my daughter had a very bad accident, broken femurs.. help please

[Chyrti]

Hello everyone!
I have to apologize if my English isn't that great but it's not my foreign language.

I'm a showjumper and my husband too. My daughter is 10 and she jumps fences that are 4" to 4"3 in height at competitions, and is also competing in dressage and pony games so she is a really good rider. She is still riding ponies (this year was supposed to be her last before moving on to horses) and doesn't have her own yet... I was going to search for the best one for this year, I was so excited for her, but this accident happened She was riding my number one horse (11 years old, very strong and tall but lovely to ride, I buy him when he was 2, I know him very well and she was doing pretty good with him, it wasn't her first time) with my coach when the horse freaked out, reared and lost his balance. It never happened before but he just fell straight on my little girl... The horse is Ok but my girl...
Airlifted to the hospital, she had surgery and is not doing so good right now, she broke both femurs, an ankle, ribs and 5 vertebrea, she is going to need another major surgery on thursday, she is in the intensive care unit.
I feel so bad, How can this happen to her, and I now that it is totally my fault: I let her ride my horse, that is too tall and strong! Do you this she is gonna be OK? Is it possible to heal from all these injuries, and how long is it gonna take?
I broke my ankle once, and one vertebrae, but I never had such a big accident in all my carrier..

I really hope someone is going to help me here to find answers to how to handle the situation and how is going to be the future for us...

 

[rascal]

Really sorry to hear about your daughters accident. I have two grown up daughters of my own who ride, this sort of thing is every parents worst nightmare. I hope she will be OK but it will take time.

 

[stencilface]

The accident could have happened on any horse, you never know with horses or ponies none are 100% reliable all of the time.

Healing I have no idea, but she's young and hopefully getting the best care. Just take the recovery slowly.

 

[Flicker]

You can't blame yourself. Riding is a risk sport and accidents can happen. When you are feeling up to it you should possibly see if the horse is in any pain that may have caused it to behave in this way, but you may find it was just a freak thing. My horse once sent me flying when he was stung by a wasp!

Regarding your daughter's recovery, are you in the U.K.? If you are, chances are that she will be being treated by a team of specialists and each one will have an idea of how that particular area of her recovery is going. She should also receive longer term physiotherapy and other rehab to get her back on her feet. It will probably take some time though.

Thinking of you.

 

[popsdosh]

Hello everyone!
I have to apologize if my English isn't that great but it's not my foreign language.

I'm a showjumper and my husband too. My daughter is 10 and she jumps fences that are 4" to 4"3 in height at competitions, and is also competing in dressage and pony games so she is a really good rider. She is still riding ponies (this year was supposed to be her last before moving on to horses) and doesn't have her own yet... I was going to search for the best one for this year, I was so excited for her, but this accident happened She was riding my number one horse (11 years old, very strong and tall but lovely to ride, I buy him when he was 2, I know him very well and she was doing pretty good with him, it wasn't her first time) with my coach when the horse freaked out, reared and lost his balance. It never happened before but he just fell straight on my little girl... The horse is Ok but my girl...
Airlifted to the hospital, she had surgery and is not doing so good right now, she broke both femurs, an ankle, ribs and 5 vertebrea, she is going to need another major surgery on thursday, she is in the intensive care unit.
I feel so bad, How can this happen to her, and I now that it is totally my fault: I let her ride my horse, that is too tall and strong! Do you this she is gonna be OK? Is it possible to heal from all these injuries, and how long is it gonna take?
I broke my ankle once, and one vertebrae, but I never had such a big accident in all my carrier..

I really hope someone is going to help me here to find answers to how to handle the situation and how is going to be the future for us...

Perhaps not put a 10yo on a strong horse jumping 4'3in would be a good start are we really meant to believe that?

 

[poiuytrewq]

Perhaps not put a 10yo on a strong horse jumping 4'3in would be a good start are we really meant to believe that?

It doesn't actually say she was jumping 4'3 on this horse. I think that was used as a reference to the girls standard of riding.
I think what the op has done is completely what lots of parents would actually. Daughters about to move up to horses, good rider so has a lesson on mums horse who hasn't ever given cause for concern in years.
Op I'm so sorry and can't imagine what your going through. It's not your fault. My daughter used to jump my strong 16.2 at 10 ish
Accidents happen and you mustn't beat yourself up about it.
Concentrate on getting your little girl better.
Thinking of you both. Xx

 

[ycbm]

Since Popsdosh has already called you out as a troll, I have to question whether the distraught parent of a child in pieces in ICU would be joining a foreign language forum to ask a bunch of total strangers what her medical prognosis is. I am sorry if you genuinely need help and support, but we have been absolutely plagued with people playing on the good nature of nice people on this forum. It's such a shame, because it puts people off offering support when it's genuinely needed

 

[cremedemonthe]

Perhaps not put a 10yo on a strong horse jumping 4'3in would be a good start are we really meant to believe that?

Thinking the same!

 

[The Fuzzy Furry]

Since Popsdosh has already called you out as a troll, I have to question whether the distraught parent of a child in pieces in ICU would be joining a foreign language forum to ask a bunch of total strangers what her medical prognosis is. I am sorry if you genuinely need help and support, but we have been absolutely plagued with people playing on the good nature of nice people on this forum. It's such a shame, because it puts people off offering support when it's genuinely needed

Well put ^

 

[twiggy2]

...I have to question whether the distraught parent of a child in pieces in ICU would be joining a foreign language forum to ask a bunch of total strangers what her medical prognosis is...(

This

 

[popsdosh]

Since Popsdosh has already called you out as a troll, I have to question whether the distraught parent of a child in pieces in ICU would be joining a foreign language forum to ask a bunch of total strangers what her medical prognosis is. I am sorry if you genuinely need help and support, but we have been absolutely plagued with people playing on the good nature of nice people on this forum. It's such a shame, because it puts people off offering support when it's genuinely needed

We always get a load of them around Christmas it happens every year,to many people with to much time on their hands!

 

[007Equestrian]

I really can't get my head around why you would pretend you have a daughter in ICU for 'fun'...

 

[Auslander]

I almost hope that this poster is a troll, because if she isn't, these reponses are going to make her feel even worse than she already is.

It's not beyond the realms of possibility that a good 10yr old is jumping 1.20/1.30 in competition, nor that she would be riding the parents decent competition horse. I know I was, when I was that sort of age.

If this is genuine, be comforted that young bones heal better than old bones, and I wish your daughter an uncomplicated recovery.

 

[honetpot]

You know what we all do things that sometimes we think afterwards we should not have done. A lot of accidents happen on farms because farmers children spend a lot of time with their parents, being situations that are potentially dangerous, using machinery with huge hp, but that is their life.
Young bones heal quickly, someone I know broke his vertebra in three places when he was young, he was in a plaster cast for months but now still rides. As long they get her pain sorted out and get her moving as quickly as possible you will be surprised how quickly she comes along, I know because I have looked after children who have had orthopaedic surgery. In fact its hard to stop them doing more than they should even on crutches.

 

[sasquatch]

I almost hope that this poster is a troll, because if she isn't, these reponses are going to make her feel even worse than she already is.

It's not beyond the realms of possibility that a good 10yr old is jumping 1.20/1.30 in competition, nor that she would be riding the parents decent competition horse. I know I was, when I was that sort of age.

If this is genuine, be comforted that young bones heal better than old bones, and I wish your daughter an uncomplicated recovery.

I agree, troll or not, some of the responses would make any parent who's child has had a horrific accident feel even worse.

We also don't know if the OP is foreign and living in the UK, or has been looking for a horse forum online to ask for support and HHO online was the first one they found. I've had a relative in ICU before, and as much as you want to spend every minute of your time with them, it's not always possible. It is also believable that the OP has joined and posted on the forum at a time when they have to wait before they can be allowed back in to see their daughter or if other people are visiting her (for us, only 2 people were allowed in to the ICU at a time, so we took it in turns. It may be different for OP).

OP, if you are not a troll, please don't blame yourself. This could have happened to anyone at any time, and is an accident.

Best wishes.

 

[LD&S]

As someone has already said, hopefully it's not for real, either I'm getting more cynical or my trolldar is starting to work, sorry to OP if their story is real but I don't think it's genuine.

 

[KautoStar1]

Oh FFS !!!

 

[Rowreach]

I really can't get my head around why you would pretend you have a daughter in ICU for 'fun'...

You would be amazed then by the stories that have been told on here in the past by non-genuine posters.

 

[Rowreach]

I really can't get my head around why you would pretend you have a daughter in ICU for 'fun'...

You would be amazed then by the stories that have been told on here in the past by non-genuine posters.

 

[007Equestrian]

You would be amazed then by the stories that have been told on here in the past by non-genuine posters.

I'm just clueless. Is it acting? Some weird kind of roleplay?

 

[Rowreach]

I'm just clueless. Is it acting? Some weird kind of roleplay?

I think we've had a range of types, some sad, some nasty, some getting a different sort of kick out of it. My least favourite are the ones (often a few acting together, and in the past some have been regular users "having a laugh" at other people's expense) who are simply playing the forum for their own amusement.

I do worry that the attention seeking ones are actually pretty much in need of help, but trolling isn't the way to go imo.

There are a lot of lovely people on this forum (and I know this from my own experience over the years) and it is sad when their goodwill is abused.

I have no idea if the OP here is genuine or not. The post has all the hallmarks of a troll post, but who knows? If this is real then I am not surprised (as a mum with a son who rides and has been on horses since he was quite young) at the level of guilt.

I actually hope this is a troll as I would not want to think of that poor child being so badly injured, however it happened.

 

[Caol Ila]

Isn't better to (a) if you assume they aren't a troll, respond appropriately or (b) if you assume they are, ignore the post and move onto a different thread than risk telling some poor women who's kid is in hospital after a bad wreck that they are a troll?

Kids are tough -- they heal faster than adults!

 

[doodle]

A 10yo moving onto horses?? My friends 11yo is still on her 12hh

 

[The Fuzzy Furry]

A 10yo moving onto horses?? My friends 11yo is still on her 12hh

Mine at 10 was competing 12.2's but also riding just about everything else I had in the yard, inc some of the rehabbed TB's - hunting/jumping etc too.
It wasn't an issue, she was a damned good rider & much in demand from others to pilot sticky ones in public

 

[Velcrobum]

OP is online and watching this thread but has not responded to any comments.........

 

[Meowy Catkin]

I'm going to respond purely on the subject of spinal injuries. The key question is - is there any neurological damage? The prognosis for recovery V disability depends ever such a lot on the answer to that question.

 

[Theocat]

Isn't better to (a) if you assume they aren't a troll, respond appropriately or (b) if you assume they are, ignore the post and move onto a different thread than risk telling some poor women who's kid is in hospital after a bad wreck that they are a troll?

Kids are tough -- they heal faster than adults!

I agree: I'd prefer it if we erred on the side of helping someone/ giving them the benefit of the doubt rather than coming down on someone who might be having a very tough time with nowhere else to turn.

This was a bad accident, but no more than that. Focus on getting your daughter better - and she will - and don't beat yourself up.

 

[rascal]

A 10yo moving onto horses?? My friends 11yo is still on her 12hh

My two had a Shetland for the youngest, her elder sister had a 12.2 Welsh sec B, but they also rode the other horses, including our 15.1 and my Husbands Shire x.

 

[D66]

OP is online and watching this thread but has not responded to any comments.........

are you surprised?

 

[Flicker]

I was on to horses at the age of 11, and yes, jumping about 1m.
I hope some of you feel ashamed of yourselves. Compassion costs nothing and your posts say an awful lot more about you than they do about the OP.