Thought twice about sharing this…I don’t think my confidence has been too badly dented from last weekend’s fall, but it currently feels like my enjoyment has been. I’m off back to munstead this afternoon for a solo xc lesson. Previously I’ve been more excited and not that nervous about our outings, which is unusual for me, in a good way, but now I’m feeling decidedly ‘meh’ and a bit flat about it. Not enough to cry off but enough to feel a bit unsure about it.
I suppose that’s inevitable but I might adjust my plan (which was to treat it almost like a comp, do the warm up and go straight round) and instead take it slow and see how we go. Hopefully, I can reinstall some of that excitement and enjoyment and regain some trust…
In theory I know that progress with horses is always up and own, and you have to get over various issues, but putting that into practice is always the challenge!
Thought twice about sharing this…I don’t think my confidence has been too badly dented from last weekend’s fall, but it currently feels like my enjoyment has been. I’m off back to munstead this afternoon for a solo xc lesson. Previously I’ve been more excited and not that nervous about our outings, which is unusual for me, in a good way, but now I’m feeling decidedly ‘meh’ and a bit flat about it. Not enough to cry off but enough to feel a bit unsure about it.
I suppose that’s inevitable but I might adjust my plan (which was to treat it almost like a comp, do the warm up and go straight round) and instead take it slow and see how we go. Hopefully, I can reinstall some of that excitement and enjoyment and regain some trust…
In theory I know that progress with horses is always up and own, and you have to get over various issues, but putting that into practice is always the challenge!

Good luck!Bernster you are not alone, if it helps I HAVE actually cried this morning out of sheer nerves. Hope it went well xx
Is it normal to watch SJ the day before your event on youtube (at the venue) and your stomach starts flipping and churning already, and your heart rate increase?
Feels like I've just been for a run and I'm still in bed with a cup of tea!
Damn nerves...
Maybe one of these books would help for the future. There are techniques for managing nerves and stopping them making you cry and feel sick.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Transform-Pressure-Power-Strategies-Eventing/dp/1518610501
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Brain-Trai...3&sprefix=rider+brain+training,aps,365&sr=8-1
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Fit-Focuse...&sprefix=rider+brain+training,aps,365&sr=8-12
If books and "manual" learning aren't your thing possibly worth a read of this website and dropping and email to discuss a consultation. She has a great reputation and she works with an Intermediate eventer up here who highly recommends her.
https://www.horseridingwithconfidencescotland.co.uk/
I would say go just to enjoy the outing. Wind in your hair. No need to even jump, no pressure. I know that sometimes, when I see the fences, I feel nervous. They look huge. But then, when I get 'that' canter, suddenly they all look teeny tiny. It all suddenly is about the feel of the canter and the feel for the correct speed and angles. It all becomes a giant, moving, powerful jigsaw puzzle and is such a buzz that the nerves don't even feature.
Bernster you are not alone, if it helps I HAVE actually cried this morning out of sheer nerves. Hope it went well xx
Thank you. He is so kind and mannerly. Obviously, as a not quite 5 year old, he has wobbly moments, but generally he is just a happy chappie.He's such a nice looking horse, Red.
Bless you both! It was ahem, interesting….but we survived, just about ?. Had to dramatically change plan to ride the horse I had on the day, who was like a giant Tigger! Not focused, not listening, with a bit of piaffe, passage and cantering on the spot. We didn’t do much jumping and didn’t get far from the warm up area. He was best when pointed towards a fence but in between he wasn’t very rideable. It’s tempting to just let him run on over fences as I get the sense he’s happiest when he’s just off galloping but, if he’s not properly listening and on my aids, that doesn’t feel safe.
Need to have a re think, ditch the xc comp plans and do some more training on our own. To be fair, it’s the first solo xc I’ve done with him and we haven’t done much faster work for months over the winter.
There’s a tiny niggle at the back of my mind that he might be too much horse for me but I really like him, I enjoy riding him (but not yesterday!) and I’m prepared to work it through. I feel ok to take him out dressage and sj in a comp environment but I’ll lay off any xc or Eventing for a while until we have Control and Focus installed!

3 years ago I was struggling: 2 reined Pelham, running martingale on bottom rein and drop noseband, looked a bit polo pony style. Loads and loads of flatwork and also jump clinics and have been in snaffle for the last 2 years with grackle, finally to plain cavesson and no martingale by late last summer. It's been a slog but you'll find the right buttons soon I hope xThank you TFF that’s really kind. I’ll def take you up on that as I sort out what I need to do. Atm he’s good in company (as long as I don’t try and separate them) but we need to improve doing the solo stuff, so it’s that transition I need to have a think about. Great pics !

I packed Maddie off to my trainer's yard today and tomorrow I start my journey north to the Shetland Islands. I am meeting up with a couple of ex HHOers. Last time we met was Feb 2020, so it will be lovely to see them again - one lives in Northamptonshire, but the other in the Borders, so logistics aren't easy. This trip has been booked for over 6 months - fingers crossed we don't have any last minute hitches. I am currently at the point where I still have a thousand things to do before I go away, but I know it will be worth it when I get there.
Hope everyone has a great weekend whatever you are up to.
I think there is a pony in there somewhere!!!
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Baby Horse was FAB on his clinic. It was a busy venue, 3 rings of lessons going on (2 dressage and our group grid/pole work).
He was ace. We did our longest and most complicated grid yet, after 2 single fences. It was loooong with stacks of canter poles and 3 fences. Photo is the final fence in the grid.
I was so proud of him, and me, and so happy, that I quit here. I find it hard to explain, but when something amazingly wonderful happens, I like to hold onto it. Bank it, as Anne Robinson (I think) used to say. I frustrate the hell out of the (wonderful) trainer, who is somewhat perplexed that when it goes right, I quit!
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He has quite a few dapples, but the picture is taken from a smudgy video so they are smudged out.He's very WHITE already! Lovely horse too![]()




Good steeds today. I feel like we are now properly making progress, it felt a bit slow at the start because we were a bit limited on when we could use the arena and then he had an abscess that took ages to resolve, but now I think we have a better ride each time. I can feel my SI getting jammed up so will need to step up the pilateshe is a big mover and when he is tight it's like riding a jackhammer on a trampoline! Anyway, starting to feel very positive about this, there is trust building from both sides and that feeling is priceless.
I took Frank to the outdoor afterwards and although Q shouted for him a lot, he was also eating his hay... so progress on that front too.
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16.2ish i think.How tall is Quiz MP?