Grief due to loss of horse

SO1

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I found this video on Facebook it is about people but I think this applies to me and Homey as well

 
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It has been nearly a year and I am still really sad and feel not much improved since I first lost Homey.

Yesterday YO called to say one of the ladies on the yard dog died and she cried when she heard the news as our friend loved her little dog so much although he was a senior dog he should have had a few more years left. So I messaged my friend and she told me what happened to her dog and said it was gastric like Homey. She then told me one of the grooms at the yard had to have one of her horses put to sleep on Friday. The whole thing made me feel so sad about losing Homey.

I have got a riding lesson at the RS later today and then on Tues off to Scotland for 5 days with my best friend from pony club days and the weather is looking dry for the three riding days we are doing. It is her first holiday without her daughter and as it is quite expensive and both of us are 50 and neither of us did any party it our 50th birthday treat.

She was so kind when Homey was in hospital she drove down from Cambridge and took me to the hospital for nearly a week and helped me with speaking to vets. She also said she would take him to Newmarket if he needed to go to a specialist and offered to have him stay at hers as she has horses at home. She also told me he was too old for a major operation which the vet agreed with although he had spoken to the sugeon who had also said he was too old as well.

I still haven't found the right pony but I have only seriously been looking since Feb and I know the best time to find ponies from last time is autumn. It is a journey and a hard one.

Everyone deals with grief in their own way.
I hope you don’t mind me replying SO1 but I find myself very much in the same situation as you in terms of grief still playing a very big part in my life. I lost my best friend in Jan 22 after a long battle with various issues. It was the right thing to do and I don’t regret it but I miss him so deeply. I became quite isolated as no need to go to the yard or shows anymore and quite frankly I didn’t want to. I stay in touch with horsey friends on social media but everyone has their own lives to live and are busy, and I try not to be on there for long as I find myself getting a bit jealous which isn’t a nice thing to do. I manage to keep myself very busy with work so the day/week isn’t so bad, it’s the evenings and weekends I find hard with such lovely weather and nothing to do. I’ve been trying to get into gardening and walking, I won’t say I’m any good or it’s become a hobby but it gives me enough of a workout to help me fall asleep quickly at night. Hopefully this cycle will get a bit easier with time.
 
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