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Jasmine2023 said:
For those that have offered help and sympathy I thank you. I was in a good place before all this, well as good as a depressive person with a negative outlook on life can be. For those that have been judgmental and have a disapproving tone I hope you never feel so low you don't want to carry on. I am now at the end and can't take anymore. Ozzy will be looked after I can assure you of that. Goodbye.
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You know, someone mentioned earlier in the thread (so sorry can't remember the name) that they once lost a horse and a little time passed, went to go get another. In the end realised they were looking for the horse that passed. Do you feel this is kind of the situation your in after losing your other horse? It's quite understandable tbh.

Do speak with those experinced posters who have offered to buy Ozzy Jasmine. Dosent sound like your in the right place to deal with everything that comes with advertising a horse right now either 💐
 
God I am so seriously peed off by how this has turned out. I came in this afternoon to catch up and was absolutely delighted to read all the updates on Ozzie's history. So thrilled for his new owner, what a catch, a real diamond in the rough just needs a few edges polished up and time and patience and he will almost definitely be even better than the horse she said she wanted.

And then I read further, whilst I am very, very sorry for anyone with mental health problems and deep depression, I have not one jot of sympathy if you use that to dismiss your responsibilities for any living animal that is under your care.

I and many others on this forum have had some real knock backs and low moments, but I bet not one of us have punished or neglected our poor pets and animals because of that. I would swap places with you tomorrow OP to get my son back alive and well, and my other son cured of his cancer and myself able to still even walk without struggling and terminally ill myself, but I can tell you this through every single day of the last three years I have made myself give my animals all the care and comfort they need every single day when I would very often be so low and helpless I could easily just take a handful of meds and never have to get up off the damn bed again. And do you know what, they have paid me back over and over again and the contact, love and empathy has lifted me and helped me to stop whinging about myself and get on with life. You should try it sometime, wonderful therapy.

Sell the horse and give it the break it deserves, of course Ozzie doesn't show any affection for you, why should it when you have plainly told him time and again you don't even like him!

That's it, I'm out.
 
CanteringCarrot said:
I mean, if we're being judgemental here, you really can't judge what any of us have been through or how low we've been. That's not fair. Some of us really have peeled ourselves up off the floor a time or two when we didn't think that it was worth doing so and continue to struggle.
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Absolutely agree here.

I stepped back from the thread a while back as was already starting to lose patience. In the meantime, it took a seemingly good turn, more positive than any of us could have predicted I think, and there's been lots of offers of help/advice/suggestions of potential ways forward.

That last post from OP is out of line. There are many on here who have been in difficult, dark, places, feeling unable to go on.
 
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Jasmine2023 said:
The riding school is very small and quiet and the lessons are taken by the owners. There are 2 larger riding stables nearby but this one is nice and quiet.

It is hard to like a horse that pulls faces and pins his ears back whenever he sees you and tries to pin you next to the stable wall when you go in. You can all be as judgemental as you like. I was expecting to be out hacking in the nice weather not in a situation where I am more depressed. I haven't the energy for all this. I hope none of you ever have to feel the way I am right now with no support around me.
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The thing is Jasmine we have all been in your position one way or another!
Not one of us on this forum is perfect and we all have come across our problems at one time or another!
But together on this forum we are a good bunch of people who have given you really good troubleshooting advice so far! You have a cracking wee horse there. Yes it is not what you want right now but who says if you sell Ozzy that you will not be facing this with another pony as well. They are real life issues.

When I first got BB he reared constantly in the stable he was a nightmare, it took him 3 weeks to settle and another 8 weeks to properly relax.

I dont think there is many on here that have bought a new horse and it stepped off the trailer and felt like home(except Orbi) he is an exception and its the first time I have ever had a horse settle immediately.
 
I went back and read the first post on this thread. The OP wanted to return Ozzy and get a refund and wanted advice on how the dealer could be made to comply.
People pointed out that this was very unlikely and that any sort of legal action was likely to be massively stressful (and potentially unsuccessful).

So every way forward that has been suggested isn't what was originally asked for. They've been good suggestions and very pragmatic, but ultimately not what was asked for. Because, however right or wrong it is, people do find themselves in this sort of situation when buying horses. It's then a matter of cutting losses and moving on.

I'm not sure we'll hear from the OP again. We've done our best.
 
Jasmine2023 said:
For those that have offered help and sympathy I thank you. I was in a good place before all this, well as good as a depressive person with a negative outlook on life can be. For those that have been judgmental and have a disapproving tone I hope you never feel so low you don't want to carry on. I am now at the end and can't take anymore. Ozzy will be looked after I can assure you of that. Goodbye.
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Can someone make sure op is ok please this is quite worrying???
Would it be OTT to message the person who made the trace my horse post to check they haven't done anything bad

Sorry now imagining the worst ???
 
As someone who has re-schooled a lot of cobs, you have to actually like the horse to want to go through all the ups and downs of re-training.

If you don't like the horse (which is fine, not everyone will like a horse they get) then you are better to place on training/sales livery. Get him trained up a bit and sold on. Probably even make money back. It is all well and good posters saying to try but I have seen people try with horses they don't like and it ends horribly. One I knew had an amazing cob that they thought was awful, but in new home was the best cob ever with them was being (frankly) ruined.

This is the pitfall of buying without seeing as you don't get the vibe.

Then use this experience to get the horse that is right for YOU
 
meggymoo said:
Looking back, it’s obvious from the first post that you do not like/want poor Ozzie and that everyone offering help are being taken for fools. (Have schools broken up yet? Just asking.) Just sell the poor animal. But don’t try and be the hero ‘saving’ anyone else from dodgy dealers. You won’t have the mental or physical energy for it and even if you win, you won’t see a penny back. Unfortunately life is not fair.
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No they haven't but I have wondered too. In fact I'd be pretty sure if it wasn't for the sleuthing thats been done.
 
FieldOrnaments said:
Can someone make sure op is ok please this is quite worrying???
Would it be OTT to message the person who made the trace my horse post to check they haven't done anything bad

Sorry now imagining the worst ???
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I made the post one the OP had given me permission to look into the horse. I've deleted it now because I didn't want to cause the OP any more stress. ☺️☺️
 
I must be reading this so differently from the majority of people posting on here...

It appears OP has had a fright with Ozzie and is unable/unwilling to try to get past this

Until yesterday she had no knowledge of his history - which now we know and it appears she "struck lucky" doesn't mean to say it's going to eradicate overnight her anxiety surrounding him. So many people saying they have been in the same position yet nobody seems to understand that OP is still clearly in a high state of stress/adrenaline.

The pony is on full livery and having all his needs net. Of course he deserves a home where he is loved, but he is not in any immediate danger right now nor is he a "poor pony" because he currently belongs to someone who hasn't bonded with him yet.

OP I doubt you will read this but if you do, knowing what you know now I think you could have a cracker on your hands if you are able to move past this. If not I think you could sell him on easily, already you have 2 offers on here. I wouldn't pursue legal action against the dealer. Whatever you decide to do I wish you all the best and hope you can make peace with the whole ordeal & I am sure Ozzie has a bright future ahead.
 
Depression is a dark, lonely, frightening place. Sometimes it’s impossible to see a way through it, even when there are 1000 hands trying to help you. The more offers, the more options, the more overwhelming it can be. Regardless of the rights and wrongs of what has happened, I hope the OP and the horse at the centre of all of this are okay.
 
FieldOrnaments said:
Can someone make sure op is ok please this is quite worrying???
Would it be OTT to message the person who made the trace my horse post to check they haven't done anything bad

Sorry now imagining the worst ???
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I don't think that's her although, can point in right direction via another post I seen. Privately obviously

Edit to add- @wills_91 agree, but theres overwhelming support here for Jasmine including those who shared own intimate health struggles & new horse issues along with research and sensible practical advice. Based on her own posts she does not have any support in person yet, so seems like the yard are not helping either. Not letting people visit and support Jasmine, seems off. Really hope she is okay.
 
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FieldOrnaments said:
Can someone make sure op is ok please this is quite worrying???
Would it be OTT to message the person who made the trace my horse post to check they haven't done anything bad

Sorry now imagining the worst ???
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I don't know any more than anyone else on this thread, but I don't think that you need to concern yourself about that possibility x
 
Peaches24 said:
I don't think that's her although, can point in right direction via another post I seen. Privately obviously

Edit to add- @wills_91 agree, but theres overwhelming support here for Jasmine including those who shared own intimate health struggles & new horse issues along with research and sensible practical advice. Based on her own posts she does not have any support in person yet, so seems like the yard are not helping either. Not letting people visit and support Jasmine, seems off. Really hope she is okay.
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Tbh it reads to me like OP is greatful for all the advice and support that has been offered but when you are in the midst of crisis - which I genuinely believe she is - even that itself can seem overwhelming. Which those of us who have been there should understand.
 
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