Errin Paddywack
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Cinnamontoast
Fais pas chier!
Only just seen this. I’m so sorry for your loss, I can’t imagine how hard this is. Big hugs. 
Red-1
I used to be decisive, now I'm not so sure...
Today was the funeral. I'm just back.
I did a big eulogy, wasn't sure how I was going to read it out, it was 10 minutes. But, I put my business head/game face on and did it. I think I did him proud. It was filled with stories of our time together, and I even did the voices etc. I think I am genuinely still a bit numb.
At the end, there was a sudden, huuuge round of applause. I wasn't expecting that.
So many people, guard of honour, the lot.
It was very fitting, very him.
The whole time, it seemed that life was being categorised into before funeral and after.
I guess the rest of this week falls into no-man's land.
The funeral getting closer left me feeling quite overwhelmed. I know I didn't answer much but I did appreciate the messages both on here and also PMs.
So, that's it. Sat at home, horses in, dogs fed and just me. I guess the next part of my future will be as tricky as the past 3 1/2 weeks. But, now I 'managed' the funeral and speech, I guess I have more confidence that, long term, I will be able to step up, because I did.
Meanwhile, I think a little crash is in order.
I did a big eulogy, wasn't sure how I was going to read it out, it was 10 minutes. But, I put my business head/game face on and did it. I think I did him proud. It was filled with stories of our time together, and I even did the voices etc. I think I am genuinely still a bit numb.
At the end, there was a sudden, huuuge round of applause. I wasn't expecting that.
So many people, guard of honour, the lot.
It was very fitting, very him.
The whole time, it seemed that life was being categorised into before funeral and after.
I guess the rest of this week falls into no-man's land.
The funeral getting closer left me feeling quite overwhelmed. I know I didn't answer much but I did appreciate the messages both on here and also PMs.
So, that's it. Sat at home, horses in, dogs fed and just me. I guess the next part of my future will be as tricky as the past 3 1/2 weeks. But, now I 'managed' the funeral and speech, I guess I have more confidence that, long term, I will be able to step up, because I did.
Meanwhile, I think a little crash is in order.
ElleSkywalker
As excited as Kitty about to be a bridesmaid
A little crash is definitely in order, do whatever you need to. Well done for today, we are all so proud and in awe of you 
xxxx
xxxx
Spanny
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Well done Red-1, it sounds like a wonderful tribute to David. I feel proud and I don't even know you! How lovely it is that he touched so many lives and that so many people cared so deeply.
You've done so much and been so incredibly strong these last few weeks. A crash is very, very reasonable. Take the rest you need.
You've done so much and been so incredibly strong these last few weeks. A crash is very, very reasonable. Take the rest you need.
nagblagger
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i have so much respect for you. I would never have managed that.
Crash away for however long you need, we are here to support when needed.
Crash away for however long you need, we are here to support when needed.
OldNag
Wasting my time successfully....
Agreed, it sounds a wonderful tribute . I bet he would be extremely proud of you.
Crash if you need to. Give yourself some time and space. X
Crash if you need to. Give yourself some time and space. X
tda
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Crash away, this is another awful part of the process 
I dont know you either but I am so proud of you, the strength you have shown over the last few weeks. Thinking of you x
I dont know you either but I am so proud of you, the strength you have shown over the last few weeks. Thinking of you xPearlsasinger
Up in the clouds
Well done!
You got through it to the admiration of everyone gathered there.
Ime the time leading up to the funeral is so busy that momentum gets you through. If/ when friends offer help/issue invitations over the coming weeks, please do accept, although it might feel easier not to do so. People tend to stop offering if they think you prefer to be left alone, although of course your closest friends will persist.
You are quite entitled to crash now but do remember how proud David would be of the way you have coped so far.
You got through it to the admiration of everyone gathered there.
Ime the time leading up to the funeral is so busy that momentum gets you through. If/ when friends offer help/issue invitations over the coming weeks, please do accept, although it might feel easier not to do so. People tend to stop offering if they think you prefer to be left alone, although of course your closest friends will persist.
You are quite entitled to crash now but do remember how proud David would be of the way you have coped so far.
ycbm
Einstein would be proud of my Insanity...
Northern Hare
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Well done Red-1 - that's such an achievement to keep it together to deliver the Eulogy - you have my utmost respect. And how lovely that you organised a funeral that was so appropriate to your husband's wishes and memory.
Tarragon
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I think you have been amazing throughout it all. You will treasure the memories, and, my goodness, you have done him proud 
luckyoldme
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Hi Red,
I'm so sorry , I only just read yesterday your awful news..I tried to write a couple of posts but nothing looked right.
I can only add to what others say about how you handled today, you did good.
I've got no advice because grief is such an individual thing, but just wanted to say something to add to the other messages of support,
Thinking of you
X
I'm so sorry , I only just read yesterday your awful news..I tried to write a couple of posts but nothing looked right.
I can only add to what others say about how you handled today, you did good.
I've got no advice because grief is such an individual thing, but just wanted to say something to add to the other messages of support,
Thinking of you
X
SaddlePsych'D
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I agree with all of this - I couldn't say it any better.
Take really good care Red and do what feels right for you.
SashaBabe
Well-Known Member
Well done for coping so brilliantly today. I'm sure David would have been very proud of you. Now you need to look after yourself. Take care. x
DizzyDoughnut
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You definitely did him proud, I'm another that's proud of you, you've done so well coping with everything. Please take care of yourself and hopefully Rigsby is helping by just being Rigsby!
AmyMay
Situation normal
We’ve all been thinking of you, and will continue to do so. And support you through your journey.
You’ve been so brave, and it sounds as if today’s achievement is no less than David would have expected from you. You’re amazing
With love xxx
You’ve been so brave, and it sounds as if today’s achievement is no less than David would have expected from you. You’re amazing
With love xxx
Fraggle2
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You have done David proud today. I'm sure he's looking down on you with as much love and respect as he had in life.
Now it's time to look after yourself. Crash away. We're all here offering strength vibes and virtual hugs. X
Now it's time to look after yourself. Crash away. We're all here offering strength vibes and virtual hugs. X
southerncomfort
Well-Known Member
Crash away Red. You don't need to be strong any more. Xx
BallyRoanBaubles
Buys real biscuits
Thinking of you Red x
SEL
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Well done Red - not surprised you feel numb. Been thinking of you xx
Laurac13
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Well done brave lady you did your man proud x
Crash as long as you need to, thinking of you x
Crash as long as you need to, thinking of you x
Kunoichi73
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I've said it before, you are amazing! The way you've handled all this and just cracked on with stuff, even the stuff you were unsure about, is inspiring.
You are entitled to a crash and to some 'you' time to absorb and process everything. However, if you need to reach out for support to real life friends or HHOers, please do. Take care of yourself, Red.
You are entitled to a crash and to some 'you' time to absorb and process everything. However, if you need to reach out for support to real life friends or HHOers, please do. Take care of yourself, Red.
janem_g
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Red-1, I've read this thread since you started it but I rarely post on the site. I feel compelled today though. I'm a funeral celebrant bt job and I know how much much love, time and anguish goes into writing, let alone delivering a eulogy. You will have done him proud and trust me, people don't clap too often!
You have handled all these difficult days with such composure. Someone asked me to read the following poem recently and I hope it gives a tiny piece fo comfort on a very hard day.
No person is ever truly alone
Those who live no more, whom we loved,
Echo still within our thoughts,
Our words, our hearts
And what they did and who they were
Becomes a part of all that we are forever.
You have handled all these difficult days with such composure. Someone asked me to read the following poem recently and I hope it gives a tiny piece fo comfort on a very hard day.
No person is ever truly alone
Those who live no more, whom we loved,
Echo still within our thoughts,
Our words, our hearts
And what they did and who they were
Becomes a part of all that we are forever.
Errin Paddywack
Well-Known Member
I too am totally in awe at how you have handled this. I didn't have a service for Michael because I couldn't face it being a total coward. David would be so proud of you. Tough times ahead and I wish you all the best coping with them.
ycbm
Einstein would be proud of my Insanity...
You aren't a coward Errin, you were distraught and didn't have any of the career training and experience Red has had in dealing with terrible situations. She did an absolutely amazing job for David and can rightly be very, very proud of herself. But it doesn't mean you failed.
As someone who is also married to a creaking gate I watch you both with admiration for how you are dealing with losing a soul mate.
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Errin Paddywack
Well-Known Member
Thank you and I hope you don't have to face this situation for many years yet.
JGC
Well-Known Member
Sounds like you did him very proud. These milestones can be difficult in so many different ways.
Emilieu
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Oh goodness, well done! Can’t imagine how hard that was. Crash but land softly and be very kind to yourself. I always think things are in limbo until the funeral, then suddenly real life returns and that can be hard to take. Thinking of you often xx