Bustalot
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My ginger horse is now a pet through injury, I don't feel anyone would look down on me because of it
My horse is now my pet for the same reason. I have never thought of any one looking down on me for it
My ginger horse is now a pet through injury, I don't feel anyone would look down on me because of it
i am MORE puzzled by those who have NO confidence issues at all but who also dont ride - we have a lit indoor menage at my yard, most of the horses come in at night & i work on the principle that if i have spent the fuel money getting there i may as well tack up & do a bit of work - only adds maybe 40 mins onto my yard time - but usually i am the only person in the school.
when i totally lost all riding confidence i MADE myself ride - it was horrible but i know that if i stopped I would never begin again
Why would the OP bother to make a post like that if they didn't intend to spark a debate?
Confidence can be purchased with a generous tot of whiskey!
It might seem to give confidence, but alcohol also impaires your judgement and increases your chance of an accident. For the sake of myself and my horse, I prefer to face my fears sober.
It is a lot less fun that way though
If you saw how utterly incompetent at anything I become after a sniff of alcohol you'd realise why Mollie wouldn't thank me for boosting my confidence this way!
You've seen me ride haven't you?
Are you stalking me?
I know a few horses like this. But if horse and owner are both happy, good for them!
I have visions of a full sized horse in an exercise ball, like equine zorbing
Really - why is it any of your business? People own horses for all sorts of reasons. As long as said horse is well cared for, what does it matter?
As more and more horses are being either neglected or abandoned because their owners cannot afford them, surely those with the time, money and inclination to "do the all the chores" and pay for the correct care (dentist, vet, farrier, etc.) whether or not they ride should be applauded, not vilified (look it up).
Your post didn't make me confused - it actually made me angry.
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I think OP is being given an unfairly hard time here. I didn't read it as her judging or mocking in the slightest I interpreted her post as simply feeling it is a shame when people who desperately want to ride, can't!
I have worked with a number of people who are desperate to regain their confidence. They are not happy as they bought their horses with all intentions of riding and find themselves unable to. Fairly often it has not been due to any fault of the horse, just a mismatched partnership. Some worked through it. Some bought more suitable horses. Some decided they were actually happy not riding and were happy having pet horses/letting other people ride them. There is nothing wrong with any of these scenarios. My ginger horse is now a pet through injury, I don't feel anyone would look down on me because of it
Yes, it is important that the horse is happy. Is it not also important that the owner/rider is happy too? These are the people that I feel OP was thinking about. If you are happy then great, but some people aren't!
I'm sure everyone understands people keeping injured or elderly retired horses as pets. In fact most would say that makes you a responsible horse owner.
But if someone keeps a horse which is sound and aged, say, between 3 to 25 years old, but doesn't ride it, they do get critisized. I'm not saying the OP is criticisizing, but people do.
I bought mine because I love horses and riding, but we're not all the same. As long as it's well cared for, who cares of someone elses' horse isn't
I don't think keeping injured or elderly as pets has any bearing on whether you are a responsible horse owner. I do think it's highly irresponsible to pass on injured or elderly horses if you don't want them any more unless you really know the people and the horse is going to get a high standard of care .
But if someone choses to PTS an injured horse that s a personal choice and I would make no judgement either way.
However round here there are some DIY yards with no winter turnout and there are horses kept as pets who are never leaving their stable I think that's awful.
I know it's non of my buisness but I think it's awful.
I don't think keeping injured or elderly as pets has any bearing on whether you are a responsible horse owner. I do think it's highly irresponsible to pass on injured or elderly horses if you don't want them any more unless you really know the people and the horse is going to get a high standard of care .
But if someone choses to PTS an injured horse that s a personal choice and I would make no judgement either way.
No!!! no selling on retired horse arguments please
Why would the OP bother to make a post like that if they didn't intend to spark a debate?
Confidence issues will always be an emotive subject. That's the nature of the beast - whatever people say, even if it's not a direct criticism, it will get under your skin and chip away at you. It truly is a horrible thing.
Oooh does that mean now isn't a good time to say that I'm only keeping my unridden ones until I free up enough freezer space to store them - freezer space that's currently full of the last lot of cute ickle fluffy wuffy lambikins I killed
Why would the OP bother to make a post like that if they didn't intend to spark a debate?
Confidence issues will always be an emotive subject. That's the nature of the beast - whatever people say, even if it's not a direct criticism, it will get under your skin and chip away at you. It truly is a horrible thing.
No if a debate happens then it happens poster. I posted because I just dont get it and many people have expressed opinions which are rather interesting to me and some just seem to want to turn it into a fight
I DONT GET it I am not a competition person, I LOVE doing chores around the yard and making sure my guys have everything I can afford to give them as well as the best care I can give them BUT I love to ride and I dont get why people would spend lots of money and time and ride loads of different horses, finally find 'the ONE' then get it home and not ride it
Thats the thing I have trouble comprehending
I think you have put some people's back up (including mine) b/c of the way you approached the question . . . remembering that we can't see your face or hear your voice, it's all about the words you chose to use.
An open-ended question, such as "I'm curious why some people own horses, but don't ride - any ideas?" sounds far less confrontational and (frankly) judgmental than a blanket statement like "I just don't get why people own horses and don't ride them" . . . I didn't read your initial post as a question - I read it as a statement . . . and I also formed an opinion (based on what you had written) that you were closed-minded and judgmental.
If you genuinely want to know why some people own horses but don't ride them (even if the horse is sound), that's different . . . but it's not what came across in your initial post.
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I unfortunately cannot help the way you took my post but others didnt take it that way so perhaps your take on it was such that you took offence again that I cannot help.
If everyone had univerally taken my post that way then perhaps rewording it would have been seen to improve it but others didnt immediately jump to being insulted so maybe on this occasion your jumping to conclusions was misplaced
Why would you go out and spend time and money looking for a horse then getting said horse and then being to scared to ride?
Not because the horse has scared you but just because you don't have the confidence to ride it??
I mean what an expensive waste of time, No??
I just don't get it. Not having a go I really honestly don't get it
Really - why is it any of your business? People own horses for all sorts of reasons. As long as said horse is well cared for, what does it matter?
As more and more horses are being either neglected or abandoned because their owners cannot afford them, surely those with the time, money and inclination to "do the all the chores" and pay for the correct care (dentist, vet, farrier, etc.) whether or not they ride should be applauded, not vilified (look it up).
Your post didn't make me confused - it actually made me angry.
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