HorseyTee
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I'm very sorry, will be thinking of you.
I’ve just arranged pts
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Ceriann
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You are being incredibly brave and putting your horse’s needs first - there will be no such thing as the perfect time but there is a right time and that’s what you are managing. He is very lucky to have you and you are making sure his last days are happy and spoiled.
twofatladies88
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So sorry - it’s the hardest decision in the world x
Nicnac
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Thinking of you for tomorrow @poiuytrewq
ozpoz
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So sorry, the last few days are horrible for you but keeping him spoiled, lots of treats and favourite things make it easier. Thinking of you xx
cauda equina
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Sending best wishes poiuytrewq xxx
SEL
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You're very strong putting everyone else in the family first. I don't think any of us make that call to the vet unless we know it's the right time. It's lovely weather this week so hopefully he'll be feeling spring is in the air xx
PinkvSantaboots
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I'm so sorry I will be thinking of you today xx
ycbm
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Thinking of you today. It's the bravest, kindest thing you are doing.
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mustardsmum
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Thinking of you today @poiuytrewq. Xx
Trouper
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Thinking of you.
FinnishLapphund
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He looks so beautiful, and I hope both of you have had some lovely last days together.
Hope everything goes as smoothly as possible today. {{{{{{Hugs}}}}}}
Hope everything goes as smoothly as possible today. {{{{{{Hugs}}}}}}
poiuytrewq
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It’s not today. It got postponed to Monday. He’s ok as In not suffering. He’s on lots of drugs.
Not so much fun dragging it out but he can’t be buried this week and OH needed a bit of time to sort things.
Also my daughter wanted the chance to spend a bit of time with him and say goodbye. She’s home from Uni on Friday.
The vets coming Monday morning
Not so much fun dragging it out but he can’t be buried this week and OH needed a bit of time to sort things.
Also my daughter wanted the chance to spend a bit of time with him and say goodbye. She’s home from Uni on Friday.
The vets coming Monday morning
southerncomfort
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Thinking of you anyway P. It's a cr***y time for you. The waiting must be horrendous. X
poiuytrewq
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The waiting and the little comments to the dogs “watch out she’ll be killing you next too”
He’s such an arse.
AandK
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That's awful of your OH, at such a tough time already... I hope your horses last few days are comfortable, thinking of you.
ITPersonnage
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He is indeed an arse, so unnecessary you poor brave thing.
FinnishLapphund
There's no cow on the ice
It’s not today. It got postponed to Monday. He’s ok as In not suffering. He’s on lots of drugs.
Not so much fun dragging it out but he can’t be buried this week and OH needed a bit of time to sort things.
Also my daughter wanted the chance to spend a bit of time with him and say goodbye. She’s home from Uni on Friday.
The vets coming Monday morning
I'm sorry for you that it got postponed. Knowing the day it's going to happen, consciously or unconsciously counting down the days, maybe worrying about him going downhill, it's not easy.
At the same time, it's nice that the drugs are helping him so that your daughter can come, and say goodbye to him. It's nice that she cares so much that she wants to come to say goodbye.
As for your OH, in your shoes I would tell him it's not the dogs that should be worried about who is next on my list. And that wouldn't 100% be me joking.
Your OH seems to have deep going problems with how to handle death. He maybe wants to bury his head in the sand until the animal is definitely on death's doorstep/suffering, but it sounds as if you need to keep asking him how the heck that is supposed to work out in reality, until he stops saying such hurtful things. Is it him who would have to carry the sick dog into the veterinarian that last time? Besides, you can carry a dog (if it's big you just need more persons), but a horse?
Let's say you waited until your horse is too weak to leave his stable, would your OH be able to e.g. demolish the front of the stable to get your dead horse out of it?
What if you wait until one day your horse can't get up from falling down in the most farthest away, or most awkward, unreachable corner of his field, is that supposed to be some rose-tinted, dignified end?
In one way it sounds as if it would be so nice if our beloved pets always went from one day being happy, but old, and then dying peacefully in their sleep without us owners having to make the difficult decision. But on the other hand, it would probably just lead to some owners being afraid to go to sleep, because they're unconsciously worried about waking up to find their pet dead.
I'm so sorry that you have to go through this with the extra burden your OH is putting on you.
ETA I hope I didn't hurt anyone's feelings with what I said above. Accidents happens, and sometimes maybe that sadly leads to a horse dying in a stable or far away field, and there's nothing the poor owner could've done about it.
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clairebearfur1
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Its such a tough thing to go through .
Surbie
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The waiting and the little comments to the dogs “watch out she’ll be killing you next too”
He’s such an arse.
Thinking of you - I am happy for you that your horse is on enough drugs to manage things, and (at least here) it's beautifully sunny and springlike, so glorious to be outside.
And yes, your OH sounds like he is being properly and needlessly sh*tty.
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Gallop_Away
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I don't know the background of this I'm afraid but I just wanted to say I will be thinking of you on Monday.
Pts is never an easy decision but if you and your vet feel it's time, then I've no doubt it's the right decision.
I'm sorry your OH isn't being more supportive and his behaviour is completely unnecessary during an already difficult time.
The waiting is the worst but keep in mind your boy knows nothing. It's an awful burden we bare as owners, but our horses know nothing of it. He is so lucky to have an owner willing to stand up for what is best for him.
Sending lots of love and you will both be in my thoughts
Pts is never an easy decision but if you and your vet feel it's time, then I've no doubt it's the right decision.
I'm sorry your OH isn't being more supportive and his behaviour is completely unnecessary during an already difficult time.
The waiting is the worst but keep in mind your boy knows nothing. It's an awful burden we bare as owners, but our horses know nothing of it. He is so lucky to have an owner willing to stand up for what is best for him.
Sending lots of love and you will both be in my thoughts
Baywonder
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This must be so, so tough for you @poiuytrewq 
Making a decision like this is the one all pet owners dread, even though it is the right one to make. We are all behind you 100% - after all, most of us have had to do this at some point.
As for your OH, he should be helping and supporting you through this tough time - not throwing in little snippy nasty comments whenever he feels like it. Does he not realise how hurtful and damaging his comments are?
Although the dreaded deed has been postponed, at least your boy is comfortable.
Sending you lots of strength and hugs. X
Making a decision like this is the one all pet owners dread, even though it is the right one to make. We are all behind you 100% - after all, most of us have had to do this at some point.
As for your OH, he should be helping and supporting you through this tough time - not throwing in little snippy nasty comments whenever he feels like it. Does he not realise how hurtful and damaging his comments are?
Although the dreaded deed has been postponed, at least your boy is comfortable.
Sending you lots of strength and hugs. X
poiuytrewq
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He realises. He’s trying to make me feel bad enough that I cancel. We’ve been here before.
On the day and after he will be great, it’s just the before and this is the first one in a hood while that’s been pre planned.
On the day and after he will be great, it’s just the before and this is the first one in a hood while that’s been pre planned.
Highmileagecob
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You are very brave, and you are allowing your lovely horse to leave with dignity.
poiuytrewq
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I’m feeling so horrific. I keep questioning myself and all week I’ve been thinking this is the last Tuesday, Wednesday etc
Tonight I fed him and realised tomorrow night is the last time I give him dinner at night, the last time I need to soak hay.
He looks so good, he’s happy. He towed me in tonight, he’s stopped coughing and Is sound.
He’s on 3 bute and 100 steroids to give him a fab last week. I know that but it’s killing me killing him
Tonight I fed him and realised tomorrow night is the last time I give him dinner at night, the last time I need to soak hay.
He looks so good, he’s happy. He towed me in tonight, he’s stopped coughing and Is sound.
He’s on 3 bute and 100 steroids to give him a fab last week. I know that but it’s killing me killing him
Carrottom
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Stay strong, you know you are doing right for your horse. It is a horrible time, but it is the kindest thing that we can do for our animals. I hope you feel the relief alongside your grief.
babymare
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My darling this is the worst time. Those couple of days befor. But you are doing the right thing. You are not killing him you are giving him peace. Please my dear take killing out of your thoughts. Time to let him rest xxI’m feeling so horrific. I keep questioning myself and all week I’ve been thinking this is the last Tuesday, Wednesday etc
Tonight I fed him and realised tomorrow night is the last time I give him dinner at night, the last time I need to soak hay.
He looks so good, he’s happy. He towed me in tonight, he’s stopped coughing and Is sound.
He’s on 3 bute and 100 steroids to give him a fab last week. I know that but it’s killing me killing him
MereChristmas
riding reluctantly into the sunset
This is the worst time @poiuytrewq. I have done this a few times in the last 50 years. It is the kindest thing you can do and you of course know it. However that doesn’t make these days any easier.
You are giving peace and pain free rest to him.
We are all holding your hand.
You are giving peace and pain free rest to him.
We are all holding your hand.
SEL
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**Hugs**I’m feeling so horrific. I keep questioning myself and all week I’ve been thinking this is the last Tuesday, Wednesday etc
Tonight I fed him and realised tomorrow night is the last time I give him dinner at night, the last time I need to soak hay.
He looks so good, he’s happy. He towed me in tonight, he’s stopped coughing and Is sound.
He’s on 3 bute and 100 steroids to give him a fab last week. I know that but it’s killing me killing him
I too loaded mine up with Bute. I've got tears in my eyes reading your post because I felt the same. I knew it was the right time but he looked incredible.
Never, ever easy xx
poiuytrewq
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I just wish someone else could come here and say it’s right