9tails
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I wouldn't be surprised if she was caught doing it and was told to tell you.
On a similar note, this thread has made me question it, when it was that 30 degree weather last year I was keen to make sure Dex was drinking, especially as the auto-waterers can get quite warm, so I popped a bit of apple juice in a big double size bucket of water and offered it to him. I then offered it to all on the yard, would any of you be upset if someone did this?
ETA: I know that none have lami or metabolic issues.
I probably wouldn’t be madly keen about my horse sharing a bucket with a whole lot of other horses but I wouldn’t class it as nearly the same thing as putting a child on a horse. I don’t think you ought to worry about it to the same degree.
What is worth considering, is that if one had colicked or become laminitis through sheer coincidence or due to heat stress, and you’d given them something without the owners knowing, would you feel awkward and concerned about it?
Yes I would be as if my horse drank a lot of what you offered I would be wondering why they had drunk less of what I had offered, I dont expect anyone to interfere with my animals.I probably wouldn’t be madly keen about my horse sharing a bucket with a whole lot of other horses but I wouldn’t class it as nearly the same thing as putting a child on a horse. I don’t think you ought to worry about it to the same degree.
What is worth considering, is that if one had colicked or become laminitis through sheer coincidence or due to heat stress, and you’d given them something without the owners knowing, would you feel awkward and concerned about it?
So long as there was water available to all the horses I would not expect a fellow livery to interfere. If the water bucket had been knocked over, I would appreciate a text asking if i would like the livery to sort that out, with plain water or the fellow livery could notify the YO.fair, won't repeat it in that case - I'd be quite pleased that someone had encouraged my horse to drink on a baking hot day while I wasn't there. I didn't think twice as it's just water, the amount of apple juice in it is neglibile compared with volume of water and size of animal, but point taken.
This is the way I see it too.Sadly I think this could well be seen as you accepting the situation. You have now consented to anyone on the yard sitting on your retired horse and feeding them whatever they like...
Really think through how "I'm glad she enjoyed it " could be interpreted...
That's all you have in writing so if she falls off next time you have accepted the liability of her kid riding your horse.
Do you know all allergies these horses have?On a similar note, this thread has made me question it, when it was that 30 degree weather last year I was keen to make sure Dex was drinking, especially as the auto-waterers can get quite warm, so I popped a bit of apple juice in a big double size bucket of water and offered it to him. I then offered it to all on the yard, would any of you be upset if someone did this?
ETA: I know that none have lami or metabolic issues.
Exactly.I think the earlier analogies are useful.
If you came home from work and found someone in your garden sitting in your sun lounger or paddling their kids in your hot tub - would that be OK?
Or having a go on your kids push bike or feeding your dog sausages. Or if someone picked your dog up out of your front garden for a nice cuddle and then fed them 'treats' - is that OK (not for me)
At a livery yard you rent your stable - it's your space - not dissimilar to if you rent your house.
There is no way someone would get in an open car parked on the street - just so see home comfy the seat was or what the windscreen visibility was. And if they got caught sitting in someone's car they would be really embarrassed not justifying it that there is no harm done or it was open so presumed it was OK to help myself.
Firm but fair. That reminds me of the man who was reminiscing about his school days, and the teacher who was 'firm, but fair'. Said crisply with that British stiff upper lip.I’m not sure which way you are going but I see no need to go mental, just be firm but fair.
Which may be what you meant, I find a lot of replies on this thread are confirming my opinion about people at livery yards.
This reminds me of the time I was at a yard in Germany. One of the fellow Brits was ill so wasn’t coming up to the yard. We had ad-lib straw and I noticed that her horse’s bed was looking rather grotty so I very nearly put some fresh straw in it. I found out later that the horse had been showing signs of colic so the staff had been deliberately leaving the bed dirty so he didn’t eat it. I could have made the situation worse by trying to be kind.I probably wouldn’t be madly keen about my horse sharing a bucket with a whole lot of other horses but I wouldn’t class it as nearly the same thing as putting a child on a horse. I don’t think you ought to worry about it to the same degree.
What is worth considering, is that if one had colicked or become laminitis through sheer coincidence or due to heat stress, and you’d given them something without the owners knowing, would you feel awkward and concerned about it?
See for me this one doesn't really come down to fairness, or being reasonable etc. - those things are for when some just does something that you don't like.I’m not sure which way you are going but I see no need to go mental, just be firm but fair.
Which may be what you meant, I find a lot of replies on this thread are confirming my opinion about people at livery yards.
If I knew you and trusted your judgement and knew it was a one off, then I wouldn't be bothered.On a similar note, this thread has made me question it, when it was that 30 degree weather last year I was keen to make sure Dex was drinking, especially as the auto-waterers can get quite warm, so I popped a bit of apple juice in a big double size bucket of water and offered it to him. I then offered it to all on the yard, would any of you be upset if someone did this?
ETA: I know that none have lami or metabolic issues.
I'd have been appreciative of you offering mine the water, but I guess I know that none of mine are particularly vulnerable and water and buckets are shared in the field anyway.fair, won't repeat it in that case - I'd be quite pleased that someone had encouraged my horse to drink on a baking hot day while I wasn't there. I didn't think twice as it's just water, the amount of apple juice in it is neglibile compared with volume of water and size of animal, but point taken.
My hormones don't always allow me to filter the rude response nowThat is also my opinion.
Being extremely rude in response is a choice. One which I personally would avoid because I think I can say something strongly and clearly enough without needing to be rude about it, and not have the hassle that could bring by escalating things (I'm thinking particularly being on a livery yard). "I'm not happy that you have done X, please do not under any circumstances do X again" does the job just fine.
I wouldn't be surprised if she was caught doing it and was told to tell you.
Do you know all allergies these horses have?
Beautiful, Lady G. Don't see this level of diplomacy very often. Much needed in the world atm.I would write back, now.
Apologies for the brevity in my previous text, I needed to take the time to compose my thoughts.
As I can tell from your text that you are already aware, borrowing and feeding a horse without the owner’s permission is something that people tend to worry a great deal about, and it leaves both the horse and its owner open to risk if there is an accident or if the horse becomes unwell. It may also place you at risk, in that if something totally unexpected happens, you would be in a situation with an injured horse that you have no permission to have been handling.
I am very glad that nothing went wrong, and neither the horse nor child have been harmed, but I must ask that you don’t to put me in this uncomfortable position again.
I don’t wish to put a damper on the child’s happy experience, so let’s leave it at that but, in the future, please take it as read that my default position on liability is that my horse is not to be handled by anyone who does not have my explicit permission, clear responsibility and duty of care, and appropriate insurance.
'E was a cruel man, but fair'. Stig O'Tracey, The Piranha Brothers pt.1Firm but fair. That reminds me of the man who was reminiscing about his school days, and the teacher who was 'firm, but fair'. Said crisply with that British stiff upper lip.
"Didn't he nail your head to the floor?"
"Well, yes, but-"
A fellow livery did ask if he could use my sensible pony as the physio had recommended riding for his grandson who has cerebral palsy. I pointed out the pony had never been broken to ride. You simply do not know the history and likely behaviour of an animal you don't own. Our yard has strict rule that you do not handle or feed any other horse without the owner's written permission having been given to YM.Accepting I'm in the minority, I wouldn't have cared. Nothing happened
Me too. What a weird thing to do.I would hit the roof tbh but genuinely don’t know what I would reply.