I’ve just arranged pts

[poiuytrewq]

My beautiful boy.
Wednesday lunch time. I feel like such a complete and utter cow. However I once left it too late and the daily guilt is massive, because I do think about it almost daily years later. I can’t handle that again.
Have spoken to my lovely vet and she agrees. As some of you may know my OH really fights me on this decision (hence the above)
So tonight I need to tell him and handle the nasty WW3 that’s about to break out.
This is him this week. He imo looks wonderful

 

[ycbm]

If it's time it's time, I'm right behind you. Better a month too soon than a day too late.
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[AmyMay]

I’m so sorry you’ve had to make this heartbreaking decision. I’ll be thinking of you x

 

[EventingMum]

Just tell your OH the vet says it's time. Hugs xx

 

[SilverLinings]

OP if you and your vet think that it is the right time, then you are doing the best possible for your horse. I'm really sorry for you that your OH can't understand this, has he heard the vet's opinion? I hope he is more understanding this time than you are expecting. Well done for making such a difficult decision and putting the horse first. I hope you are OK and that you enjoy the last few days secure in the knowledge that you have put the horse's needs above your own.

 

[nagblagger]

I'm sorry you are in this situation, making such a hard decision and having to put up with OH. Do you have to tell him, just say the vet came out,, as he was ill on wednesday so the decision was made?

 

[splashgirl45]

You have given this a lot of thought and if you feel it’s right, it usually is. hope the conversation hasn’t been too difficult, at least you know that we are with you as most of us know how horrible it is to make that decision. hope all goes well on Wednesday, hugs xx

 

[Meredith]

You and your vet know it’s right.
All but one, which had equine grass sickness, of the horses I have had PTS looked really well too.
Sending you support during this difficult time.

 

[Vodkagirly]

I don't know anyone who has made the decision too early, I bet you haven't.
Be kind to yourself x

 

[Jules111]

Sending virtual hugs.

It's a rough time to have to name the day but as you know it really is the kindest thing we can do for our horses. I hope your husband recognises that a vet does not suggest PTS if there are other options that would help the pony. Having to make this choice for my girl a couple of years ago was the most difficult thing I've had to do as an owner. It was harder for me but I know in my heart it was better for her to go when not in excruciating pain which is the direction her condition was heading. Her last days were full of food she enjoyed and lots care and attention - not a moment of pain. We take on the hard stuff to give our horses the best right to the last moment. I hope you get the support you need from husband, you know you have lots of support on this forum ❤

 

[southerncomfort]

No one makes the decision lightly or without agonising over it.

Hope your OH understands and gives you support instead of more stress. X

 

[Kunoichi73]

Sorry to hear this. Just remember that you are doing the best you can for your horse.

 

[Red-1]

I love that he looks well. Best way to go, sad though it is.

 

[Honey08]

Horrible decision, but it’s good that you called it at the right time. Make the most of these few days.

 

[Bowie]

It’s never the right time for us. But we have to what’s right for them. It’s the ultimate show of our love, devotion and appreciation. Take care and I shall think of you on Wednesday. He is a beautiful boy xx

 

[SEL]

I'm so sorry. I didn't tell my OH until after I'd made the call because I knew he couldn't face the decision. It was 100% the right decision and my old boy looked fabulous on the day he went (up to his eyes in bute). Trust your gut xxx

 

[Baywonder]

I'm so sorry @poiuytrewq

Even though it is the right decision for your beloved horse, it is always such a heart breaking one to make.

<<Hugs>>

 

[wills_91]

So sorry. Such a tough decision but you know your own horse best. I'll be thinking of you both.

 

[Asha]

So sorry to read this . Making the decision is so hard . Will be thinking of you x

 

[rabatsa]

You are doing the correct thing. It is hard on you when family do not fully support the decision but remember you are doing the best for the horse.

 

[Mrs Jingle]

Really sorry, hard times indeed. The only PTs decision I really regretted was the one I left too late, to this day I cannot look at the sad pics of his last few weeks that just tell me I tried to keep him going too long for my benefit not his.

A difficult decision for you but I am sure it is the right one for your beautiful horse.

 

[Pearlsasinger]

I'm sorry, its never an easy decision but you know you are doing the right thing because the vet agrees with you. Do you have to tell OH before the day? Or could you just tell him that the vet came out to do a health check and called time?
I must say it makes me cross when people refuse to put the animal's needs first.

 

[Peregrine Falcon]

You've made the call which is hard to make so it's the right time. Will be thinking of you.

 

[meleeka]

Whose horse is it? If your vet agrees, it’s the right decision. As long as your horse gets the dignified end he deserves, it’s never the wrong call.

 

[OldNag]

I am so sorry.
The hardest decision, and made so much worse when others question it.
You know what is best, and you will have made the right decision x

 

[Hepsibah]

It's a miserable thing to have to do, making that choice and that call but so selfless. Don't let your OH make you feel guilty. When you know, you know. xxx

 

[pinkfluffy]

So sorry, will be thinking of you on Wednesday. He's a beautiful boy xx

 

[Cragrat]

I'm so sorry you fear you won't get the support you need from your OH.

You know your horse, AND your vet agrees.

I don't know your horse, but I know that no-one who loves their horse, as you clearly do, makes that decision with anything other than the horses' best interests at heart.

Thinking of you

 

[View]

Oh so sorry. You know you have made the right decision and I hope you OH will realise this and support you.

It hurts us so much because we love them - but because we love them we let them go peacefully.

 

[Trouper]

It's bad enough having to make this decision without having to face opposition too. I am so sorry for you but in total admiration of your bravery to do what you know is right and best for your horse.

Sometimes others have to be reminded that it is the welfare of the horse that is paramount - not their feelings.