el_Snowflakes
Well-Known Member
Just a pity your horse isn't a kicker.....
If you were both adults tbh I think I would expect you to sort it out among themselves, I know my YO wouldn't be too pleased having to deal with such a ridiculous situation on a yard full of grown adults.
If you were both adults tbh I think I would expect you to sort it out among themselves, I know my YO wouldn't be too pleased having to deal with such a ridiculous situation on a yard full of grown adults.
Ok well have posted under this name before regarding a fellow livery constantly on my case. This week it reached a possibly dangerous point.
The track to the paddocks was icy and I was leading my horse slowly and trying to keep her on the grass edge whilst I dealt with walking on the icy puddles. Fellow livery got slowed down by me and shouted at me to hurray up, I didn't due to ice, my horse then started trotting so told her off and got her calmed down to a walk, fellow livery then shouted "all she needed was a wheelbarrow up her ass", it turned out she had rammed my horses back legs with her wheel barrow to speed her up.
Was absolutely gobsmacked (not good at confrontation as get tounge tied) and couldn't think of what to say bar seriously considering smacking her in the mouth, so pulled over at the nearest point and told her to go round. Will be making a formal complaint to the YO when he returns from holiday this week.
Luckily my girl didn't kick out, slip over, pull me over or get injured but am flipping fuming!!! As a YO or as a livery how would you deal with this?
If you were both adults tbh I think I would expect you to sort it out among themselves, I know my YO wouldn't be too pleased having to deal with such a ridiculous situation on a yard full of grown adults.
As a YO why would you believe one person other another/take such drastic action on the say so of one?
Firstly, I hope that the horse is alright.
I'm assuming that this is DIY; given that you were turning out and the other livery had a wheelbarrow, etc. Obviously the YO wasn't there, so they are in an awkward situation unless they can verify what happened.
So, if I were the YO I'd confiscate the wheelbarrow and (in the absence of prior unacceptable behaviour/objective and reliable witnesses/injuries to horse) insist that both of you go onto Full Livery until the dispute was resolved. Once/if I acquired proof either way, then I'd give the problem livery notice to leave and refund the injured party the difference in livery costs as compensation. And if it turned out to be six of one and half dozen of the other, then I'd give you both notice.
Harsh but fair, and preserves the YO's sanity.
As a YO why would you believe one person other another/take such drastic action on the say so of one?
I think that is what many people don't seem to be considering here. The YO is in a very difficult situation because unless the accused is a known troublemaker, how is she to know who is telling the truth? What is to stop someone making up stories just to get someone else kicked off the yard? I don't for one minute doubt what the OP is saying is true, but as her YO, I would be faced with two customers, both of whom have not given me any trouble, with conflicting stories. You cannot simply go throwing people off a yard on the say so of another livery. You need proof.
Why can't you just have a word with her yourself OP? Along the lines of not appreciating her attitude and to never dare to make contact with your horse at all.
I am really struggling not to see this as all a bit playground/asking the dinner lady to mediate (apologise and shake hands used to end those iirc!)
My YO is pretty involved as she owns 3 of the 10 horses on the yard but in this situation I can only imagine her coming up with you are all adults and old enough to fight your own battles and mumblings about growing up. Unless she had beef with one of them herself.
loads of ideas here, i do question the people who say they would have responded with violence though, maybe its just keyboard bravery.
Ive no idea how I would respond as a yo.
In my experience generally when people behave in this manner its usually due to their own issues and unhappiness, and in the past when it happened to me i decided not to waste time and energy and moved on. The thing is that some folk want this kind of drama in their lives and are so bitter and angry that they will fight to the end of time. I prefer to have my horse somewhere where i can go and enjoy him without sneaking round to avoid a psycho.
I can assure you its not keyboard bravery from me, i would not tolerate anyone putting my horse at risk of injury like that, so yes i would go totally ape at them i dont care how much of a big shot they think they are, the biggest of them arent long in winding their neck in when challenged
Did she actually make contact with your horse? Or did she just get close enough to spook her? Tricky situation, bullying is awful. I do think though, that you need to speak to this lady. Write down your concerns, make a list of the incidents, and just simply state how you would like it rectified.