Rant about unsupportive HHO'ers

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Why can't people come on here to ask for help/advice/support without being bombarded with nasty, sarcastic, unkind people having their say! If you don't agree with the OP then at least put it in a nice/helpful way to get your point across.

Everyone has their own opinions, thoughts and ideas but to attack someone you don't know, that is only asking for support of some kind is disgusting!

If you don't have anything nice or productive to say then pipe down and let the kind, helpful people assist with the query. It is nothing more than bullying and is totally uncalled for.

Not very encouraging to newbies or people that want to ask a seemingly harmless question, post a picture etc without being attacked.

Everyone has a right the to their opinions but no-one has the right to belittle someone else.

Rant over x
 
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I thought the same last week. I was ripped apart for asking a question on behalf of a friend. I've also just be quoted on another thread and laid into.
Some horse people can be so horrible and bitchy! People are asking for advice for a reason, we dont all know everything!

Rant over. Good thread ;) xx
 
To answer your question, I think some people feel the need to make themselves feel superior by putting down anyone who shows or seems to show any weakness or lack of knowledge/experience.

By trashing someone else you can big yourself up

Or look a complete t!t.
 
You will get the usual 'if you think someone is bullying then report it'.

Whilst I agree that sometimes posters are treated rather harshly on here, and yes, sometimes there has been bullying. I think that some of the harsher replies have actually been from extremely knowledgable and helpful people. Not everyone is able, or has the inclination to sugar coat what they say. And sometimes people actually need to be told quite bluntly or they will carry on as though nothing is wrong.

ETA: What really gets my goat is when loads of people pile in against one poster. Even if I disagree with that poster, I find the behaviour very juvenile and unnecessary.
 
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Haha I know Cornish on the cob!

It just really annoys me when people ask a simple question and they get slated for being 'cruel', 'bad owners' etc.

I feel sorry for people who take the wrath from the evil ones on here! x I only come on here when i'm bored at work, but i swear people come on here to 'entertain' themselves by being nasty! I picture them as little gremlins tap dancing on the keyboard and sniggering at the computer! (not really sure why or where this image comes from!! Probably because i'm a sicko, psychotic wierdo that needs drowning because i didn't rug my horse last night!) :rolleyes: x
 
I have only recently joined this forum as my miniature mare was showing problems during her pregnancy, the advise I had was very helpful and when the mare then had a still birth the words of support were fantastic and made a very difficult time a little easier for me and I was very grateful. However I looked at another thread and when I gave my opinion which agreed with another person on that thread we were accused of being the same person and that I must be a troll! Had no idea what that meant so asked, big mistake!!! I did feel that I would not come on this forum again but that meant these people have it all their way and when I read back to my original thread it makes me realise that it is good to have the support of other horsey people so I am still here!
 
Probably because i'm a sicko, psychotic wierdo that needs drowning because i didn't rug my horse last night!) :rolleyes: x[/QUOTE]

You didn't rug your horse, how could you I put wellies on mine!:D
 
Wagtail said:
Whilst I agree that sometimes posters are treated rather harshly on here, and yes, sometimes there has been bullying. I think that some of the harsher replies have actually been from extremely knowledgable and helpful people. Not everyone is able, or has the inclination to sugar coat what they say. And sometimes people actually need to be told quite bluntly or they will carry on as though nothing is wrong.
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There is a difference though between being blunt and being rude. I don't think there is a need to insult someone (often referred to "as telling it like it is") in order to influence their behaviour. In fact I believe that this is counterproductive. When a person feels under attack they will focus their energies and attention on defending themselves rather than on the factual information that is being imparted.
 
Crugeran Celt said:
Probably because i'm a sicko, psychotic wierdo that needs drowning because i didn't rug my horse last night!) :rolleyes: x
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You didn't rug your horse, how could you I put wellies on mine!:D[/QUOTE]

Well then I'm truly evil because mine is in a nice warm, fluffy, snuggly stable at night ;).

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Anglebracket said:
There is a difference though between being blunt and being rude. I don't think there is a need to insult someone (often referred to "as telling it like it is") in order to influence their behaviour. In fact I believe that this is counterproductive. When a person feels under attack they will focus their energies and attention on defending themselves rather than on the factual information that is being imparted.
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Great sense written here.

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Crugeran Celt said:
I have only recently joined this forum as my miniature mare was showing problems during her pregnancy, the advise I had was very helpful and when the mare then had a still birth the words of support were fantastic and made a very difficult time a little easier for me and I was very grateful. However I looked at another thread and when I gave my opinion which agreed with another person on that thread we were accused of being the same person and that I must be a troll! Had no idea what that meant so asked, big mistake!!! I did feel that I would not come on this forum again but that meant these people have it all their way and when I read back to my original thread it makes me realise that it is good to have the support of other horsey people so I am still here!
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Glad you decided to stay if everybody that got some grief left the forum there would be no decent people left. I have been riding for 30 years ever since I was stuck on a Shetland at the age of 2 and I like to think of myself as a 'nice' horsey person ;) but there are definitely quite a few people in the horse work who are not very nice people. The world would be a boring place if we were all the same though :D
 
I agree Crugeran Celt, I have had a lot of support on here too and I havent been targeted myself but it makes me cringe when someone gets slated for asking a question.

Someone asked about popping a fleece on her horse and pretty much got told she shouldnt have a horse if she doesnt know how to look after it! If i asked the lady in the stable next to me if she thought i should pop a rug on mine tonight and she turned round and said that i'd be gobsmacked!! lol.....but chances are these people wouldn't say anything unless they are hid behind their screens (tap dancing goblin image again :rolleyes:) x

I'd like people to think most people can be supportive, kind and helpful on here and would like to welcome newbies x
 
PolarSkye said:
You didn't rug your horse, how could you I put wellies on mine!:D
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Well then I'm truly evil because mine is in a nice warm, fluffy, snuggly stable at night ;).

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Yes me too I must also be extremely evil keeping my horse in such an unnatural way and he did look so unhappy in his cosy stable last night while the rain beat down ;)
 
I don't think it will ever change on here.

There are some excellent, knowledgeable people who are kind enough to share their long earned experience; but as Wagtail says, it won't always be sugar coated.

As it's an unmoderated forum, people will and do say what they will. Sometimes someone will report the extreme (and sometimes the not so extreme) comments and the relevant poster will go on 'holiday', but other than that, there isn't a check mechanism in place.
 
I agree with Wagtail. I wouldn't deliberately post just to be rude, but likewise if I don't agree with something I will say so. Eg. I replied to an op who had basically asked if they should or shouldn't do something. I very politely said no & gave my reasons why only to be accused of being negative & sarcastic, for no other reason than I hadn't said yes & blindly agreed. So I get where this thread is coming from but think it goes the other way too sometimes, people get very defensive if anyone disagrees, & then start name calling.
 
TED2010 said:
Well then I'm truly evil because mine is in a nice warm, fluffy, snuggly stable at night ;).

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Yes me too I must also be extremely evil keeping my horse in such an unnatural way and he did look so unhappy in his cosy stable last night while the rain beat down ;)[/QUOTE]

How could you leave the poor things in the warm dry stables when they could be out playing in this lovely summer weather that we are having. Believe it or not but it is actually sunny at the moment and I am is Wales!
 
I personally think its a lot about being a 'newbie' too, as if you have a low post count or its your first post, you obviously must know nothing about horses. I found that intially.
There are few posters which come to mind who may be blunt etc, but I have never seen write a nice post to anyone about anything, to which advice I tend to ignore because they obviously feel that they are always right and the rest of the world is wrong :rolleyes:
 
littlelegs said:
I agree with Wagtail. I wouldn't deliberately post just to be rude, but likewise if I don't agree with something I will say so. Eg. I replied to an op who had basically asked if they should or shouldn't do something. I very politely said no & gave my reasons why only to be accused of being negative & sarcastic, for no other reason than I hadn't said yes & blindly agreed. So I get where this thread is coming from but think it goes the other way too sometimes, people get very defensive if anyone disagrees, & then start name calling.
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I think tact has a role to play, some people have it and some people don't ;) littlelegs i agree it is important that people express their opinion and say so if they do not agree with a post but there are certain people that either post without thinking how their answer may be construed or i think sometimes they just say things deliberately bluntly to get a reaction and as somebody else has mentioned to make themselves look superior/ like the font of all knowledge! ;)
 
Magnetic Sparrow said:
To answer your question, I think some people feel the need to make themselves feel superior by putting down anyone who shows or seems to show any weakness or lack of knowledge/experience.

By trashing someone else you can big yourself up

Or look a complete t!t.
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Amen... and from experience they like to do this in real life too! GRRRR
 
Crugeran Celt said:
Yes me too I must also be extremely evil keeping my horse in such an unnatural way and he did look so unhappy in his cosy stable last night while the rain beat down ;)
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How could you leave the poor things in the warm dry stables when they could be out playing in this lovely summer weather that we are having. Believe it or not but it is actually sunny at the moment and I am is Wales![/QUOTE]

HAHA! mine are always stabled at night i like my cosy warm bed so should they. I mean when its boiling they can stay out and get a nice tan, but its never summer here maybe get a week in august . They stand at the gate at 5.45pm waiting to come in Clever little yearlings :)
 
Mine have access to their stables so can choose wether they want to be in or out and they stay out. Don't think they are very bright bless them. My miniatures go into their shed when it rains, might be small but have bigger brains!:)
 
How can you be supportive if you think someone is being a div?

Why would you, how is that helpful?

I swear I'm from a different planet to other people sometimes. This thread is totally baffling to me.
 
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