him.

That was a very stressful time for me and she has pulled my name through the mud, so will never help a friend again unless i have it all in writing.
 
But she didn't take possession of it, she "put it up". I could just imagine what my YO would say if I told her paying for rugs and the vet was her responsibility because I was paying her to care for my animal on her premises. How on earth is this different?
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But she didn't take possession of it, she "put it up". I could just imagine what my YO would say if I told her paying for rugs and the vet was her responsibility because I was paying her to care for my animal on her premises. How on earth is this different?
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Exactly!

OP your good nature has been taken advantage of, at a time when you are low. That's just awful, and I would say that your friend is not really a friend at all.

It must be awful for you worrying about this pony, I do wonder would it be worth getting a vet's opinion on it? I know that's expense to you but it may galvanise them into action, or the vet may know more options for you?

Set no store by some of the replies on here, I can only assume it's playing devil's advocate for fun, and people are not thinking about just how much it can hurt you at this time. Best of luck love xxxx
 
I wish i had never posted this.....i never expected to get sso hurt and upset by some of the comments on here.3 weeks ago i sat holding my mothers hand whilst she died.
 
Chin up TH2, you're not responsible for the welfare of your friend's pony - beyond what you've already been doing. Talk to her on Thurs and tell her you want it taking away asap, put your foot down and don't take no for an answer.
Don't take any stock in some of the replies - I'm sure they're well meant really, if a little antagonistic. Some people, with their diplomacy, could start a fight in an empty room
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