She has gone and I'm devastated

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Doris68

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Some of you may know the problems I've been having of late with my lovely old lady. Anyway, this morning when we went out to feed her, she was lying in the manege (not normal). She was not very responsive and, despite having on her rug, seemed a tad cold. We called for the vet and that dreaded decision was made. She was PTS, as the vet said her BP was low and I said I didn't want her to be put through any further investigations. I believe that she had had enough and that the problem was with her heart. She did not suffer in any way and I would not have continued to have her injected, nor given any invasive treatment. I'm sorry if this seems garbled, but I'm struggling with everything as I've had her for 25 years, since she was 4. I can't believe she has gone and left a big hole in our lives. RIP my beautiful lady. xx
 
I'm so sorry. You must be absolutely devastated to say the least. What a fantastic long life she had with you. Hold on to that thought.
 
I am so very sorry. It must be such a shock for you.
How wonderful for her though, to have spent all her life with one owner who obviously cared for her very much. xx
 
I'm struggling, I really am - thank you for your kind words. This won't be easy for sure - I loved her so much.
 
So sorry. It is such a wrench to the heart when they leave us. True friends. Many good thoughts and vibes to you.
 
I've had my boy 21 years and the thought of losing him one day scares me. It's never easy saying goodbye, you've probably been through loads together and it's difficult to think of life without her. Keep hold of that love, her body maybe gone but her spirit lives on. X
 
Im so sorry for your loss, I can only imagine the whole she has left in your life. Sending you big hugs and take comfort in all the good times x x
 
I'm so sorry to read about your mare, I cannot even begin to comprehend how you must be feeling having lost her after having her for her whole lifetime. Sending you big hugs. X
 
I'm so sorry to hear this. She had such a good life with you and was lucky to have found her forever home. I'm sure you have many wonderful memories to remember her. Big hugs x
 
It truly is one of the worst days and my heart goes out to you. At some point or another we have all either been there or will be in the future. Big hugs.

Try & think of it from your horses point of view, she has had a loving & happy home for 25 years, never knowing pain or misery. She was with you, her all, until the very end and you was the last thing she saw. She went with peace, love, care & compassion. I'm sure how we would all choose to pass.

Hold onto your lovely memories and one day it won't feel so bad, a smile of rememberence will pass your lips rather than the tears.

Be kind to yourself.
 
So sorry to read about your mare. Sounds like she had a wonderful life with you - how fortunate to remain in the same home (and not be passed around like so many horses are).
I know just how soul destroying and heartbreaking it is to lose a much loved horse. They leave such a hole in your heart. Take comfort from the fact you did the right thing for her and take comfort in the happy memories you have.


To place your horse's need for you to let her leave her failing body above your need to keep her with you- that- is the greatest and purest love.
 
It really will get easier with time. I'm sorry it's so hard for you right now, but you have given her a wonderful life.
 
Sad to hear this OP, but at least you knew without a doubt it was the right time and it sounded very dignified. It's like a part of your life goes with them when you've had them so long xx
 
I'm finding it difficult to go in to the yard - it's so quiet and empty. I miss her so much. Thank you all for your lovely words - I suppose it'll get easier....eventually.
 
She's obviously had a secure and happy life and that counts for a lot; we can't keep them forever and you had a lifetime with her, but it was time for her to go. Believe me, it will get easier as time goes on and you'll be able to smile when you talk about her instead of crying. I've been through similar, so I know from experience. Take care.
 
So sorry to hear this. I lost my old girl nearly 2 years ago at the age of 40...been with me since 3... Even though it's irrational, you kind of think they're going to go on forever.

It sounds as if she had a fab life and didn't suffer.

T x
 
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