trundle
Well-Known Member
Wow. Nice people....
This is a horrible situation, and an absolutely classic example of why people turn against the idea of sharing or loaning. I'm a sharer, and stories like this make me feel really awkward inside, in case people think that i am one of "that sort" of sharer (which I am not - i make a terrible fuss over my share horse, and i'd like to think, take very good care of her).
I do think that episodes like this illustrate very clearly why its so important that the PEOPLE in a share agreement are compatible, even more so than the sharer and the horse. You can learn to ride a horse better, you can learn how to care for it properly, but if one of the people (owner or sharer) is nasty, vile and unreasonable, then the arrangement will never work. I'm not a very good rider, but I get on really, really well with the owner of my Share mare, and she tolerates my numptyish-but-slowly-improving riding becasue she knows I think the world of her horse and care for her as if she was my own.
I think if it specifically says in the contract that the horse was not to be jumped, and your friend can produce a witness stating that the horse was jumped, then you can pursue her in the civil court, or the small claims court. It won't be cheap or simple and it will be a faff, but it sounds like it would be worth pursuing from a moral POV.
This is a horrible situation, and an absolutely classic example of why people turn against the idea of sharing or loaning. I'm a sharer, and stories like this make me feel really awkward inside, in case people think that i am one of "that sort" of sharer (which I am not - i make a terrible fuss over my share horse, and i'd like to think, take very good care of her).
I do think that episodes like this illustrate very clearly why its so important that the PEOPLE in a share agreement are compatible, even more so than the sharer and the horse. You can learn to ride a horse better, you can learn how to care for it properly, but if one of the people (owner or sharer) is nasty, vile and unreasonable, then the arrangement will never work. I'm not a very good rider, but I get on really, really well with the owner of my Share mare, and she tolerates my numptyish-but-slowly-improving riding becasue she knows I think the world of her horse and care for her as if she was my own.
I think if it specifically says in the contract that the horse was not to be jumped, and your friend can produce a witness stating that the horse was jumped, then you can pursue her in the civil court, or the small claims court. It won't be cheap or simple and it will be a faff, but it sounds like it would be worth pursuing from a moral POV.