Turned away due to my weight :(

I will take this at face value and say that your instructor isnt saying you are too heavy for the riding school horses but you are too heavy for most horses full stop

Buying your own only gets you away from the 'criticism' it doesnt escape the fact that you are much too large to ride

Im heavier than you but still enjoy a fun and full horsey lifestyle, i walk my pony out in hand, lunge him etc etc and i go to shows to watch or help - all good fun and no riding :)

Troll or no troll please try to watch the comments people, unkindness only makes larger people seek comfort in food a lot of the time. I cringe when i see 'pie' comments its really easy to be more constructive you know!
 
risky business said:
It's a real shame this went of track and the troll card was pulled..

If this OP actually was genuine she's certainly not going to take any advice now is she? If she was a troll so what stop feeding it if you honestly believe that but I don't think she was..
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I agree. I think people who jump into these new posts to play the childish troll/popcorn game should be ashamed of themselves. IMO.
 
I don't like to shout "Troll" but to me this whole post sounded weird and the username sort of made it seem even odder.

If it is for real then OP, you need to grow up and wise up. 18stone is TOO HEAVY for any horse as far as I am concerned and at 5'7" you are WAY too heavy for your height (in fact I am surprised you manage to walk with ease, let alone have the energy to ride a horse and gallop and jump?!)

Sorry, I just don't buy it. I am 1inch shorter, weigh just over 10 stone and feel hefty. Cripes, if I was 18 stone........!!!!
 
OP if you are genuine, then you really need to lose weight. If you get your own horse you will cripple it, no matter how big it is. And as for your previous comment that you are happy with your weight - really? Because I'm not sure I believe you. Don't think of it as a diet, think of it as a lifestyle change. I hope not only for any horse's sake but your own sake that you manage to lose some weight. If you don't, then your own health is seriously at risk. And if you can set yourself to losing weight, do it while you're still young enough - it gets harder to shift the pounds when you get a bit older! Good luck!
 
I think you need to look at this as motivation to turn things around rather than a putdown. Whether you are happy with being 18st or not I'm pretty sure no horse would feel the same. Especially considering you've been riding 14.2 ponies, most places wouldn't allow this.

You need to take control of your life and decide whether you're serious about continuing with horses and if so let it be the boost you need to loose weight. I just finished my 1st year of uni and had put on lots of weight, I have a 14.3 Connemara X and felt that at almost 11st 10lbs I was too heavy as he was panting going up hills on hacks which made me feel awful, in the last 4 weeks I haven't ridden him and lost 12lb but I still feel there is much more to go before I reach my ideal weight for him. The horse has to come first.

Hopefully you use this as an opportunity to make things better - good luck!
 
hayinamanger said:
In my humble opinion, this cannot be for real.
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And where is the harm in just replying with good advice, just in case it is? Why drive people away (and other potential new posters) by crowing about troll-spotting, making nasty comments about pies and cliquey popcorn jokes? just plain bullying IMO.

Not aimed at you, hayinthemanger, btw. :)
 
Don't blame the riding school, some people don't look their weight... A friend of mine to look at, you would think be around 12stone, she weighs.. 16! yet doesn't look it
 
ladyt25 said:
I don't like to shout "Troll" but to me this whole post sounded weird and the username sort of made it seem even odder.

If it is for real then OP, you need to grow up and wise up. 18stone is TOO HEAVY for any horse as far as I am concerned and at 5'7" you are WAY too heavy for your height (in fact I am surprised you manage to walk with ease, let alone have the energy to ride a horse and gallop and jump?!)

Sorry, I just don't buy it. I am 1inch shorter, weigh just over 10 stone and feel hefty. Cripes, if I was 18 stone........!!!!
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In all honesty if you feel hefty at just over 10 stone as you say then you may need some professional help, I wouldn't like to say you have an eating disorder as I don't know you but to feel hefty at your weight and height would normally point to a problem.

FWIW I do agree the op will need to loose some weight if she wants to carry on riding, I feel for the OP it is horrible to be pulled up about weight and maybe the instructor could have phrased it better but really when it comes to being overweight it is very difficult to not upset people.
 
FionaM12 said:
And where is the harm in just replying with good advice, just in case it is? Why drive people away (and other potential new posters) by crowing about troll-spotting, making nasty comments about pies and cliquey popcorn jokes? just plain bullying IMO
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This, absolutely. I'm sick to death of seeing this happen. Would it kill you to let a troll slip through the net if it were the case? The advice offered is still good and valid, and if the op was really just fishing then... so what?! People only reply if they want to, trolls may amuse themselves but at the detriment of nobody. And of course if the op is genuine, how the hell do you think they feel now? How about another newbie considering making a first post, but reading this thread first?

Calling troll just smacks of smugness to me - it just makes you feel smarter and spoils an otherwise interesting and useful thread :(
 
To be totally truthful, if this had happened to me, i would certainly not want to discuss it on an open forum. Such a sensitive and personal issue.... broached with total strangers ? On a first post ? Knowing that this is the "Non Fluffy Bunny" horse forum ?

OP cannot be too sensitive if you think about it.
 
Shysmum said:
To be totally truthful, if this had happened to me, i would certainly not want to discuss it on an open forum. Such a sensitive and personal issue.... broached with total strangers ? On a first post ? Knowing that this is the "Non Fluffy Bunny" horse forum ?

OP cannot be too sensitive if you think about it.
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Agree, totally. I'd never disclose my weight if I were upset about not being allowed to ride.
 
Floxie said:
This, absolutely. I'm sick to death of seeing this happen. Would it kill you to let a troll slip through the net if it were the case? The advice offered is still good and valid, and if the op was really just fishing then... so what?! People only reply if they want to, trolls may amuse themselves but at the detriment of nobody. And of course if the op is genuine, how the hell do you think they feel now? How about another newbie considering making a first post, but reading this thread first?

Calling troll just smacks of smugness to me - it just makes you feel smarter and spoils an otherwise interesting and useful thread :(
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This
 
Given that the OP has disappeared she is either frightened and insulted or gone to bed
If anyone regardless of weight offers the kind of groundwork the OP has been offered grab it with both hands Too many horses suffer at the hands of the ignorant who because it is cheap and easy to buy do so without enough knowledge of the horses needs and everyone who owns one should know the symptoms and prognosis for a wide variety of common illnesses and should know how to deal with an emergency both actually and theoretically. As to weight 20 stone of rider and tack is way too much for any horse I dont ride much now but have just lost 5 stone over the last year, simply by buying a smaller plate and going sugar free low fat with lots of wholemeal and protein. Lots of veg and a little fruit if you must graze
As to being a sensitive issue the user names make it very easy to hide who you are so why wouldnt you post anonymously I would guess it is much easier to admit problems to a faceless group than friends and families.
 
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ladyt25 said:
If it is for real then OP, you need to grow up and wise up. 18stone is TOO HEAVY for any horse as far as I am concerned and at 5'7" you are WAY too heavy for your height (in fact I am surprised you manage to walk with ease, let alone have the energy to ride a horse and gallop and jump?!)
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There are people who are able to be fit at that weight, certainly fit enough to walk with ease, even 'gasp' run. Should they ride, now there is a question.
 
Shysmum said:
To be totally truthful, if this had happened to me, i would certainly not want to discuss it on an open forum. Such a sensitive and personal issue.... broached with total strangers ? On a first post ? Knowing that this is the "Non Fluffy Bunny" horse forum ?

OP cannot be too sensitive if you think about it.
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But the OP is not you, I'm assuming...
She may also not have been aware of the forum's 'reputation'. I certainly didn't when I joined, only that it seemed a busy forum that often was the first link that came up on google for a range of subjects.
Lots of people post about sensitive subjects on here, sometimes it's better to get advice from someone who doesn't know you.

Totally don't get your post, at all. That may well be the way you think, but one of the best things about HHO is that people have different reasons to post and different outlooks.
 
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Sensitive or not comments like 'step away from the pies' is not acceptable to me it's down right rude true or not.. Little tact wouldn't go a miss.

Tbh troll or not some comments were harsh and not needed.
 
I haven't been here for ages, had a sabbatical - sorry to hear you're broken. i was a bad girl and did some jumping the other day, not only sprained my ankle, but knacked my damn back up. Which is stupid. That's my jumping days over.

hope you are on the mend x
 
I hope your feelings havnt been hurt too much but the bew instructor OP! I do think she could have gone about it a better way however I think it's good she offered lunging lessons etc!

My old riding school had a 13st limit so it's not unusual.
 
Given that the OP rode several times a week its not impossible that they are a regular user under a different name.

For the record i am well capable of walking a few miles at over 20 stone, a lot of it is state of mind and how busy you are day to day - its not impossible to have a certain level of fitness
 
Cherrydan- you wouldnt sell the OP a horse, neither would i sell them one to ride

But plenty would

Sadly
 
Cherrydan said:
Sorry if I offend, but it's the way I see it, I'm not one to shy away from cruelty to horses, I'd offend anyone if it meant a horse wasn't hurting....
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If you were sorry you wouldn't speak to someone like that in the first place. Your attitude is ignorant and disgraceful. I'm disgusted by your post, it is insensitive and deliberately insulting and cruel. Shame on you.
 
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If this is genuine - the important point that no-one has mentioned is that if OP did buy a horse and move to a yard, it is more than likely that someone at the yard would have something to say to OP. Anyone who has ever been on a livery yard will know exactly what I mean ;)
 
Cherrydan said:
Yeah, I don't know why i said sorry, the op should be, and you mention abuse, the op sounds like her hobby for a while has been just that...I'll take the bullet, I'm not intimidated by enablers, and if you think I should put rainbows and butterflies around it to make her feel good about her inability to understand what personal responsibility is, you will have a long time to wait.
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You really have no understanding of people with any kind of problem do you? I hope for your sake you're about 12, and have time to grow up and learn a little about people. You seem entirely without empathy and compassion.
 
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