Claire.81
Active Member
Hi all,
Just looking for a bit of advice as Ive found myself in a bit of a situation and I really dont know what to do.
Ive been looking for a horse to loan for a while now, and a few weeks ago I answered an advert for a 17 year old Tb gelding whos owner wanted a long term/permanent loan home for him.
Shes owned him for over 8 years and due to her personal circumstances she had found herself in a position whereby she could no longer keep him.
Long story short, he was perfect for what I was looking for (mainly hacking around the village and some low level dressage and/or showing) so I agreed to take him on full, long term loan.
I agreed to pay his owner the cost of transporting him down to our yard, and he arrived last weekend. So far no problem.
However this is where it gets a bit complicated...
On handing me the horses passport the owner also gave me a handwritten note which was a receipt for the purchase of the horse.
There had been no talk of me actually buying the horse during any of our conversations, so it did come as quite a shock to me when I realised that instead of just loaning him as I thought, Id actually bought him!
Dont get me wrong, Im not complaining about actually buying him, he was intended to be with me permanently anyway, so in that respect it makes no difference. It was just a shock initially lol.
However his owner has recently contacted me and told me that shes missing him and could she come down and collect him and I honestly dont know what to do.
On the one hand, I feel for her, she had him for a long time and obviously shes going to miss him, and that is telling me to say yes, come down and get him.
But the other hand (and my partner and yard owner) is telling me that she was looking for a new home for him for a reason, she told me her circumstances just last week and things cant have changed that quickly. Plus given the fact that she was the one who chose to sell him to me rather than just loan him....
I dont want to seem heartless and just say no she cant have him back, but I also dont want to give the horse back if hes going to be advertised again in a few weeks if this lady finds things getting difficult again.
Its not a situation Ive come across in the thirty years Ive had horses so I really dont know what to do for the best, so any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Sorry for the very long post, I tried to keep it as brief as I could lol
Just looking for a bit of advice as Ive found myself in a bit of a situation and I really dont know what to do.
Ive been looking for a horse to loan for a while now, and a few weeks ago I answered an advert for a 17 year old Tb gelding whos owner wanted a long term/permanent loan home for him.
Shes owned him for over 8 years and due to her personal circumstances she had found herself in a position whereby she could no longer keep him.
Long story short, he was perfect for what I was looking for (mainly hacking around the village and some low level dressage and/or showing) so I agreed to take him on full, long term loan.
I agreed to pay his owner the cost of transporting him down to our yard, and he arrived last weekend. So far no problem.
However this is where it gets a bit complicated...
On handing me the horses passport the owner also gave me a handwritten note which was a receipt for the purchase of the horse.
There had been no talk of me actually buying the horse during any of our conversations, so it did come as quite a shock to me when I realised that instead of just loaning him as I thought, Id actually bought him!
Dont get me wrong, Im not complaining about actually buying him, he was intended to be with me permanently anyway, so in that respect it makes no difference. It was just a shock initially lol.
However his owner has recently contacted me and told me that shes missing him and could she come down and collect him and I honestly dont know what to do.
On the one hand, I feel for her, she had him for a long time and obviously shes going to miss him, and that is telling me to say yes, come down and get him.
But the other hand (and my partner and yard owner) is telling me that she was looking for a new home for him for a reason, she told me her circumstances just last week and things cant have changed that quickly. Plus given the fact that she was the one who chose to sell him to me rather than just loan him....
I dont want to seem heartless and just say no she cant have him back, but I also dont want to give the horse back if hes going to be advertised again in a few weeks if this lady finds things getting difficult again.
Its not a situation Ive come across in the thirty years Ive had horses so I really dont know what to do for the best, so any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Sorry for the very long post, I tried to keep it as brief as I could lol