Would you scope or see how they go?

Peregrine Falcon said:
I'd been having conversations with my vet about Flicka. I'd gone out for a quick ride one evening and she looked uncomfortable afterwards. That was about 3 weeks before she was PTS. She looked so well but on the inside she clearly wasn't. When they go at a young age it's so devasting.

So sorry that it's come at a difficult time in your life too. ((HUGS))
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Makes it so much harder when they are so young!
 
Thanks all! Super tough times. If you were in my position knowing you can't be without a horse would you start looking to fill that gap knowing the outcome will be the same and the inevitable would happen a some point soon?
 
Stenners said:
Thanks all! Super tough times. If you were in my position knowing you can't be without a horse would you start looking to fill that gap knowing the outcome will be the same and the inevitable would happen a some point soon?
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I think it’s very much an individual decision. When my horse was retired from ridden work (young) I did get another , I knew paddy would be PTS but kept him as a pet for a period of time alongside my newer one. Such an awful situation for you :( mine was also young and had a very unusual condition with no treatment.
 
Stenners said:
Thanks all! Super tough times. If you were in my position knowing you can't be without a horse would you start looking to fill that gap knowing the outcome will be the same and the inevitable would happen a some point soon?
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Having seen my husband without one twice and then seemingly unable to pick, I would, if you feel you are able. The months of misery for him (and all of us by extension) were something I would definitely try to avoid! I already had another when mine was PTS (I usually have two) and it helped hugely.
 
I do have a little pony for my Daughter but she's only 11.2 so I can't ride her so I do still have a reason to be at the yard but not the same when i cant ride, be with one of my own etc. Really if I did find another asap it's likely to only be a matter of weeks. Plus she couldn't be a field ornament for too long, she gets bored and goes a bit ferel!
 
Stenners said:
Thanks all! Super tough times. If you were in my position knowing you can't be without a horse would you start looking to fill that gap knowing the outcome will be the same and the inevitable would happen a some point soon?
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Yes. And I'd have no issues at all having the new horse lined up before I let this one go, on the proviso she remains pain free and happy. For me it makes it a lot easier, and its the reason I always have two dogs. I couldnt cope without a dog in my life.
 
Absolutely if she wasn't pain free then she would go sooner but it's going to hard either way but may help to give me a focus when the time comes. I have looked at a few adverts but can't help but feel so guilty!
 
I've just caught up with this thread and I'm so sorry to hear it wasn't better news, especially at a tough time for you anyway.

It's far harder to make the decision when they look healthy and happy and when the symptoms were seemingly so minor.

Re having another horse lined up, yes I would. I think different people cope in different ways but I've always found it much easier if I had another horse to focus on and keep me looking forward.
 
Squeak said:
I've just caught up with this thread and I'm so sorry to hear it wasn't better news, especially at a tough time for you anyway.

It's far harder to make the decision when they look healthy and happy and when the symptoms were seemingly so minor.

Re having another horse lined up, yes I would. I think different people cope in different ways but I've always found it much easier if I had another horse to focus on and keep me looking forward.
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Thank you yes - having another horse to put my time and energy into would help drastically i think. When I had my other mare PTS 5 years ago (never expected to do this again let alone so soon) I had my TB to focus on (whilst being 10 weeks pregnant with my daughter)
 
I am another who would have to be actively looking. When I knew I was going to lose my favourite dog very soon, I started looking for a pup straight away. I bought it but didn't collect it for 3 weeks, my old girl went 10 days after I saw the pup. Only thing that kept me going was the thought of having the pup so soon. I know that for some the thought of replacement so soon is anathema but for me it is essential.
 
I went a bit mad and bought a yearling unseen from an auction a month after loosing Flicka. I have other ponies too, but needed something to take my mind off the hurt.

I did sell one I hadn't clicked with as my head wasn't in the right place and also had sold my son's outgrown pony so I was in a bit of a mess.

Obe was just lovely. (And still is!)
 
Stenners said:
Thanks all! Super tough times. If you were in my position knowing you can't be without a horse would you start looking to fill that gap knowing the outcome will be the same and the inevitable would happen a some point soon?
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It may sound selfish to some but I have a youngster who will take over from my mare when she retires and when her time comes with one of the reasons being that it might help cushion the blow when I lose her. I'm hoping so anyway. It would also be a good distraction for you.
 
Really sorry you're faced with such a horrible decision. I had a horse go through a similar issue, granted he had loads of other issues too, but the choke was ultimately why I decided to call it a day. He had a tie back in racing and it was obviously bodged in some way - he frequently choked on his food, and also coughed a lot. The vet said it would never get better.

I put him down - he was 7 years old and fit as a fiddle. He looked like he could go racing the next day but I felt it was the most fair thing.

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IrishMilo said:
Really sorry you're faced with such a horrible decision. I had a horse go through a similar issue, granted he had loads of other issues too, but the choke was ultimately why I decided to call it a day. He had a tie back in racing and it was obviously bodged in some way - he frequently choked on his food, and also coughed a lot. The vet said it would never get better.

I put him down - he was 7 years old and fit as a fiddle. He looked like he could go racing the next day but I felt it was the most fair thing.

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So sorry to hear this. He looks gorgeous. Must have been a super hard decision for you.
 
I had to say goodbye to a seven year old TB who looked like she could event tomorrow.

I bought a project just after she’d gone and he’s still with me now (in a good way!!). I was on livery and would have had to pay full rate to retain my stable anyway, so I figured that as a cheap project, if it didn’t work out, I could sell on. Gave me something to focus on and has worked out really well for us both.
 
I'm so sorry Stenners, it's so hard, especially when they're so young, but I definitely think you're doing the right thing.

You shouldn't feel guilty about seeing another horse, your horse doesn't have the mental capacity to think that they're being replaced, or loved any less, it's only you who has the ability to make yourself think that - so you're making yourself feel guilty for no reason. If horses is what you love, and you have given your all to the horses you do have, then you have nothing to feel bad about and should absolutely indulge in what you love. Everyone has coping mechanisms that work for them :)
 
Stenners said:
Thanks all! Super tough times. If you were in my position knowing you can't be without a horse would you start looking to fill that gap knowing the outcome will be the same and the inevitable would happen a some point soon?
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Yes - although I felt very guilty doing it.

In some ways though that is better than a rebound buy which I have seen some people do. Buying through a haze of grief doesn't always lead to good decisions.
 
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